Cliques among us....

Speaking of cliques, yes we will experience it, no matter where we are, which part of the earth we are in, and who we are. That is a basis of man, if there is a group of people, there will be cliques, isn't that true about different nations, having different cultures, languages, as well as behaviors? It all comes form small cliques if you can see in the big picture. Well, we know that no man is an island, but why do we see loners around as well? That I have no idea. I don't quite like the idea of cliques frankly, but I cannot deny that people still prefer a clique that knows their habits, and they could find security through themselves. That is why I am kind of, loner guy. However, I love hanging around different cliques, temporary, as long as they invite me. Seems like a hopper ya? But I don't fancy any, its alright to be myself, we do need friends, but a clique that could be too close could lead to conservativeness, and closeness between outsiders, or strangers. That is one big advantage. Clique rules sounds like government rules, and regulations, LAWS, that is essential to maintain the order of the clique itself, but I haven't seen one clear rules set by the clique so far. (perhaps gangsters do have their protection fees rule, just like signing a contract with a company we're working in, its all normal) Connie, you mentioned about seeing cliques here, but how do you identify the cliques in mylot? I can't seem to figure it out.

When I was new here, I noticed that there are groupings amongst friends that responds to each others discussions which in a way is an advantage. In the presence of so many unattractive postings, they find some that they can easily relate to and comfortably respond. The longer you stay the more people will know what quality user you are and invitations for friendship come in and among the list, you can also find people who are real friends whom you have many things in common with. We don't really have to exert effort to join them and I don't even think they are a closed circle. It's just that they are comfortable with each other and have the same mind. Once we have a polished image, sooner or later, a circle will be formed around us as well.

There are cliques all over the world with everything. It doesn't bother me though. I just do my own thing.

I don't think there are cliques here, just people looking for others who have the same values as themselves or who are interested in the same type of things. Personally, after running across some really garbage discussions and offensive topics, I started really paying attention to people's profiles. Are they close in age to me? do they watch the same type of programs? like the same things I like? have similar values that I have? I look at a couple pages of the type of discussions they have posted as well. The first time someone posts a discussion talking about bedroom habits or likes and dislikes, I'm not interested. There is more to this world of interest than what takes place in some strangers bedroom!

When I first signed up, I almost didnt stay. I kind of felt like since I wasnt already a part of things, I would end up being ignored. But, I decided I love to write and this gives me a place where I am free to post my opinions, thoughts, knowledge, and questions to a wide variety of people with varying opinions themselves. Once people start to see your name and recognize it, you will no doubt get more responses, and more friend requests. I think that the reason there appear to be "cliques" is because as a general rule people tend to reply to the people on their friends list first, and a lot of times the people on their friends list are there because they have similar interests, and like each others writing styles, etc. Hang in there. It is a nice place once you start to feel a little more at home. Of course you may already be there since this post is a week old.

it is a difficult Q. for me i think i join