childbirth

Childbirth will hurt if your parents are there or not. It is up to you if you want someone to come to help you once your home. In the hospital they will just be moral support.

Labor/delivery is painfull but zillions of ladies do it every year. I have done so 4 times. It is only has painful as you are stressed. I have had my parents at the hospital but it made no difference to me. My whole family was there during one and I still gave birth alone with 5 nurses. It is up to you. I think if you trust your husband 100% then you will be ok with just him. Just remember to breathe. Never tighten up and brethe through your nose and out your mouth. If you believe you can deliver without much pain, it can happen. Don't dwell on the pain just the breathing slowing in and out. Good luck!

I believe that it is really a decision for you and your husband to make. I think that if you initially wanted to invite a parent then maybe that is the best choice for you. You made a decision once before someone else butted in and told you what you should do. Now you are confused. Just go with your husband and your feelings on this. Not that of someone else. Childbirth is different for every person. Some people want to share it with family and some people don't.

You can do it alone, but the having family memebers around can make it easier and less stressful...sometimes. But sometimes parents can nag and pick and make the situation more difficult. Talk to your parents, your mother in particular, and see what she thinks about it all.

yes,child birth is very painful.But us women are tough.But i would invite some of your family for support.

i suggest you deliver in US... the infant mortality rate in India is pretty high... US has got better childbirth facilities...

Well i don´t have any child yet... But if i was in your situation i would do whatever i think it was better... I would do whatever i think i was for the best. You both should talk and make that decision for yourselves and not for the others. I have many friends that have a hard life and never could back on anyone... Still they have children... Why can you? Hard is to know that we all gonna leave them someday...

dear j, childbirth is rightfully and best handled by the medics. but it is the post natal care and the practical experience of elders which can be of tremendous help. will take yoou a while after the delivery to readjust your lifestyle and time to accomodate the new born. it is there that additinal help can be of great use. one can harly quantify this - but trust me, not having help can be a trying experience. all the best. wish you and the child to come good health.

My daughter had her baby at home, with a qualified midwife. We were all there with her, as well as her husband. It was a wonderful and magical experience for all of us. It was definitely an intensely bonding experience between her and her husband, as this was their first baby, also. I think the husband should be there no matter what, he should experience everything his wife is going through, and be next to her the whole time. The other family members are there, which is also wonderful for them, but the most important I feel is that the husband is there. If parents are there, they need to understand to not interfere too much with the whole birthing process, as it's the husband's place to be one hundred percent involved, along with the doctor, or midwife. It can be painful, however, if you take action early on, you may be able to cut down on the pain somewhat, by walking every day, taking birthing classes and excercising in certain ways to strengthen the muscles you need to get through the birthing process. I wish you luck and happiness with your new baby.

When I had my first child I wanted only my husband with me. There was no need for anybody else. However, My mother wanted to be there to see her grandchild born, and I really didn't have the heart to say no. I can't say she was a big help, but when things got bad, she held my hand the way she did when I was little and it was comforting. My second baby came so fast that it was just me and my husband and the hospital staff. I think I liked it better that way, but then it could just be that I liked the faster delivery. If you want your Mom then by all means try to get her, but it really is beautiful to have just your husband.

hi j, best of luck...its painful but totally worth it...if u r in third trimester then it wont be possible for u to got to india now...but surely call somebody from there whom u feel comfortable with...normally mothers are the best help u would ever want...u can be near ur hubby n feel fantastic connection with him n ur newborn even with ur parents around..emotional n physical rest both are important for u after the baby is born...so she will help u gain back ur strength so that u can take care of the baby alone...

I think it is better to invite someone from india, because you need someone to take care of you. Someone from ur family wil be there to assist you

You should invite your parents because they'd love to see their grandchild! It would also be easy for you if at least one of you parents is there especially the mother because you can ask advises from her since she has given birth before.

Why are you delivering in US in a first place? Secondly why would you want to invite anyone? It's a very private thing. I appreciated a lot that it was something belonging only to my hubby and me. I think that made the bond special. I would never invite anyone else for a childbirth. Or did I missunderstand? I delivered in Bangalore and it was the most wonderful experience I had in India. I am originaly european but my hubby is indian. Hope everything goes well for you. Wishing you a happy pregnancy and a healthy baby.

the only one who was with me was my husband! i didn't want anybody else around. but it is up to you! if you feel better with more people just invite them! but if you want to be with just your husband that's ok too. childbirth is painfull, no matter how many people there are for you, you are the one who's delivering your baby! for me i felt better alone, but other woman needs support from family! so choose what's best for you!

I really think this is a matter of personal choice. I gave birth with just my partner there and I wouldn't have had it any other way. The midwives who delivered me were wonderful at letting me do my own thing and being there to offer help or suggestions when we needed them. The labor itself was very peaceful and I'm grateful for that. I don't know if I could have done the same with my parents there.

First of all, my congratulations and good luck! If you are talking about growing the child up, I think if I lived absolutely alone in a far-away country I would love my parents or at least my Mom to be near me. We live together with my husband, my parents and our little son now and all I can say that we are happy together, and I don't think living together made our relationships worse. I still love and respect each other. I will tell you more - living all together makes ALL of us be more tolerant to each other. I say nothing about the help your or your husband's family could bring to you, especially in the beginning.

as base in my personal experience,having a child is not easy it is very painful and risky,its nice feeling when your parents is their when you get delivered.being parent you have to be matured and responsible to your children.parental guidance is very important for both of you guys, bcoz your starting a new family,listen to your parents advice it can help you alot and get other idea with your friends and relatives. god bless and gud luck

My husband was at the delivery of our second child, the first time he was in Iraq so my mom was there for that one. I had my husband, mom, and daughter in the room the 2nd time. Even with my mom there the second time my husband and I had a great moment together. Child birth is painful but there is pain relief offered. I took the epidural. Do what makes you comortable...for me there was so much going on that it did not matter who was in there or not.

Hi, I have three kids and all delivered with my husband alone. It is painful. And painful is lightly said. I would never ever ask somebody else there. This is private.