How to Forgive
By Springlady
@Springlady (3986)
United States
March 13, 2007 9:47am CST
A dear friend emailed this to me and I want to share it with you.
How to Forgive
One day a while back, a man, his heart heavy with grief, was walking in the woods. As he thought about his life this day, he knew many things were not right. He thought about those who had lied about him back when he had a job.
His thoughts turned to those who had stolen his things and cheated him.
He remembered family that had passed on. His mind turned to the illness he had that no one could cure. His very soul was filled with anger, resentment and frustration.
Standing there this day, searching for answers he could not find, knowing all else had failed him, he knelt at the base of an old oak tree to seek the One he knew would always be there. And with tears in his eyes, he prayed:
"Lord--You have done wonderful things for me in this life. You have told me to do many things for You and I happily obeyed. Today, You have told me to forgive. I am sad, Lord, because I cannot. I don't know how. It is not fair Lord. I didn't deserve these wrongs that were done against me and I shouldn't have to forgive. As perfect as Your way is Lord, this one thing I cannot do, for I don't know how to forgive. My anger is so deep Lord, I fear I may not hear You, but I pray that You teach me to do this one thing I cannot do--Teach me to Forgive."
As he knelt there in the quiet shade of that old oak tree, he felt something fall onto his shoulder. He opened his eyes. Out of the corner of one eye, he saw something red on his shirt.
He could not turn to see what it was because where the oak tree had been was a large square piece of wood in the ground. He raised his head and saw two feet held to the wood with a large spike through them. He raised his head once more, and tears came to his eyes as he saw Jesus hanging on a cross. He saw spikes in His hands, gash in His side, a torn and battered body, deep thorns sunk into His head. Finally he saw the suffering and pain on His precious face. As their eyes met, the man's tears turned to sobbing and Jesus began to speak.
"Have you ever told a lie?" He asked.
The man answered, "yes, Lord."
"Have you ever been given too much change and kept it?"
The man answered, "yes, Lord." And the man sobbed more and more.
"Have you ever taken something from work that wasn't yours?" Jesus asked.
And the man answered, "yes, Lord."
"Have you ever sworn, using My Father's name in vain?"
The man, crying now, answered, "yes, Lord."
As Jesus asked many more times, "Have you ever"? the man's crying became uncontrollable, for he could only answer, "yes, Lord." Then Jesus turned His head from one side to the other, and the man felt something fall on his other shoulder. He looked and saw that it was the blood of Jesus. When he looked back up, his eyes met those of Jesus and there was a look of love the man had never seen or known before.
Jesus said, "I didn't deserve this either, but I forgive you."
It may be hard to see how you're going to get thru something, but when you look back in life, you realize how true this statement is.
Read the following line slowly and let it sink in.
If God brings you to it..He will bring you through it.
When Jesus died on the cross, He was thinking of you!
I so needed this email! I have someone I'm having a hard time forgiving right now. I know with the help of the Lord, I can forgive this person.
God bless!
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15 responses
@Lavera1 (896)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Thank you for that message,Springlady. I refuse to go to bed at night with unforgivenss in me. So I say to Go, " Father I forgive so and so and I bless him/her and don't curse him/her in Jesus name. The Bible tell us not to go to be angry.
Bitterness and unforgiveness rots the bones.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
I just stop and ask myself if being angry with whatever is going to make the situation any better. Since it never will, there is really no pint in my anger. That's how I see it. Anger and all the negative feelings you mentioned above are NOT going to solve the problem.
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@luzamper (1357)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
In the Holy Bible, God commands us to forgive so that the Father in heaven will also forgive us. God also said that vengeance is for Him and so whatever bad thing people do to us, we should forgive them and let God do the revenge.
It is very difficult to forgive, but we should learn how. Yes, we are all sinners and if people to whom we sinned against do not forgive us and we also do not forgive people who sinned against us, well we could just imagine what life do we have. God is right in telling us to forgive others and we should do all things to obey God so that we could have a peaceful life.
@hestee (250)
• Nigeria
27 Mar 07
Presently i carry a heavy burden of hurt from a terrible wrong down me by someone i trusted. You little story really touched me where i live and i hope the moment of calmness will last for a long time. I have no choice but to forgive for my own good simple. I need the forgiveness more than the person who wronged me so as to enable carry on with my own life. I thank you for your post.
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@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
That is anice story of forgiveness you got there and im thanking you for sharing that one to us. Me too sometimes i have trouble forgiving someone but as i looked back in the past, I, myself was unforgivable too. I done many good things but i done bad things also. And your story i can relate.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I think of the bottom line as unforgiveness in my heart wounds me, and no one else.. the person who wronged me likely has gone merrily on their way long since.. Also we've all wronged others before, especiallly in the days of our foolish youth more than likely and even more since then.. and since we're all so human, why not forgive.. In all actuality, hgowever, for the biggies (and I do speak from experience) we cannot forgive, but our Lord in us, does the forgiving.. and then, it really takes..
:))-God bless..
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
I for one do not forgive anyone who hurts me until I am finished with my revenge. After that I sometimes forget who and what a person does, that's how it works in my case, don't get mad get even. But sometimes I also forget without revenge, and somehow someone takes care of it, this is why I believe karma exists although I don't always wait until it happens !
@jjwatson28 (572)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I love this. Sent it to my brother. He seem to have a lot of troble forgiving people. thank-you.
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@jjwatson28 (572)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I love this. Sent it to my brother. He seem to have a lot of troble forgiving people. thank-you.
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@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
14 Jul 07
Wonderful story. Alot of people find it hard to forgive and the bitterness can tear your life apart and make you suffer. Forgiving can wash away all the bitterness in your life.
@jasdownie (165)
• Philippines
15 Apr 07
Forgiveness is an ongoing action that takes deliberation.
Accept the truth that this person is hurting you. Occupy your mind by something else, being resentful will just keep you angry...Visualize what you want to happen when you might confront the person,remember that confronting someone may not be the best course of action...Think twice, decide whether the person really deserves to be forgiven or not...Confide to a friend or family member, they may help you overcome the situation...
Remember, once you have started the action of forgiveness, you have free yourself from the binding that unforgiveness has kept you in...It's Freedom!!!
Lastly, pray for them and pray for yourself to have the strength to forgive...
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Thank you for sharing this. He forgives us for our many wrong doings, so we in turn need to be forgiving of others short comings.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
11 Sep 07
Well my dear Lady, Very true, the level of forgivess God and prophets had, sure we dont have it, but we should learn from them. I am sure if GOD start punishing us on our bad deed then we dont deserve anything in life. Very nice story.
i am sure if we have attitude of Forgiveness in our lives then we would have peaceful and happy society with less crime. Take care
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Amen, we are so blessed to have a Father who knows our needs and provides for them. I can't tell you the number of times I've been struggling with a situation and a message like this will come to me. I know it is God providing, giving us strength, courage, peace, understanding. Whatever the need He will Provide.