I was never able to have children. I am very sad. Please advise me.

United States
March 7, 2007 2:57pm CST
There is something wrong with my uterus and I am unable to have children. It seems I was born with this defect. I cry when I see other people so happy with their families. There is nothing I wanted more than a big family. What do you think would help me to be happier? The tears fall out of my eyes even if I do not want to cry.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
You can still have little ones if you want to adopt. So many children need good loving parents! You could still have a big family!!
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@mbizmom (237)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I'm so sorry for you. You can still have a family even if you can't carry a child though. Look into other options such as adopting, surrogate mothers, etc. There are many children already out there that need as much love as you need to give.
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@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
8 Mar 07
ok, this is some to do with your other discussion, i hope that the fact of you not having your own kids will not affect your dicission on taking your hubbie back. to care for this wonderful child. if it does, i hope that you can love this child with all your heart and not think of where he or she comes from. you must be a wonderful person and there are many ways to have a child without giveing them life yourself, even though i think every women would love to. best of luck
@laurabeth (145)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I know if I had been unable to have kids I would have adopted one way or another. There are so many kids that need a good home. I have a friend who couldn't have kids, she started doing foster care and she is now adopting a brother and sister she has had for like 2 years.
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7 Mar 07
I feel so sorry for you, I know I would be hearbroken if I was in your situation. Have you thought of adopting children? I think that a child brings you lots of love and happiness even if it isn't your own.
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@Glaeken (109)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Adopt. You might not have been biologically meant to have kids, but you can always be something for a child with adoption.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Adopt would be a good thing and maybe its meant for you to adopt. There is so many kids out there that needs to be adotped. I have a few friends that can't have any kids and they adopted one.
• India
8 Mar 07
If u r seriously upset with not having any child, then in my opinion adopt one child, in this way u will become little bit happy and also help some ones life.
@Connie1013 (1098)
• United States
7 Mar 07
The fates have dealt you a different hand. You may have been meant to adopt. There are a lot of kids in this world with brothers/sisters that are hard to place because there is so many siblings. Maybe you are fated to adopted such a family of kids. My best friend adopted 3 wonderful kids. 2 are brother/sister. She has no regrets and wants to adopt more.
• United States
8 Mar 07
you could adopt, but sometimes adoption can be expensive so you try to go through a foster program and usually after having the child for awhile they give you the option of adopting. it might not be a baby you get through foster but it will be a child who you can make a special bond with. Plus if you want a BIG family like you say you want, foster homes usually can give you more than one child especially if they have brothers and sisters who they can't or won't seperate. That's what one my friends are trying to do right now. She might get 3 little girls who are sisters! So there is still hope for you to have a family you just have to have faith! You have to fight for what you want sometimes.
• United States
8 Mar 07
oh sweetie I so understand in 87 started having female problems was single had always wanted children had to have a hysterectomy was the darkest period in my life. We have talked about adoption but right now just don't have the funds. If u can adopt do it. I have lottz of nephews, nieces, great nieces and great nephews it helps but to this day there is an emptiness in my heart.