look into my eyes...

Eyes are considered the windows of our soul. We always consider someone who cannot look at straight on the eye as someone that cannot be trusted, hence, the expression "shifty-eyed". In conversation, I try to look at the person I'm talking to. Once in a while, I look at something else, because staring can be bothersome too. But looking around while somebody is talking to you can be considered rude or lack of interest on what the other person say. So maintaing eye-contact is important. In relation to this topic, here is something I learned about this looking into the eyes situation. I was a middle school teacher for a while and I have incidents where I have parents scolding their children in front of me. Now, here is where the difference in culture kicks in. If it was an African-American parent scolding a child, she would demand that he looks at her. If he so much as look away it is considered rude. On the other hand, if it is a Hispanic parent, the child is expected to look down or away from the parent. If the child so much as try to look that parent straight to the eye, she will be scolded for being disrespectful. I'm in a mixed marriage. I'm Asian and my hubby is African-American. When we get in an argument or when I feel hurt, all I want to do is look away. For them that is considered rude. In my culture, that is a sign of respect. So we have to be careful, that we do not apply what we thought is right to everybody because other people might have different ways of viewing it.

When talking to someone, I tend to look into his/her's eyes. But I don't look into his/her's eyes all the time when talking to him/her unless I fall in love with him or her (he..he...).

I agree with you. I was always told that people that don't look you in the eye can't be trusted or are lying. So I always try to look people in the eye to talk to them also.

i usally can't see in narraters eye.i keep sweping the areas around.

I want to look at people's eyes when they talked to me but i cant really make eye contact that long:) Unless i am with just one person.:) And sometimes , i get distracted with someone who pass by behind them or some noise or sound that i do look around whenever they talk too. I believe it isnt impolite though unless you clearly look disinterested to what he si saying and trying to look everywhere to just not pay attention.

i agree with you. its very uncomfortable to be talking with someone else if that someone's eyes keep on rolling elsewhere. it seems like he is not paying attention to whatever you're saying.. whenever i talk with someone, i always look into the eyes..thats how i show my attentiveness.. but some culture finds this practise offending.. so we guys should be aware of that..

well.. personally.. i look into the eyes of some people when talking to them.. as it makes me feel more confident.. and more comfortable... plus looking elsewhere and gazing in different directions makes the other person uncomfortable cze they feel you are not interested in talking to them!

I think it is really imprtant to look into the person's eyes when you talk to him. Looking people in the eyes Shows sincerity an authenticly. It is also very un polite to doesn't look in the eys of the person's who sits next to you and talk to you. But even though I know that I should look people in the eyes, it is sometimes ambarrassing and uncomfortable for me.