Have you experienced death of a love one?
By heatspine
@heatspine (1141)
Philippines
March 7, 2007 5:50pm CST
At one point in our life, we will experience one of the things that we try to avoid ... death of a love one. My mom passed away 12 years ago and I can still remember and feel the pain of losing her. They say though that losing a spouse or a child is 5 times more painful than losing a parent. How bout you? Have you experienced death of a love one? How did you overcome it?
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I have lost so many ..when my grandmother passed and 6 weeks later my father in law passed it was hard then a year later my father passed away the 6 weeks later my mother in law passed..it was really strange for that to happen. It was really hard to deal with the loss and I still think of them at all times and learn to let them go and I feel that they are in a safe place ...but still hurt.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
yes it is. maybe age plays a big part as to why you experienced it in strings. at some point when we age then our folks who are much older than us go to the next stage.
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@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
yes I lost my father 11 years ago and my grandmother 13 years ago. I don't know if this counts but I also had a stillborn baby in November. The best way I "got oever it" although you never really do, is by reading lots of books on grief and by seeing a counsellor. I still miss my dad and my grandma, and although my baby is different kind of pain because I never knew her, but I miss her too.
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
yes. i agree with you. self help books written by counselors indeed help. actual counseling maybe even better. Losing a baby is always painful even if he/she is yet to be born.
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@candygurl24 (1880)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
I have lost many friends, and a few family members. For each person that I lost, the pain was different. I overcame it by living, knowing that they would want me to do so. I remember these people all in different ways, by doing different things etc.
@murrdog (87)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Yes, fifteen years ago my father shot and killed himself--time has healed some of the wounds, but I'm not sure I ever recovered from what happened. My wife says I can no longer use this as an excuse for problems I encounter from time to time, and I have agreed to make a new start in that regard! But I tell ya what, I think about my Dad more now than I ever have I think, and I miss him terribly. I wish we had been closer in life. I also wonder if I'll see him in heaven. i asked my Pastor, and his answer was a little equivocal, but he gave me hope. You never get over it, bottom line.
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@rainbowzr4ever (268)
• United States
8 Mar 07
in 96 I lost all three of my then surviving grand parents with in 3 months a part was really hard my mom's mother was my best friend. I still miss her so much. but PTL I know that I know I'll see her again when I get to heaven. it sounds cliches but time really does help there r still days I'll think of picking up the phone and then remember wait a minute she's gone.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
8 Mar 07
just this past dec i lost my mother. i feel like i lost a very close friend,she was everything to me,even tho im 52 years old she was still a teacher to me a support system and a helping hand. the song -im everything i am because you loved me- soothes me she was all those things to me my eyes- she held me up- and she gave me wings to fly.
although i have not overcome it yet i am trying, but the pain is still so fresh, just knowing she has no more pain or worries dose help tho. thanks for the great discussion.
