Does it annoy you if people don't return favours?

You should never change the way you are. Even if people don't respond the same when you need something. Then you would be like them and that is not who you really are. I don't ever expect that people 'owe' me anything if I help them out. I help them out because I choose to. During a really cold winter day a neighbor down the block who I had never met asked my if I could give her car a boost. So I did and got her car going and she was able to get to work. If I had the same problem with my car a month later, and saw her outside, I would probably not even ask for her help, because I would be putting her in the position where she would feel obligated. Possibly she is in a hurry to get somewhere and would have to say know and then would feel bad.

Well naturally when you help others at times you also need some help and if those whom you have helped a lot refuse without even trying then definately you do feel let down. We all are human beings and cannot live without expectectations from others. Somehow it affects me a lot and then I try my best to avoid such persons who are only takers.

I know exactly what you are talking about, but have come to the conclusion that it is my job to recognize this type of person and avoid them as much as possible. (Which is almost impossible to do if they are family members.) It isn't that I don't want to do things for them, but more that I don't like to help them continue being a manipulative type of person. It would probably be doing them a favor to point out to them that they are developing a trait that may lose them friends in the future.

yes it is annoying

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OK... first of all.... Golden rule, it is Not!....in God we trust everyone else pays cash.. It is Do on to others....etc. Well as long as Bush has been president , that add-age has been Mothballed.. If you need,Ask . If they dont offer... Ask.