what qualities are you looking for in your would be partner?
@totalearnings (1603)
India
March 12, 2007 3:57am CST
there was a time when parents would select a boy or a girl to be their kids life partner. i am one of those kids who got married as per selection made by my parents. but now people are looking for some definite qualities in their life partner. IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED WHAT QUALITIES ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN YOUR WOULD BE PARTNER? COMMENTS FROM MARRIED ONES ARE ALSO WELCOME ...........
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
You know, totalearnings...I can give you a list of the qualities that I like. But I'm married now and not even one single quality can I see in my husband. I always go for the brainy and good personality type of man. Physical is secondary only. :)
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
8 May 07
list of qualities that one wishes can be endless. but mentally both persons minds should be synchronised before physical which is secondary as you said.
@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
12 Mar 07
He should be smart, intelligent, with good personality. To be happy in life, he should be in good profession, and atleast he should have a house to live and should have saved money to as to settle down happily. SHe should be good at heart, very kind to every one.
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@totalearnings (1603)
• India
8 May 07
wow. you have including all the requirements for a happy life. hope you get the right one of your choice.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Mine was an arranged marriage too and all along I was hoping I would get someone who would be as educated or more than me. I was also hoping for one who wouldn't be too orthodox, would have basic manners, spoke English well and would be caring and understanding. Of course I couldn't judge all of this when I first met my hubby, but I was impressed with his mannerisms and his smile absolutely floored me..lol Nobody is perfect and in a relationship we have to make changes and compromises here and there. I'm so glad he came my way and to tell you frankly I wouldn't change a thing in him:)
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
13 Mar 07
thanks greengal for those comments. obviously its adjustment and compromises that keep the relation going. one cant expect perfectly was one aspires but you seem to be a lucky one too
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
9 May 07
true laltu. its commitment between both that makes the relationship strong and everlasting. thanks for sharing your views
@bindishah (2062)
• India
9 May 07
Conversation is very important to me - so the guy has to have the ability to converse with me. Coz ultimately when everything else fades, the ability to talk to each other is all that remains.
I also need someone who is focused and does not get bogged down by life's difficulties. i need someone who is redy to face on all challenges together with me.
I want someone who would share evry bit of his life with me, someone who genuinely cares not only about me but also the other people around him.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
12 Mar 07
well I am married myself...These days parents does not choose partners for their children, at least not here in te US,however it doesn't sound like such a bad idea,since the divorce ate is so high...So your marriage was arranged by your parents? Does that mean that you was not given a choice?Was you in love when you married? Im sorry to ask so many questions,but i have often wondered how those arranged marriages work out..It might be the best kind,i don't know...I am married as I said, but the man I am married to has none or nearly none of the qualities that I was looking for,but he is good to me,no fighting or anything,but we are just comfortable with each other....
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
13 Mar 07
my marriage was arranged the traditional way. i had seen a couple of mathes before the one to whom i actually got married. but they didnt work out as the girl's parents werent willing to send the girl far away with me to where i am employed. they were just interested in some match that was from a near place for whatever reasons may be. i was looking a girl who would be kind and understanding one. and i was confident of my parents decision as they are my well wishers and choose the best after knowing thoroughly about the girl. now i am lucky i have got the one as expected.
@Bizziebod (3497)
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9 May 07
Hi, Well I'm not looking, but if I was then they would have to be honest, good sense of humour and got good conversation skills!
