Being Trustworthy; How far can people go to confide in you?

@rekhum (2420)
India
March 8, 2007 4:47pm CST
The more people trust you ,the more they will confide in you.Are you that reliable and do you have that ethic of a boy/girl scout that someone close to you could share their most secret things? I am just curious because three of my closest friends have shared their password for their email account to me.Couple months back I'd helped a Brit guy opened his yahoo mail account, and after having done i told him to change the password immediately.But i came to realise he's not changed it inspite of my insistence. Another close friend of mine had confided his password long time back and he'd even given me the authority to hack into his email anytime to check his mail as he's just too laid back and absent minded that he often forgets his security sets of characters(password).I don't mean to brag about this trustworthyness they put in me but i am only happy that i am being reliable to them and i want to preserve this ethic forever. "The chief lesson i've learned in a long life is that the only way you can make a man trustworthy is to trust him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him."~ Henry L. Stimson
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@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
8 Mar 07
There's allot people than trust me,i know the deepest secrets of some people,i can ruin the life of people with all the secrtets i know.I have tha password of my sister in law,she trust more than my brother itself.And i think the people that you can trust the most are the ones that you dont know.
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@rekhum (2420)
• India
8 Mar 07
I can't trust a stranger or somebody who's not that close to me a speck.And it takes a pretty long time,even a year, for someone to get known to me and vice versa.So in my opinion,i can only trust the people i know very well.Same way, the people who knows me very well are the only ones who share their every secrets with me. Thanks
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• Aruba
9 Mar 07
What i mean in trusting a stranger is that i've once been the stranger,someone that i knew at party told me a secret and i didnt see the point of her telling me her secret because i cant do nothing with her secrets and i never saw her again
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• India
9 Mar 07
i knw u r trust worthy and i can share anythin to u....:) and u knw about me......lol
@rekhum (2420)
• India
10 Mar 07
(+) for you too,though i needed no compliments.Cheers
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• United States
10 Mar 07
I am very trustworthy. I have so many secrets locked away, that people have trusted me with. I would never repeat any of them. I don't like gossip, or dishonesty. I am sure people recognize this in me. I don't ever want that to change, so I keep my mouth shut, and my heart open.
@Artsimba (1334)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I always try to keep people's anonymity because I know how important it is to want my own to be considered. So, I do my best to not talk about other people and just stick to telling my own opinion. I've learned to believe that gossip hurts everyone involved and sometimes it comes back on you. I don't give personal information if I don't want it to come back to me, because I think it's my responsibility to not tempt people to be dishonest.
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@rekhum (2420)
• India
8 Mar 07
Keeping one's anonymity is neat and i too respect it.Thanks for sharing.
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@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
9 Mar 07
I feel I am a very reliable, yet trustworthy individual. If someone tells me something that they don't want me to divulge to others. I will respect there privacy & will keep what they had shared with me between the two of us. I know that I dislike when I go & tell others something very secret that I don't want others to know.. And next thing I know they have told all of the people whom they are close to. To me this is not a true friend.. Or a good person to have as apart of your life.. But at the same time.. I find doing this is so very wrong. I disliked when it was done to me & I refuse to do the same to another. Especially a friend or someone who I care for ever so deeply. I know that the people within my life can indeed rely on me. If they need assistance with something, I will be there. If they need a shoulder to cry on, I will be there for them. If they need someone to confide in.. And have a secret to share & only want to tell me & tell me not to tell another person.. I will respect there privacy & keep my mouth closed. I know people who have come & gone over the years.. And I still have kept there secret & have not told another what they had confided in me about. I know when my other half or a friend tells me something that they tend to think of as very secretive.. Or that they don't want others to know.. They will turn to me firstly. As they know they can put there trust in me, & rely on me.. Because they know I would never betray there trust by going ahead & telling another what was said to me. I know what I am looking for people who I decide to have as apart of my life.. And I know how much I value having people within my life who I can rely on, but also confide in.. And I know how important it is for me to be able to confide in another.. Without having to worry about what was said to them will be told to another.. So I know when I have people whom are apart of my life.. Who tell me a secret.. That I know how much I value my privacy so I think because I hold this so dear to my heart.. That I treat the people whom I love or who are apart of my life in the same manner.. I feel like all of the people who have been apart of my life over the last few years.. Have been able to confide in me without hesitation.. Without worrying if what they have told me would get out to others.. If anything I've felt over the years that I have had to be cautious when telling someone close to me a secret.. As I have had to many people not value the same things that I do.. Which is of course privacy & so forth.. I know that a lot of people have gone behind my back & had done this.. And I never ended up keeping them as apart of my life for all to long quite honestly.. In conclusion.. I feel that a lot of people who have been apart of my life over the last few years or even currently.. Have always been able to rely on me.. But also be able to tell me secrets that they we're unable to tell another.. I have had people confide in me some things that had happened to them when they we're younger.. Or even there email passwords, or things they had never told another.. For all of these reasons I would consider myself to be very reliable, but also the type of person one can share a secret with. Without having to worry about me going behind there back & sharing there secret with another. I know how much I value privacy, but also trust.. And because of this I feel I take others feelings in to consideration.. As I know what it feels like to have someone go & divulge a secret you had told them to another.. So I would never plan on doing the same! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
@rekhum (2420)
• India
9 Mar 07
You are most welcome.And its great to hear,there are people like you in whom we can confide our secrets. Not many people i'd come across have this quality in them.Preserve it safe in you for it is sacrilegious to spill the secrets of those who confide in you. Thanks
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