If you were going to adopt a child, what country would you adopt from?

@AmbiePam (94119)
United States
March 12, 2007 3:12pm CST
According to USA Today, the top foreign countries Americans adopt from are, in order: China, Guatemala, Russia, and South Korea. If I never get married, I would like to adopt. Whether you are married or not, if you were to adopt a child, which country would you adopt from? Would it be America, where adoptions cost more and take longer? Or would you choose one of the above choices? Or would you possibly go to war torn countries or poor countries such as Cambodia or Ethiopia?
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• Australia
14 Mar 07
I am very keen to adopt a child in the future. I believe that all children deserve a happy family life, and a pleasant upbring, and if I can give that to even one child, then I feel my mission in life is complete. I don't have a country preference at all. Where a child comes from will have nothing to do with my choice of adoption, as all children are the same in my eyes. As for parents wanting their children back, I can understand this. I would love for any of my adopted children to be in contact with their birth parents if possible. I fully intend on any adopted children that I have, learning just as much about their own background and home country, than about the family they are part of and their country. It's important to know where one is from, and their history, regardless of where you are brought up, or currently reside.
@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Sounds like you would make the best adoptive parent ever. : )
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• Australia
14 Mar 07
Aaww thankyou :) I'd sure try hard, that's for sure.
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@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
14 Mar 07
I would probably gravitate towards an orphange that was poorer and more understaffed/crowded. I remember seeing a celebrity go overseas to an orphanage and she said that babies were only allocated 1 nappy a day and she took some toys to them to play with and they didn't know what to do with them. She also said that they just don't get cuddles, rocked to sleep, generally just don't get the touch of a mother. I was actually in tears reading the article and I swore to myself that I'd adopt from an orphanage like that one day. I think I was only 12-13 when I read it.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
21 Mar 07
It would take a lot of research, but I bet one could find out which are the poorest and least taken care of orphanages in the world. Someone has to have statistics on things like that. Looking at the most disadvantaged seems like a good road map to adoption. : )
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@villageanne (8553)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I know a family who have adopted 3 children and all have been from China. They say the reason they adopt from China is because the childs families are not allowed to change their minds in a few years and want them back. I can understand the need for a secure family. I think it is just terrible that a parent can change their minds and try to take the child back Personally, I could and woulda adopt a child from anywhere. In fact I would love to adopt a child. I have no problem withe the country that hte child is from. I love children ..all children.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
12 Mar 07
That's a good attitude. I wish more people thought that way. I know there are rational fears about adopting, but so many more benefits are real than problems are.
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• United States
21 Mar 07
My husband and I have never spoken of adoption, but we have seriously considered foster parenting. We live on along the USA and Mexico border. There are alot of children who need temporary housing. We have 3 children of our own, and have alot of love to give. But, adoption is definetly something I would consider!
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• United States
21 Mar 07
I would probably consider adopting from the USA.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Living that close to the border gives you a prime oppurtunity to make a difference, doesn't it. I think it would hurt my heart to be a foster parent, but good foster parents are sorely needed, even though there are some great ones out there already.
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• United States
12 Mar 07
I plan on adopting even if I do get married. There is just so many children in the world who needs someone to love and take care of them. I don't really have a country I prefer, that will be decided when it comes time. I am open to any of them. However, in some cases it is actually cheaper and faster to adopt from America. It all depends on what type of adoption you choose. Adopting from other countries can be pretty exspensive because of the trips you have to make to that country and because of all the fees you have to pay the agency, etc... Plus, the trips could be quite long, and sometimes youeven have to wait months (even up to or more than a year) before you can take the child home.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
12 Mar 07
That's really interesting. I guess every experience no matter what country, is different. I just remember my cousin had to pay $25,000 in lawyer fees and adoption fees and then the adoption she had arranged with her and her husband for a little boy in Vietnman fell though. However, she did end up adopting a little boy from America. It cost her $30,000 to get him. They went into debt for both adoptions. Isn't it a shame how people have to spend so much money for a person? I'm all for background checks, and procedures, because children are so important, but wow!
