This is just so sad .. I broke my heart when I read it ,xxxx
By weemam
@weemam (13372)
March 5, 2007 2:34pm CST
When an elderly lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near
Dundee, Scotland, it was felt that she had nothing left of any value.
Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they
found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that
copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One
nurse took her copy to Ireland. The lady's sole bequest to posterity
has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the
North Ireland Association for Mental Health.
A slide presentation has
also been made based on her simple, but eloquent, poem.
And this little old Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the
world, is now the author of this "anonymous" poem
... winging across the Internet.
Goes to show that we all leave "some footprints in time."
What do you see, nurses,
what do you see?|
What are you thinking
when you're looking at me?
A crabby old woman,
not very wise,
Uncertain of habit,
with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles her food
and makes no reply
When you say in a loud voice,
"I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice
the things that you do,
And forever is losing a
stocking or shoe.....
Who, resisting or not,
lets you do as you will,
With bathing and
feeding, the long day to fill....
Is that what you're thinking?
Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse:
you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am
as I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding,
as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten ...
with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters,
who love one another.
A young girl of sixteen,
with wings on her feet,
Dreaming that soon now
a lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at twenty --
my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows
that I promised to keep.
At twenty-five now,
I have young of my own,
Who need me to guide, and a
secure happy home.
A woman of thirty,
my young now grown fast,
Bound to each other with
ties that should last.
At forty, my young sons
have grown and are gone,
But my husband's beside me
to see I don't mourn.
At fifty once more,
babies play round my knee,
Again we know children,
my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me,
my husband is dead;
I look at the future, I
shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing
young of their own,
And I think of the years
and the love that I've known.
I'm now an old woman ...
and nature is cruel;
'Tis jest to make old age
look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles,
grace and vigor depart,
There is now a stone
where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass
a young girl still dwells,
And now and again
my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys,
I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living
life over again.
I think of the years .....
all too few, gone too fast,
And accept the stark fact
that nothing can last.
So open your eyes,
nurses, open and see,
Not a crabby old woman;
look closer ... see ME!!
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50 responses
@honeyangel (1991)
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5 Mar 07
that was amazing thanx for posting it but true
some nurses cant be botherd with old people
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
5 Mar 07
That is an absolutely beautiful poem. And it seems to be so true nowadays that our elderly are getting overlooked in that manner. We should ALL (not just nurses) take this to heart and learn to cherish these wonderful people. We never know when we could lose them. Thanks so much for posting this.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 07
Wow what a heart-rendering lovely poem, it really grabs you by the heart strings and makes you think, this is what we have to look forward to, and you wonder whether one day you'll be that poor elderly lady or man. Thank you for sharing x
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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5 Mar 07
Oh wow that is beautiful, thank you for posting here,
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@jend80 (2071)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 07
according to wikipedia that story is an urban legend and the poem was actually written by a worker rather than an neglegeted old lady and it dates from the 60's/70's
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crabbit_Old_Woman
@vipsue (18)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
Jend80: Whether this is a legend or written by a worker it makes us stop and think about our elderly. We will all be there someday and some of us won't live that long so we should live life to the fullest and spend some time with those we care about. My mom is in her 70's and is one of the greatest ladies I have ever known. She is kind and always helping people in need. She has surely left her heartprints on many lives!
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@paule4129 (968)
• United States
5 Mar 07
that was really moving and people should take the time to remember we all have lives and need respect even when we get older and wiser im not lookin forward to gettin older and all ready see alot of disrespect from younger people and know ther was a time when i could woop them into shape ,i was raised by my elders and learned much and dearly miss them now,iknow they lookin out for me and hope i have respect and family around in the end thank you for sharing this poem
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
6 Mar 07
This is such a beautiful poem wee, and I'm glad you shared it with us. I think we have a lot to learn from this poem. Very often we are judgemental and never care to look beyond what we see. A person is sometimes more than what meets the eye. I can only imagine what the nurses would have felt after reading this poem. Truly touching.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
5 Mar 07
How touching and true. I am going to copy it and take it to the nursing home where I volunteer. I know a few old ladies there who will think it's their life story.
