What should I do?
By sunny1984
@sunny1984 (639)
India
March 5, 2007 4:28am CST
I have a problem that I need solved. I meet this girl and we became tight friends real quick. I started tutoring her in physics for a month. As I spend more and more time with her I feel I want her more and more. I mean that I have very strong desires for her. I told her about my feelings for her but she told me that she doesn't want to lose a friendship over a relationship. This problem has been troubling me for more than a month. I try to keep my feelings inside but it just hurst me more not being able to go out with her. She doesn't have a man so that is not a problem. She also thinks highly of me. I feel this it tearing our freindship apart. What should I do?
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5 responses
@panicqueen (175)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
i knows it hurts so bad to be ignored by someone you really love or to be turned down because of friendship. the best thing that you can do about it is become a gentleman and simply accept her decision and at the same time, give her enough space and time for her to know you better. like you said, you've just recently met, so maybe she's just having second thoughts about you or maybe, she is still getting to know you through your friendship. just give her time and maybe time will work your way with her. patience is a virtue.
@michelledarcy (5220)
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5 Mar 07
I think you need to respect her feelings and just stay friends. It might be difficult but if you rush into something with her and she isn't ready, she is right you will lose the friendship that you have.
Just try to be a good friend and when she is ready she will come to you.
@nancyrowina (3850)
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5 Mar 07
Don't push it as you may loose the friendship if you make her feel uncomfortable, but try gently talking about it again with her to see if her feelings have changed and let her know yours are still same. Has she just come out of a relationship or been hurt in the past? These can all be factors to consider perhaps just being her friend and supporting her for a while will help you to gain her trust.
@Mollyjo (266)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Be honest with her talk to her again and see why she really doesn't feel this way. It could be that she really doesn't see you the same as you see her. If it continues to tear you apart you may have to stop helping her. Love is such a mystery and yet she may feel the same way but is afraid to tell you.
