Married Couples Sleeping In Seperate Beds/ Seperate Bedrooms

i don't know how are we go'n to call that kind of arrangement i knew some couple like that the wife if she's sleeping she don't want to be disturb and vice versa.so they're sleeping in separate bed and separate room.if one of them want to tell something they're just leave message in the dressing table or stick it in the mirror.for me if both couple are working and the only time for them to talk is during bed time-i don't know because for me to make the relationship work the number one ingredients is communication.

This is very unusual to married couples. Not unless they have relationship problems. But for normal couples, this is actually the first time that i've heard of this case. In my opinion, sleeping in separate rooms and beds MIGHT greatly contribute to the weakening of a relationship. Bedtime is a bonding moment for couples. Here, they get to know what happened to each other throughout the day and many other stuff. And it is also a way to show your love to your partner. As for your aunt and uncle, its good that they can still "keep the flame" despite sleeping separately. By the way, have you asked them the reason why do not sleep together? =)

im unsure really what to think about this, but i know i couldnt handle being in a separate room from my partner it would just feel totally awkward. but i guess in a way it would have a problem that could cause a break up but all depending on how strong the marriage is and well why the reason to why they are sleeping in different rooms

The marriage therapist might be right about some couple but not for all. If I had to sleep with my husband I would have divorced him years ago. He snores so loudly that I am sure he can be heard for miles around. I couldn't get a wink of sleep while I was sleeping in the same bed and he couldn't sleep because I was always wakening him. Now we both sleep in seperate rooms and we both have a good nights sleep. I might also add that we have been happily married for 38 years and we have no intention of ever seperating...except at night of course...lol.

Its true couples who sleep separately on anightly basis are prone to break up reason being that in the process they get used to sleeping alone and gradually cope with the situation.remember you are never around all the time to inspect them.maybe they try to hide that from you.the truth of the matter is they are always prone to break up.

I would agree with the marraige therapist as far as my case goes. I feel physical presence is very much important to making a relationship intimate. I cannot imagine sleeping in separate rooms and beds on a day to day basis; once a while, i do manage. According to me, the distance issue can arise if the couple is newly married or have been in relation for few years only. I believe that after spending 15-20 years with each other and then sleeping apart, the distance issue maynot arise. But again it cannot be generalized and will depend from couple to couple.

I believe marriage is based on so much more than sharing a bed. Also, because they don't share a bed doesn't necessarily mean that they aren't still intimate either. My hubby and I shared a bed for years but we are not very compatible that way... He snores loudly and likes to smoke in bed (yuck)~ I toss and turn, flailing my arms and legs about which results in back aches for me and night time beatings for him! We do still share a bed periodically though... If we are feeling especially cuddly, we may nap together or if I've had a nightmare I will climb into bed with him to feel safe and secure. It hasn't put a damper on our intimate life because you can mess around almost anytime anywhere... actually, he has the big bed, so I like not worrying about who gets the 'wet spot' ; )

I am so glad to read these comments and realize that I ma not the only one who likes to sleep in a different bed than my husband. I truly love my husband and I can usually deal with the snoring, but his thrashing around just drives me nuts. He has gien me a black eye before and lterally kicked me out of bed, I mean he kicked and I fell right out of bed. Not a great way to wake up. It is so bad that I have a hard time sleeping because I am afraid I am going to get hit. Every time he moves I throw my arms up to cover my face. Of course he is one of those that thinks if you sleep in different beds then there is something wrong with the relationship. He even told me that if I ever decided to get separate beds then he would divorce me. I try to get him to understand that it has nothing to do with me not loving him, but I need to get a good nights sleep and that doens't happen when I share a bed with him. Right now I spend at least 2 nights a week on the couch because our extra bedroom is being used. I really want my own room. I want to have good night's sleep again. Once our extra bedroom is free, we will have to address this issue, and if he really will divorce me because I want to sleep in a different room, then maybe our relationship does have issues that I am not aware of.

Hubby and I sleep apart because I have major sleep disorders and do not get a good nights sleep when i sleep with him. But to combat that, we snuggle before i go to bed and get into bed with him at 6:30 and snuggle til about 7:15 am - we have been married for almost 20 years and are doing ok...

