Do you bring your work tensions back home or personal problems to office?

my dear, I wish everybody could do what your husband finds so easy to do...I mean it will be of great help in our working life... I always try to do the same...separate my private and professional life but sometimes it is very hard..I am a doctor and it may happen that I see very bad and painful things at work...therefore it is of much help for me talking about it with a friend or my mother...this helps me confront with my emotions and not to be overcome by my patients' problem...sometimes I might receive calls from my patients even at home...I give my private number to them if they are severe ill..apart from these cases, I want to concentrate on my private hobbies and beloved people when I am out of work and I am very concentrated on my work when I am at work even though I try to find time for some little breaks..this helps cope with stress and make working easier..

sometimes its not easy to separate these things, but i know its just right to leave office matters to office and personal matters at home. This way things and people around us will not be affected on the things that we are doing. WE must know how treat each and every problem of the house and in the office too. Then we can truly say we are professionals in handling all the things that are coming in our way.

I do tend to bring home my work frustrations. Sometimes that is good. My hubby tells me his frustrations and about his day, and I tell mine. The time when it gets overboard is when you are telling and getting worked up all over again about something you can't change. Telling to let it out is okay...reliving it and getting more angry and frustrated is not. About personal things...I'm very private and I don't feel people at work, who are just acquantances...need to know my personal life. Telling about marraiges and births and stuff like that is one thing...telling about bedroom problems is something else. If you go to work and tell everyone all of the bad things about your husband all of the time...you are damaging his reputation in their eyes...all they know is his bad habits and his bad decisions and they will not think very highly of him. Not a good idea!

I've always admired people who can separate efficiently their professional and private lives. I was never able to do it completely and, if my private life didn't have much impact on my work, I could help but 'bring work' back home. It cost me a few relationships and many sleepless night. My only question would be: was it worth it all? Maybe. Maybe not.

That is one thing that I never allowed myself to do but I think that telling myself that I was not going to let it happen before I did it helped alot. Once you start, I think it is impossible to reverse the way we do things.

Well I really envy your husband :) I wish I could leave everything at work behind when I come home in the evenings. But unfortunately it keeps bugging me. At least there's a good side to that, the fact that I sometimes solve early in the morning the problems I couldn't solve the day before (my best time to think is very early in the morning when I wake up). Nevertheless I'd be the happiest person if I could leave work problems at work where they belong.

Most of the time I did manage that but towards the end when the Bullying Started I couldn't anymore it was very hard as I used to come home in Tears, also I had just been through a Divorse with a lot of Stress. But yes I used to do my Best to leave work away from home. The only problem at times was, we had a Mobile that had to stay on till 8pm through some of my Staff working till then and of course a lot of times you got Phone calls at home and then half the time had to go out again to sort Problems.

i think its a toughest thing to separate your persoanl lfe to professional life.its natural to me that office tensions creat a huge fuss at home and personal nusiance become my headache in office.i try hard to leave the things,only succeed in revealing it from others,but it gives me over stress.

Yep, I do both: work tensions come home and home tensions go to work. Opps, LOL I work from home so they are one and the same. I've thought of designating certain parts of the house for one and others for the other but it hasn't worked to this point home is home and work and I just have to deal with it best I can. Hummmm, maybe I could draw lines down the middle of the rooms; one side is work and the other side is home :)

greengal dear...you just described my husband perfectly. Between the two of us, I'm more of the type who will bring all the tensions everywhere I go. I don't think I can be able to do what our husbands doing. Admittedly, I like it better this way. I have a friend who's husband is always in one of his mood. If that happen, he will always fight with my friend. He will keep ranting, throwing things and giving his best oscar performance in drama. We're lucky, greengal.

