Affectiion Displays
By webeishere
@webeishere (36313)
United States
March 14, 2007 1:17am CST
Okay here's a HUGE pet peeve of mine. I went to my wife’s restaurant early Tuesday night to have some delicious tabular salad. As I sat behind the counter eating a young couple (20s) came & ordered some food to go. They started off kissing each other standing near the register. Before too long he had his hands around her backside rubbing it. Now that was bad enough. Then they sat down near the register. She sat on his lap & let me say there was a lot of petting going on. Now this was in plain view of maybe 3 tables of customers. None said a word. I was getting ready to make a comment about their showing of their "love" for each other. Just as I turned to walk from behind the counter their order was done. Whew! No telling how I would have worded my feelings. So now how do you all feel about public displays of affection? I don't mind the kissing. Keep it to a minimum though. I don't mind the arms draped across butts etc. Keep them still though. The petting in public has GOT TO GO though. So what's your opinions? Have you seen outrageous displays that offended you personally? Let's hear from you.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!
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25 responses
@urbangirl (1456)
• Australia
14 Mar 07
These overt displays tend to make me laugh because they look silly in public. They don't offend me as such, but I end up feeling embarassed for the couple who get carried away because I think they tend to forget where they're at when they're in LURV liek this. It does make me think they're tacky though and lacking in manners.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Looked silly? They almost looked as if they were trying out for a role in an adult film. LOL! If their food hadn't come I was afraid of what display I'd see next. Thanks for the response.
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@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
14 Mar 07
So long as it does not go too far then it is nice that people can show thier love for each other, or even thier LUST for each other. But when two people srarto to go too far then someone has to step in and uncouple them so to speak because they might be in a different universe at that particular time
@HeidiRose (18)
• United States
14 Mar 07
My opinion is they were going to far. What if there had been children in the restaurant? Some parents would be answering some difficult questions. It's great to show everyone that you love your partner, but that wasn't exactly love, it was lust. Lust should be kept in the bedroom.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
14 Mar 07
AMEN! Luckily there were no children present. If so I'd have said something right away instead fof seeing more than the first display. Thanks for the response also.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Yes very true indeed.
My wife and I even kept our affection display to a LOW around our children as they grew up.
They saw hugging & kissing and hand holding was about it.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Absolutely Grandpa, I hate to see such things too. Me being in the younger generation, I still feel it's not right. I mean don't they have that much sense that they are in public and that they should behave themselves. It's definitely not a sight to see atleast for kids. When I moved to the US a year ago I kept asking my hubby if this goes on a lot here because that's what is shown in the movies all the time and where I come from people have such perceptions of the US because of the media. I felt relieved when he told me it does happen but not everywhere. Fortunately I haven't seen more than just kissing, I know I felt a little sick looking at that itself. It's not wrong but definitely not in public!
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
I am okey with public display of affection as long as it's limited to a kiss(just a peck), holding hands and making eyes with each other but beyond that I think it's no longer becoming. Blatant pecking in public is a complete no no. It actually tarnishes the 'love' that you claim to have for your partner. True love waits and respects and takes care ones reputation.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I love hearing the cultures of other Countries. Especially in things like this. Thanks sweetie.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
14 Mar 07
Well, I see! I would like to append that if the couple was married then what made them so much lusty at a public spot? Marriage actually is the social custom that has its own sactity, isn't it? Whether they were so restraint in home due to some reasons or the other? If the couple was like the boyfirend-girlfriend relation then I really blame "Liberty given by the society". In both the cases there is an unseen decorum of public place and being a civilised citizen one must observe that. Sorry for some harsh words. Thanks for sharing the above.
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@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
15 Mar 07
You have been copied by the newest cheater wang007 on page 4. He is just copying responses of everyone. I have reported him over 10 times today. Please anyone reading this report him too.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
16 Mar 07
There is a time and a place for that and well a restuarant is not that place.
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Totally agree with you Grandpa. I would not suport such behaviour. I just wonder what they want to proof by bringing their very personal love making to public. In a limit kissing ok...but after that ohhh I can't stand it. Fortunately I have not noticed such bizare kind of situation like you did. I can see people kissing in public every now and then. What you have witnessed, that kind of behaviour in public is insane.