Well we have only been married for six years and we sleep in separate rooms sometimes. Our son comes between us and even though we have tried sleeping altogether in our king size bed, it doesn't always work. One of us eventually gets pushed off the edge because my son sleeps all over the place. One of us ends up sleeping in the spare room. Our love for each other is still very strong and because we sleep in different rooms sometimes, doesn't mean we are drifting apart. Sometimes I sneak into the spare room early in the mornings before my son wakes up to get some "cuddle time" with my hubby. He loves it when I do that and vice versa. LOL

I too have gone through the news,that married couple are having two bedroom rather than one.But it doesnt mean that they fell out with eachother,or angry with eachother.the main reason found are snoring by male,cryinh of children in midnight and so on.In india if couple are having two beds and people know about it,Socially they are not considered a true spouse or they become the good source of time pass for public.So this is very rare case in my country but found commonly in western countries.

For me I couldn't sleep without having my hubby beside me. The nights that he works from 7 pm till 7 am and I have to go to sleep without him I toss and turn and barely sleep. I think that there are a ton of reasons why married couples might not share a bed. There could be one partner that snores loudly, talks in their sleep loudly, twitches and kicks around in their sleep, or even swings in their sleep. I don't know if they would break up because of it, but some might I don't know its hard to say. I'm not in that situation so those are just my thoughts.

I don't know. Maybe, it's a case to case basis. There might be people who are not comfortable sleeping with someone on their bed. In my case, i've always been used to having my husband beside me. As a matter of fact, before he leaves to work (he works at nightshift) he has to lay down beside me first til i get to sleep. So, i really don't know. However, the therapist may be right that it could be an issue of loss of love to each other, because somehow, the intimacy of being close together is lost in situations where couples sleep in separate locations.

To me I don't see a difference in if a couple sleeps in the same bed or apart. Just because they have different sleeping arrangements, does not mean that they will love eachother any less and can still enjoy eachother's company. Although I do understand some of the reasons that some couples sleep apart from eachother. I do feel that these issues can be overcome and certain arrangements can be made to suit each person and still be able to share the same bed. In fact I believe there are certain things out now that reduce snoring problems. There may even be a medical procedure that one can have to reduce snoring. Though don't take my word for it, I may be wrong.Also a person can place pillows in the sensitive areas so they aren't kicked, prodded, or slugged during the night.

Hmm. You know, I don't know. For me, I have trouble sleeping with someone else in bed just due to how I have to sleep - I'm disabled. Plus I have involuntary muscle spasms which are very annoying and sometimes painful for anyone in bed with me. I think it really mostly depends on the couple - some people may need that closeness to keep the bond strong, some may not.

MAybe it depends on how the couple relate with each other. In our case, my husband is not always with us so I dont have a husband to share the bed with. And when he's here, we share the bed but there were times I slept in another bedroom because I sometimes feel thet I'm not used to have someone beside me in bed, and he sometimes feel that way, too. But we love each and misses each other so much.

As for me I dont think there is anyway I could sleep in seperate rooms. I cant hardly sleep when my husband is not there with me. I have heard from people that it helps them but I just dont see how. The bedroom is supposed to be a sacred place and not to share that just seems wrong. My mom does not sleep in a bed, she sleeps on the couch b/c she has back problems. I am not one to judge though if sleeping in seperate beds works for some people thats great I am all for people being happily married I just dont see me doing it.

I think it would make sense that it would cause some distance. But to answer your original question, about if sleeping seperately can cause a couple to divorce or break up, I would assume that the couple was already having problems before they decided to sleep seperately. Kind of a chicken and the egg thing, you know? Like yeah, sleeping seperately could cause problems, but I think that there would have to be problems first to cause a couple to sleep seperately to begin with. Does that make sense? I know that it's probably not the case for everyone, but I can't imagine a reason why someone would want to sleep seperately from their partner unless they were having relationship problems, or one of them had a sleep disorder or something.

I agree with you, that couple who sleep apart can make their marriage in any bad condition or broke off. As in my culture most of the marriage couples they don;t really share the bed frequently. They still loves each other very much.Actually marriage is not based on sleeping together only.Its the mutual love between both husband and wife.

I think eventually it would draw two people apart, especially if they were physical during the dating stage of their relationship. if i had to sleep separately from my boyfriend after we were married, I'd find it easier to gt mad at him, and he would have a harder time getting me to calm down