Hmm interesting questions you pose here my green goddess! I have to admit to having brought home my fair share of work tensions home over the years but with personal problems I tend to leave them at home. At my last job I had a colleague who has become a close friend of mine and often she would tell me all of her personal problems, having come from India as a bride 6 or so years ago the only friends she had were friends she made through her husbands circle and it was the first time she had made a friend of her own. We used to share an office so it followed that she would tell me all her woes and I'd be a shoulder for her to cry on. I sometimes told her stuff about my personal life just to show her that everyone else's life is not always a bed of roses as she felt her life was really bad quite often. In my current job I don't take home tensions to work (actually the fact that I don't really have any is a big factor in this one LOL) but I do discuss things that have happened at work with my hubby. Now in my last job he used to hate hearing my work tensions because it used to upset him that I was having such hassles at work. Since I've been in my current job for 8 months or so now he often comments about how happy he is that I'm in a job which gives me such job satisfaction and that I'm much happier in general because I don't have the stresses I had in my last job - after all, that was the reason I changed jobs anyway - on advisement from my doctor to take a less stressful job. In general I think it helps to discuss work tensions with your partner - if you don't and things are going really badly at work you can end up feeling even more depressed about it, often your partner can give you good advice about what to do about issues at work or just having someone to listen to you moan about your boss or colleague's actions just might help make your job more bearable. On the other hand, I find that taking personal problems into work can hinder your progression. If you are always telling your colleagues about dramas going on in your personal life you might be perceived as a "drama queen" and it might be perceived that you're not fit for promotion because you're too stressed out about your home life. This would be the biggest barrier to me taking personal problems to work - at the end of the day, people can make sympathetic noises but your employers mostly care about you doing the job that you're paid for. This, of course, doesn't apply to all employers, some of them go out of their way to make sure employees are happy at work and have counselling services available for staff with work or home issues that they need help for :)

I know I am very immature and I do always end up mixing things but I admire my dad for he forgets all the work and business related tension and frustration and comes home full of smiles :)

There are really times that separating personal matters from work matters is very hard... but I make it a point to try my best to think where I am at the moment and what am I supposed to do and think of coz mixing those things together could really mess up everything from my work stuffs, to my officemates, to my family, and even to my friends..And that's not a good thing to happen. So, as much as possible to tend to leave at home what are supposed to be talked and settled at home, and leave in the office the things that need to be worked on during office hours.

I keep my worklife and personal life at home separtely, what I experienced in my workplace does not affect my mood at home because i will forget what happen in myworkplace once i get back home,especially when you are writing something in mylot..lol.. But one thing that I will bring back to home after work is the physical tiredness of the work.

Separating official work from home life is possible if you are working at a lower level with less responsible jobs. As people have mentioned here it is just impossible to separate official work from personal life. We use to have family get together in office to reduce official tension. Actually speaking, the executives are supposed to be working 24 hours a day. They are called upon to solve problems even during off office hours. At the same time if there is a person having unsolved personal problem, the office administration comes forward to solve such problems. But this practice is not followed in software companies. They have time bound programs and the employee has to spend long hours to complete the assignments, forgetting about the family. Similarly, the Doctors are to spend off official hours to look after urgent cases. So the life ismixed with official and personal life.

well that is actually one of the best trait a service man or actually any working man can have,.,,, to keep up his personal and proffessional life quite a paced up and quite a different from each other - non intervening with each other,... if he does that, then only he can actually perform his level best at both the situations.... a wife would kill u if u ask her of the office work-where u actualy stay more than that u stay with ur wife.... and the boss is gonna kill u if u think of what color saron would your wife would like to put on....!!!

i think it's too bad to bring the tension to another place. it's better to go for meditation.To avoid tension please don't talk more with ur enemy. the moment ur in tension u lose ur tension,u loose ur attension. so please avoid tension.

i have a 5 day week job and though these 5 days keep me busy with my work i just get back to home every day without carrying any of these office tensions. i just try forget the moment i am out of my office but it takes a little time to relax and get back to my family and spend time with them. as far as possible i try to avoid any personal tension and stay happy so as to balance both personal and professional life by utilising the weekends with my family.

Yes I do! And it is so difficult I tell you.. I tried to separate them both..but I just can't! Is it really possibel to forget you problems once you stepped into the office?

For me, i leave work tensions at work and personal problems at the house..i cant afford to mix work with my personal life..