Do you still feel something for your ex-boyfriend?
@domesticengineer (576)
Philippines
March 8, 2007 2:02am CST
Ten years ago, I had a boyfriend whom I realized was a married man. I agreed on continuing our relationship even if I know that he's already married. He has no kids yet during that time. I got tired and split up with him after experiencing forbidden and secret relationship. It was really hard. I remember crying all the time then, I could cry the whole day during the first week of our break up. I really loved him. But I had no choice but to give up.
Eventually, I met someone new and after a year he proposed and we got married, we now have 2 kids and he's really a very responsible husband. But sometimes, I can't help but think of my exboyfriend. I think I still feel something for him. Sometimes I would look at his friendster profile. And there are times I would imagine seeing him in the mall or somewhere else. Do you think I'm still in love with him. What should I do to get over him? Or are you also experiencing this?
5 responses
@blue_fairee (236)
• Pakistan
8 Mar 07
Yes i m experienceing exactly the same currently. I am with a married man. He spoiled me before his marraige. I came to know that he is engaged to someone else when i have no way to get back from my feelings. He has two kids now and its hard for me to bear all this. But still i am here with him as he said he loves me. I think you can understand how can i feel and experiencing and can suggest me wheher to continue with him or find someone else. Actually i cant go back. I think i have no way left. What you will suggest to me?
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I am sorry to hear you are in such a difficult situation. I want to say this, and I hope you don't get offended or upset. Really think about this relationship. If he truly loved you, would he be hiding you from the world? Would he have married someone else? You have many choices to make right now, that will affect the way you look at yourself for the rest of your life. How do you think his wife would feel if she knew about you? How would you feel if you were in her shoes, newly married to a man that is having an affair with another woman? He is not being faithful to you, because he is with his wife. So, how can he love you and treasure you as the love of his life, if he also loves and treasures his wife? Because I can guarantee you, he says the very same things to his wife that he says to you. You can leave this man and start fresh, it will hurt, but aren't you hurting now? You will never have this man as your one and only. Do you think so little of yourself that you are willing to take half of a man? Because that is what you are doing. Really think about this and I hope you decide to start your life again without him. You are a beautiful and loving woman. Do not accept less than what you deserve. You deserve a man who will love you with both arms open. Not just half. I wish you the best of luck!
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I do have feelings for some of my ex-boyfriends. Not all of them good. It is normal, it is what you do with these feelings that is the important thing. If you truly love your current husband, leave these feelings behind and abandon these thoughts. It is not fair to your husband that you are entertaining thoughts of a relationship or feelings with your ex boyfriend. It is normal to have thoughts like these, but like I said, what you do with them, is the important thing here. I do have these thoughts, but I banish them from my mind as soon as they come to me. I am very happy with my life now, I tell myself, there is a reason why me and this person are not in a relationship any longer. I was not happy, so to dwell on the good things and forget the bad, is not healthy.
@bestfriends (876)
• Australia
15 Mar 07
Wow girl! I think you need to start telling yourself you shouldn't feel for this person. It is not right and you know it. Try to discipline yourself by telling yourself....NO! NO! I shouldn't feel this...and that...he is not the right guy for me and forget him! Don't think of him anymore. He is not worth to be thinking of because he is not the right one for you. Stay positive. Have a healthy positive talk in your mind. Do it! Be brave. Advice from a 18 year old girl.
@ThreeAandI (79)
• United States
8 Mar 07
People always say that first love is hard to forget. To me, it is true. Sometimes I think I get over it, other times, I feel like I failed. If you think it deeply, your ex is not that great because he leaves you...he can't accept who you are. But your husband really cares about and loves you. He married you and accept you as who you are. I don't think you are truly in love with your ex because you are just THINKING all those nice things about him. Don't forget that he had affair with you while he was a married man. If you were with him, how do you know he wouldn't cheat on you?
@mschiqui (1284)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
Is he your first love?well if so, thats very hard to forget..But you have to move on with your life and you should forget about him..try making your mind busy with your family now..Go out and have some fun with your kids and husband.. Your decision of breaking up with him was the best decison you have made.. Instead have a life with your family now and enjoy it.