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@KetanGulati (579)
• India
14 Mar 07
hey grandpa,,, that actually sounded me funny and at the same time quite outrageous and furious tooo... had i been with u as your grandson over there, I would have rather started talking to you very very very loudly that 'Hey grandpa, I don't know why a few people are literally so shameless and so much of pitiable non sense....grandpa ,...do people just grow by sizes and not by brains....or they don't know something is to e kept in private"...... I am sure they would have listened to it and would have rather attained the level of embarrasement I was planning to give them....hey dadu (indian word for grandpa)...don't think I i'm bad but i thought that they actually neeeded to be embarassed in order to make them realize of thier of their mistake.....
at the same time I even have an impression that they might bedoing it to attain more attentiofrom people....but why would someone do that?
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
15 Mar 07
hello? hey i'm here? hello? Did I get your attention? lol I love attention to but my wife won't even hold my hand in public. Loved your responses. Same attitude I have. Thanks for a laugh this afternoon.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
14 Mar 07
You just sat there, I would have told them to 'Get a room'. People like that are very rude and would have understood nothing less then a blunt comment.
You were way to patient, I am surprised that the proprietor of the restaurant said nothing. Or a this restaurant is rated PG or something.
By the way, what is a tabular salad?
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I waited maybe 3 minutes. Was getting ready to ream them big time but their food came up dang it. LOL. My wife would have killed me too I think. I can be very frank rude & to the point in an instance as this.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!
@kaplya (1578)
• India
14 Mar 07
i think people behave like that more to show off their love before the world "look how much in love we r that we don't even give u a damn!" than they actually feel for each other! in my opinion people really in love tend to respect each other enough to not to behave in this way.:) perhaps that's a way to keep the relationship going for people with such mentality!;)
by the way i have yet to see anything like that!lol
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
Honestly, I have no problems with people kissing and cuddling in public, it's a free country and they can do what they like.
When they start with the heavy petting and the groping, it's going TOO far! I like to show my love for my partner and I have no issues with doing it in public, but I'd never take it that far, and besides which, the kids are usually with us anyway.
I don't really recall a time when I've seen anything outrageous like this to be honest, and if I did, I think it would make me very uncomfortable.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I was very uncomfortable. But luckily their food came fairly quickly before Grandpa Bob said anything to them. LOL
@monica1981 (466)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I think hugging and kissing in public are alright, if kept to a minimum. If people wanted to see displays of what they were doing they'd rent an adult movie. Nobody wants to watch that in public.
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@ssuren (46)
•
15 Mar 07
Showing love in public places is not bad until people didn't cross their limit.I do think a light kiss, hugging, holding hands are normal thing. But if somebody goes beyond this it become embarresing to others too.I live in the country where these things such as love and affection don't shown in public, but still there are so many people come acrss who shocked you by their act.One day I went for a picnic with my family in a public place.After lunch I wandering here and there with my wife and my daughter When I saw some couple sitting under the tree and making ..... there are other couples too, who too are busy in these things. There are so many person standing nearby and enjoying it.But those people keep going and going.We take a turn from there and came to our place. But that incident still embarresses me.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Thanks for your response. I dont mind the normal affection in public. But this crossed a HUGE line.
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I'm totally in agreement with you. A small kiss is one thing...getting all involved makes you feel like a voyeur! A public place is no place for making out.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Oh, I don't like public display of affection in that way.Children might see...It's ok to hold hands,put your arm on ones shoulder, a peck on the cheek, a hug but not something gross out that could be not nice for children to see.
@carlaurens (188)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
I have seen many instances lika that, there's this one that like their making love, where waiting for a jeepney across the street ther's just this couple of teens maybe around 16-18, the girl is taking off the buttons of his boyfriend's shirt, and touching some parts, kissing, but they have seen us, and many of the passenger which are also just across them, maybe they are just teasing but hello, their actions just says "lets make love" just like that, and i have alos seen the boy was kissing her girl at the neck while the girl was looking for something to shop at.. Its ok to show your love for aomeone but in the right place,
@vashstampede992000 (2560)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Public Display of Affection consider as a part democracy..
They are free to do everything regarding their feelings, their love..
We cant blame so many people who's doing this but how can we stop them? Ask them why are they kissing while their doing it in front of many people?
Embarrassed them?
People must understand that PDA is not bad but im not saying that its also great!
But sometimes, we cant help our feelings to do these kinds of things if we are really inlove..
@CheSabCabMD (619)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Yeah, I'm quite disgusted with couples who go over the top when it comes to public display of affection. Holding hands, a light peck on the cheek or lips are ok, but something more than that should be kept in private.
