Can someone truly love YOU if they are always trying to change you?

I agree with you, if someone has so many problems with who I am, trying to change me, they do not love me, they love their image of who I am, which usually is false anyway.

I don't think love wants to change you, if someone is trying to change you then they don't love you, they want to control you...and that is not love! True love is accepting someone for who they are, and loving that person for exactly who and what they are.

I think it is natural to want your partner to present as well as possible, but if it's too much, it's time to go. I don't think much of your pose, there, it puts out all the wrong vibes, no wonder you do not get treated well.

If the changes are improvements that will make you better, and the changes are suggested as a way of helping you become a better person then yes! You can love someone and still recognize need for improvement in them in the same way you can love yourself and still recognize the need to improve. Also sometimes a person love someone but the may be one or two things about that creates a strain in the relationship. Is it better to suffer with the problems and have it destroy the love that you feel for that person or try to talk to the person in a loving way about how to eliminate the behaviours that are causing the problems?

my answer to that would NO, the person doesn't truly love you. here's my theory if a pers on truly loves you or viceversa, you will love everything in him/her, the whole package, no if's no but's... unconditional

My girlfriend of several years has a very distinct distaste for certain things about me which she refuses to accept. Yet she's always confessed an undieing love for me. I believe there is some truth to it that you aren't genuinely and truly loved by someone who only wishes they could change things about you, but I also believe we have to realistically accept that we'll never be truly "perfect" to anyone out there, not even ourselves; So it's good if we can be accepting of those who do at least try to love us the best they can.