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@juskoday (183)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
I'd adopt a little girl from China. It always breaks my heart to hear of stories of girls given up to agencies because Chinese culture prefers male offspring.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
20 Mar 07
That is very true. And did you read that that particular attitude is now costing China? There aren't enough women for the men.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
12 Apr 07
That is weird. I don't remember reading your post until this morning. And I replied this morning. I think MyLot made a goof.
@juskoday (183)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Yup, now they're going out of the country to find wives which irks their mothers to hell and back because the Chinese are a very 'love your own' kind of culture. This is so weird because I just reposted another response to this discussion. No wonder I didn't remember this at all, there was a four week interval for the two. Hehehehe.
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@Mickie30 (2626)
10 Apr 07
I have always wanted to adopt I think I would chose the most poorest or undeveloped Country maybe Ethiopia.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Yeah, some of the most underdeveloped countries are in Africa, like Ethiopia, Sudan, Chad, and Somalia. I don't think you can even adopt from some of the ones I mentioned - too much political unrest.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
11 Apr 07
If I had the money, I would open an orphanage and animal shelter. Any abandoned kids and weak animals can go there for food and protection. The thing is there are poor people everywhere and so many animals get abused every day, it's only fair if we don't focus on certain country. Plus in some countries adoption process can take longer and too much money, where as we can use this money to support the orphanage
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
11 Apr 07
It would be really great if the orphange ran the animal shelter. It would give kids structure and the feeling of helping society if they were able to help with abused and endangered animals. While adoptions are the most talked about, a good orhanage shouldn't be overlooked, you are right. : )
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@Beertjie (976)
• South Africa
22 Mar 07
I don't think I will get married but if I decide to adopt, I will deffinately adopt from my own country, South Africa. If at all possible I would adopt out of my own family, because we have suffering children in the family. My reason for this is because I believe that charity starts at home. I would first help the needy closest to me and then spread out further. I love kids and when I see a kid I just see potential!!!
@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
22 Mar 07
That's a great attitude to take. I agree wholeheartedly.
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• United States
21 Mar 07
adoption - group of kids
I have heard about people adopting kids from other countries and it really irritates me .We have tens of thousands of children stuck in orphangages and foster homes and these people are adopting elsewhere. Whatever happened to charity begins at home?
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I used to think that way too. And to some degree, I still do. But as I have talked to parents who have adopted, including my cousins, sometimes they have a better chance of getting a child in a foreign country. Not because they aren't of a good quality family, but because of red tape that differs in each state. Some foreign countries make it equally as difficult to adopt as the United States does, but then others make it very easy. If I were wanting a child "now" I have to admit I would think foreign countries as well as my own. That being said, I'd first and foremost encourage Americans to look at their own children in need before going elsewhere. Just my opinion. : )
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• United States
4 Apr 07
lets not forget that america has hundreds of thousand of children that need to be adopted too. yes its wonderful we adopt from other countries but we still need to look in our own back yard. So with that i would adopt from america.
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• Canada
10 Apr 07
I would probably want to have one from every country to so that I could help save many children
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Sort of like Angela Jolie? She had her own daughter naturally - one from America. Then she adopted children from Ethiopia, Cambodia, and Vietnam.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I'm missing a kid there. I got it wrong.
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@juskoday (183)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I also would like to adopt if ever I never get married or can't conceive my own children. When I was much much younger, I watched a video about how Chinese families prefer having male babies. Given their one child policy, they'd either choose to abort females, or give them up for adoption in order for them to try for boy. The video shows so many little girls left alone in adoption agencies and homes, it broke my heart. I think that's why I'm so drawn to a Chinese baby girl.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I've read the very same things. And how, China is without females for their males to marry and this is a problem. Pity they didn't think of that before hand.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
3 Apr 07
It's a very easy question. If I were to adopt, I would adopt from the USA. We have too many children of all ages who are in deep need of a loving, clean, and safe enviorment. With out a doubt hands down, I'm a firm believer in helping our own first.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I agree. Only a couple people I know finally went to a foreign country to adopt because of the red tape and expense it took to get an adoption here.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
america,even if it took longer. as bad as i feel for children of other countries,i would not feel right adopting out when we have orphans here too.
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
11 Apr 07
When it all comes down to it, I feel the same way.