nappies...

Honestly I think forcing the issue is going to do more harm than good. The phrase "an*l retentive" originally came from parents that were too strict regarding potty learning. Children can actually refuse to go to the bathroom if they are forced too hard. I've found that most children will let you know when they are ready. Under a year is too early, IMO, for a child to be potty learned unless they want to. My 4 year old sister literally woke up one morning shortly after turning 2 and told my mother that she wanted some big girl panties, and she never wore a diaper again with very little accidents. I don't even plan on mentioning potty learning until my son is at least 3 unless he shows interest before then.

i have a nephew about 2.5 years old now. before he didn't like the potty trainer we bought him when he was a little over 1 year old. until we bought him a potty trainer he could not resist... a car. he liked using it because he's likes toy cars a lot. shortly afterwards, we were able to train him to use the toilet because he has actually seen his older brother use it. his older brother is older by 2.5 years. watever his older brother does, he follows. kids, in my family's experience, get easily scared to be left alone in the toilet. especially if the toilet bowl they are using is not the kiddie size (like having their feet hanging when they sit on the seat). some of them even ask for us to remain and wait for them. some would ask for a short story. some would play on the toilet deodorizer or air freshener. some would bring their toy inside the toilet and play with it (just make sure it doesn't get dirtied or anything). if your daughter doesn't have any other kid to share her experience with, try to be more playful and encouraging whenever she goes potty. :)

There are a couple of Solutions to this, Buy her a Potty that has has figures on them or you can now get Pottys that are shaped in Figures like Winnie the pooh, the other Solution is which I used with my Daughter, buy one of them Baby Seats that you can get for the Toilet. Then you sit on the Toilet first, then put the Seat on her for her and lift her up on it, sit with her till she has done. You can also turn the Potty into a game for her so that she wants to sit on. Those are the things I did.

It sounds to me that she isn't completely ready yet, and I think that the best is not too force it. The more that she feels your frustration the more confused and pressured she will feel. You can allow her to sit in the potty with the diapers on, just to get used to it. SOme people put a bit of food coloring in the bottom of the potty and the kids find it funny to see the color change. The main thing is not to force her. She will do it when she's ready and the more she's forced to go the longer it will take. I don't know if you allow her in the washroom when you go, but seeing you might give her some sense of security. DOn't worry, she will get it soon:)

In a sense i agree with moon, but you might want to try a reward system...with my two daughters i gave them a smartie or something like that when they went on the toilet. my sister in law had a point system and at the end of say 10 stars she took them out to mcdonalds or got them something from the dollar store... you have to make this something that they WANT to do...

My kids all did it on there own by 3-3 1/2 I found forcing it on them made it more tramatic ont their part than on mine. claire

This is something that I am dealing with as well!!! But you do have to be careful not to preasure your daughter to use the potty or she will continue to be scared and rejet it..and will not train until much later. My son is 2 years 6 months and WILL NOT even sit on the potty. I cant get him to even sit on the little potty, nor the seat I bought for the big toilet. I dont want to force him..but he needs to start trying as he will be 3 in Aug. My daughter was one month over 2 years old when she trained no problem. She wanted this babrie farm..and I told her that if she went on the potty for a week and got rid of all her diapers (this was thro a casual conversation as I didn't think she would actually do it)that I would buy her this farm. Needless to say, she must have wanted it bad enough. We threw her diapers out, she went on the potty and never had an accident. She did wonderful!!! Each child is different and I think that they will let you know when they are ready. Keep introducing the potty to your daughter but if she gets upset about it..dont force it. This could cause more damage then we know!

well for a start, dont pressue her to do it. but you can just do it as she wants to, but my mum told all of us, when trying to train them, if its a girl, put them in a dress and undies and when they wee especially when outside they hate that feeling. if your daughter scared of the potty, try her on the actual big toliet, need to hold her, or you could get a little seat that fits in the big seat. and they just feel like normal than sitting on this little bowl thing on the ground, if u know what i mean, she needs to feel comfy and know she has all the support from you.

I used to sit my children on their potty and put a tray with little treats in front of them. They would be so busy eating the treats that they would forget they sitting on the potty. Whenever they used it, I would give them another treat, so they looked forward to getting their treats. I waited until summertime to try to get them out of nappies as they could run around the garden and it wouldn't matter if they had an accident.

Try rewarding her for just sitting on the potty first, fully clothed, or completely naked, and with something she will like and make a big deal out of her doing so every time. I used smarties. My daugheters did for their sons as well, My granddaughter is now old enough to learn at 16 months and prefers having no pantson anyways. just give her 3 smarties every time she sits on the potty, and 2 smarties every time she tells you that her diaper is wet or dirty. then the second week, get her to sit on it without diaper, then the third week, only reward her if she tells you that she needs to go, then the fourth only when she goes in the potty. it takes a while, but they get the hint. I found that some kids won't do their poops on the potty, so when mine did, I gave them extra smarties for about a month. then I moved them to the toilet.

My son isn´t old enough to be potty-trained yet, but I have cared for enough children to have some ideas to share. Are you trying to train her on the regular toilet? That might be a bit big and scary for her, try buying a special potty seat that is just her size. Let her help pick it out and she will be more likely to use it. Keep a small box of toys and books near the potty and only let her play with them while she is using it. A sticker chart can work well, too. Put in columns for the days and let her add a sticker to the column every time she uses the potty. After five stickers she gets a treat or a new toy. Try playing music or running water while she is on the toilet to help her relax. I read one tip that said to let the child play with a bowl of warm water and they will automatically have to pee! Let her in the bathroom when you have to use the toilet. She might get over her fear if she sees that nothing happens to you. Hope these help. The other thing is that she just might not be ready for toilet training.

try using the toilet bowl instead... buy a kids toilet seat... and let the little one do the flushing... kids seem to like pressing buttons... so let your little one push the flush button... let her get used to the toilet bowl... on top of that, use pull-up pants... it's those diapers that is worn like underpants in case there are any accidents when she doesn't tell you she needs to go to the toilet...