Do you let your partner read your email?

Philippines
March 6, 2007 6:41am CST
Is it right that your partner reads your email? Should he/she have access to your emails? What are your thoughts about this?
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22 responses
• Australia
19 Apr 07
I let my partner read my email. He knows my password and my account, even my bank account.No problem with that
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
this is interesting. almost all if not all the women who responded will let their partner read their email and would even give their password. while men would not let their partner read his email for privacy reasons.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
22 May 07
if its too personal then i wont let him read it, but if its just a common mail then he can read it.
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
4 May 07
I dont mind my partner going through my emails. Infact sometimes when i am just too tired i ask him to check my mails and let me know if there is something which demands immediate action from my end.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
There is actually no generalized answer in this. I mean, having an access to his/her partner's email is something consentual. One would say both should respect each other's privacy and own personal space while another would say there's really nothing wrong with reading each other's email. Personally speaking, me and my boyfriend knows each other's passwords and checks our mail once in a while, were not taking this issue a big deal.
@im_anna (717)
• Philippines
4 May 07
he's not interested though he knows it's password
• United States
22 May 07
Well I personaly do not think it's right to read your partners email. I believe that they are entitiled to having privacy and what not. IF someone cant trust there partner and have to read emailes then they shouldnt be together. But in my relationship my boyfriend knows all my passwords and i know his. When were out of town and have no access to a computer we will check each others messages but then we have permission to do so.
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
well for me it is a question of trust and honesty. it is your choice if you want your partner knows every details of you and your life and relationship to others. if you are really close and have trust for each other then why not allow him/her reading your mails. but if you want a little privacy then do not.it's up to you.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 Apr 07
He has never asked to read my emails, but i have all the passwords saved in the computer so if he wanted to he could and i wouldnt mind. I have nothing to hide from him. I do not think he would ever read, he trust me and wants me to have my privacy as well as I want him to have his.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
19 Apr 07
No, I guess it comes down to the trust factor. I believe if there is something she would like me to read she will invite me to do so. She don't look into my e-mail, so I have to give her the same respect, but I would be lying if I said the thought didn't cross my mind:-)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
he knows my username and my password but he doesn't read my mails. he is not interested with the hundred of mails i am receiving everyday. he finds it boring. it is okay with me if he will read my mails because i don't keep anything from him.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
yeah why not and yes i allowed my partners to access my emails or any of my accounts, he even knew my passwords in all of them. it's ok to let your partner have access in it because if you dont allower him/her, he will think youre hiding something from him/her, not unless it is true that youre hiding something. trust him/her in your emails so he/she can trust you back. but for some, ummnnnnnn mostly men wants privacy and thats what they reason out. and sometimes we should also give due respect to that right?
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
yes i do let him read my email...after all we dont have secrets to hide from each other...
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I think its really not a big deal for me if my husband is reading my e-mail because if i really have nothing to hide, i will not reacy when he reads my e-mail. But when i have to hide something from my e-mail, that's the time i will worry or be angry when he access my email.
@laila675 (528)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Apr 07
As for me, i guess it's right or it's fine. For as long your partner will not think of a negative thing such jealousy or something. It only shows that you have nothing to hide with each other, know what i mean. I dont think it's a big deal if your partner have the access of your emails, IF there is UNDERSTANDING & TRUST with each other.
• Canada
11 Apr 07
My husband has all my passwords to anything I do on the computer including my mail and I have his passwords . I have nothing to hide from him and really don't mind him going in to look as he probably has the same emails in his mail as most of the people that email us , email it to each of us . I believe that trust is a big deal in a marriage and there really should be nothing to hide in your mail if you are not doing anything so therefore there would be no reason not to allow him to read what I have in there :)
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
6 Mar 07
Yes, i do. Once you get married, you are straight, nothing else...so why hide something. I am a very open person and would love to share everything so at least there is no doubt between the two of us.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 Apr 07
We have access to each others mail, but we don't usually go around reading it. I think it depends on what is agreed between the couple. SOme people see it as privacy invasion even if they don't have anything to hide, others don't see it as anything special. So the idea should be to discuss it and agree in which way they want to do it. I never read my husband's mail for over 14 years of marriage. Due to some recent problems we agreed a few years back that we should be able to access each others email if we wanted. WE don't really do it, but it's fine to know that we can.
• Romania
6 Mar 07
yes she haves access at my emails, why not?
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Yes, I don't have any problem about letting my ex read my emails. I have nothing that I should hide from him so why the secrecy? But my ex do respect my privacy so I'm sure he never opened any of my emails anyway. You see, if your partner knows he/she can trust you and that you are giving him/her reasons to trust you, they will. Giving my password to my ex made him trust me, even if we both know he wouldn't open my mails.
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Yes I think my partner reads my email thats why I have to watch what I say. He is a bit on the jealous side.