I have a probmel i would like to share !

i can relate to this. =) i have a crush whose 4 years younger than me and i think thats not bad at all. we seemed to know that i like him. love i think is not present at the moment. so now i cant see any deferences to not to be together as partners. i mean just have fun. do not force yourself to love each other right away.

if you're not so sure about how you feel then just ask for sometime to think things out before you commit. Have you ever thought that maybe you are scared of committing yourself to her and that is why you keep questioning the way you feel for her and justifying it with your criticisms? I mean you liked her despite her body imperfections so I can't really say that what you are after is lust. But then again, maybe despite her imperfect body she is real good in bed. LOL. Seriously, when you are trying to decide if you want to have more from the relationship but all you can think about is the person's imperfections then I personally feel that you have some issues to resolve first before deciding.

ok, if ure not sure of your feelings then go tell her. i think you dont really love her as in LOVE her. coz if u do really love her, u wont be having this problem. right? i mean, granted, u care for her, right? caring n loving does not always mean the same...theyre totally differnt..and if you really love a person,regardless of what he/she looks like, you still love her..

Have you tried to talk it out with her? Maybe between the two of you there will be a solution. If you tell her how you feel she may back off a bit and give you a chance to decide if it is love or not. If you are just being super critical there isnt much that can be said. You might find problems with anyone you ever meet. No one is perfect.

I think that you should talk to her, letting her know what your feeling. To make things work communication is important. Now, the Love thing. As I read what you have written this doesn't sound like love. Her age seems to be on your mind. When your in love everything is so right, The way you look at them no matter what shape they have doesn't matter. The little things that irritate could be your way of knowing this doesn't feel right. When you second guess a relationship then there is work to be done. You either want to work with it, or you think there could be that perfect person out there for you. You say you really like her but, can you see yourself growing old with her? Love can be a truly wonderful thing. Even when your apart you shouldn't have doubts. Talk to her if you truly want to have a realationship with her.

You said that you like her so just spend more time with her and have fun...I believe that you're not sure if you love her or not well...if you love her you don't mind about her physical outlook nor her age, her presence is so precious to you, you can't sleep at night thinking what to give her or where to ask her out...but sometimes you fall out of love if your dream in a girl changes..so just do what you think that made you happy..dating doesn't mean that have to love her...dating is the way of getting to know each other from there you will know if she's really the one you are looking for..

I think that you should speak about it about advantage with her ! good luck, I am of any heart with you .

It is not very easy to decide wheter what you feel for her really is love or is merely lust. But from whatever you have shared here, I think you look more like loving her rather than just having an attraction or lust. I made this conclusion because you seem to be too much caring about her. Secondly, even by knowing to the fact that her body is not very impressive, you still feel like loving her when she is with you. This happens in love, its my personal experience. But you should think a lot about this and take up a decision on your own. we, others can just suggest!

Honestly, I find this to be a bit of a strange situation. If you're not sure of your feelings for her, then it would point to you not being in love with her, and I do feel that you should discuss this with her to see what she feels. It might be that you resolve this and that it develops into a loving relationship, or it might be that you decide it's better for you to call it all off and split up. It's only fair that you discuss this with her though. Don't leave her believing that everything is fine if it isn't.

well dear,age doesnt matter in love.Just try to ask from your heart do you really love her or it is somethingh else,accept whatever will be the answer.If you think you trully love her then dont waste time and tell her as soon as possible.One more think if you love her from the core of your heart then dont have any negative thinking about her.go ahead my best wishesh are with you.

it is a strange situation, if you are note sure about your feelings i think you should speak with her about this. I don't know a way to understand if your feelings are true or not, this thing can be known only by you

My husband is 8 years younger than I am. Are you sure that she is looking for something serious? Just because she is older doesn't mean that she may want someone to settle down with and have a family. I wasn't looking for that, it just happened. And it was something that both of us wanted. I am sure that if something serious is not what you want..then you can tell her that.

the way you wrote, it doenst seem to be love at all. And the way you wrote seem that you know it already but confused somehow becoz you dont have anyone else and you dont want to be empty handed after losing this one too. I would say dont spoil her if you dont love her. What if she loves you?

2day daily life nobody is thinking abut the age if they like eachother so they can leave they r not thinking abut the age and something.. so be happy and make happy her.

If she's looking for a very serious relationship and you think you're not...you're not even sure on your feelings yet then I think you guys should talk. Tell her than you do enjoy her company but you're not ready to commit yourself yet. I think she will understand your honesty. It is better than trying to make her believe that your relationship with her would lead up to something more serious. Goodluck!

If you have to ask us, then you are not in love with her. If you don't feel it all the time, you are not in love with her. i'm sorry, i know that isn't what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth. You probably have a great time with her and have feelings for her and all that wonderful stuff, but it is not love, and i am really dorry to have to tell you that.

Hi Red, how old are you? If you were truly in love with her, those doubts would not be there when you are away from her. You would know for sure. I am double that age span over my boyfriend and I know my body is not taut like the girls' his age, but he still finds me sexy and he calls me that when we interact. If you are criticizing her body or finding fault with her physically, sweetie, you are not in love. If you know that she wants a more permanent relationship and you are not ready for that or you don't want that with her, be honest and let her know. Either she will end things or decide to stay with you until you guys have had enough of each other. Just man up and talk to the woman.

Love develops and grows. Give yourself and her some more time to know for yourself if it is really love. Loving a person is loving her inside and out. How do you feel about yourself when you are with her? You have to know if being with her makes you a better person. Like for me when I'm with my man I feel like I can do anything because this guy makes me feel like I am wonder woman.

you better talk to her about your feelings once and for all.its unfair to her when you keep seeing her if you didnt sure about your feelings.most girls thought that when you ask her a date you have feeling for her.so you have to make all things clear first with yourself,you better spend some time realising yourself what do you feel about her and when you`re sure about it you must talk to her. dont keep her assumed that the feeling is mutual because it may lead her to much deeper pain.be honest to your self,and to her.

DOnt talk to her or meet her for few days and see how u feel. If you are as normal as before, then forget her. But if you miss talking to her and felt like meeting her and if she was on ur min, then BOY, you are in LOVE with ths girl. And do let me know what happens for sure, I would be more than glad to help you out with any problems. my email address is rok_rohan@yahoo.com Take care buddy. Kind Regards, Rohan