Thank you Weemam for sharing it.
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@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
5 Mar 07
Oh how lovely I had to read all of this discussion it is so true to this poor old lady and it is so sad that when we get old and people look at us so differently and cannot understand who we really are or what is on our minds so thank you so much for a wonderful story of this old lady she should of been treated with more respect but that is the problem with the younger generation today. Thank you very much I felt this deep down in my heart.
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@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
6 Mar 07
That is beautiful. Thanks for the good cry. Made me think of my grandmother who meant the world to me.
I remember watching her lose her memory and forget who I was after her stroke. I knew all along she was still inside and I didn't know how to get her out. She too grew cold and cranky but I could see in her eyes her found rememberance of her past.
I sit here crying as I remember her and miss her all the more. Thank you again for posting this.
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@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
6 Mar 07
My mother in law has alzheimers too. I am watching a her sliding down that slippery slope.
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
I studied this in my English Class in my last year of High School. Our teacher read it out to us and when he'd finished, there wasn't a girl in the class who had a dry eye.
I'm not sure how many of you know this, but there is in fact, a reply to it written by one of the nurses who found the poem. I'll post it here for you.
What do we see, you ask, what do we see ?
Yes, we are thinking when looking at thee!
We may seem to be hard when we hurry and fuss,
But there's many of you and too few of us.
We would like far more time to sit by you and talk,
To bath you and feed you and help you to walk,
To hear of your lives and the things you have done;
Your childhood, your husband, your daughter, your son,
But time is against us, there's too much to do,
Patients too many and nurses too few.
We grieve when we see you so sad and alone,
With nobody near you, no friends of your own.
We feel all your pain, and know of your fear
That nobody cares now your end is so near.
But nurses are people with feelings as well,
And when we're together, you'll often hear tell
Of the dearest old Gran in the very end bed,
And the lovely old Dad, and the things that he said,
We speak with compassion and love, and feel sad
When we think of yours and the joy that you've had.
When the time has arrived for you to depart,
You leave us behind with an ache in our heart.
When you sleep the long sleep, no more worry or care,
There are other old people, and we must be there.
So please understand if we hurry and fuss
There are many of you and too few of us.
I think the reply made me cry more than the actual poem written by the old lady lol.
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@cybergwen (158)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Thanks so much for passing that on! It brought tears to my eyes.
I used to wonder what my grandmother was thinking when she couldn't speak anymore due to a stroke, now I know!
@mfrancq (1806)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Wow, that poem is increadible. It shows how people really take advantage of a person and don't realize what they have gone through in life. I absolutely love older people, they have so many wonderful things to share about their life. The way things used to be, so simple. This poem will help others remember to treat people well. Thanks for sharing it!
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@kpbhuvana (392)
• India
6 Mar 07
thats a great one. I like reading poem and writing too. Its really good. This poem have a life in it. The life of a old lady who want to show herself but couldnt do anything because of her old age. This really sketches the life story what every old one think in their mind when they are not able to do anything on their own.
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@jeb083079 (839)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
This certainly is a wonderful and a very touching poem not just for nurses but for everybody. I'm going to email this on my friends. It reminds us how life really it is and how life will be felt when we are old already.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
6 Mar 07
To see the world through that woman's eyes should be a lesson to us all. I once worked at an extended care facility which is above a nursing home but below a hospital. I used to talk to the caregivers about these people. Caring for the elderly takes special people who understand that what the see on the surface in these patients is not the whole person. Many times these patients are unhappy and combative. They strike out at whoever is near. Others are happy to relate the history of their lives to anyone who will listen. We should all listen.
@pearl23 (243)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I have spent several years working ,in a Nursing Home This woman is a credit to her generation and and eye opener to working nurses in geriatics. I enjoyed reading her poem. I thought it was stunning. Do you know her name?