insanity, engagement, love, relationship, whirlwind romance
By chaddik
@chaddik (113)
Philippines
March 14, 2007 11:44pm CST
my friend got engaged in the last quarter of last year. their wedding is gonna be this june. she was so excited with her soon-to-come wedding until she found out that her boyfriend has a history of insanity. she is so confused at the moment and tells me she should have not been so drastic with her decision of marrying a guy she knew in just a short time. but boy! she's head over heels with the man!!i am so sad myself and cannot find words to comfort her. personally, allowing insanity to run through the genes of the family i would be making is the last in the list of things i never want to happen. but when love is there...??whew! help! how should i help my friend?
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4 responses
@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Thats one of the disadvantages of a whirlwind romance, you never got a chance to really know the man deeply. But what she has to do is weigh the pros and cons. It doesnt mean that when you have a history of insanity that you'll have again the chance of being insane and you told us that she loved the man. Maybe what she have to do is think 100 times, before really getting deep into it. What i know of that is when you are cured, you have medicines in contact so that it wont come back again. If she decides to marry him, well she shouldnt give him emotional breakdowns, no quarelling about petty things, love him unconditionally. maybe that way the insanity wont come back.
@aiai_embscado (38)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
agree with that, you have to weigh the pros and cons first. think about a million times.but since you said she's head over heels with the man, all she has to do is to love the guy unconditionally, be prepared for anything that might happen in the future(meaning marriage and having kids), and when things do get rough then annul the marriage. atleast you get to know him better...
@khalablue (309)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
Obviously they are very much in love and are still planning on going through with the marriage.
One of the things that they might consider doing is having her fiancee's DNA analyzed to see if he carries the gene for the particular type of mental health problem that runs in his family. If he does not carry the gene it is impossible for him to transmit it to his children. Knowing that, would certainly enable them to make a better informed decision as to whether or not they should consider having children or adopting.
@matlgal (1686)
• United States
15 Mar 07
WOW that is truly a tough one isn't it?. I feel for her but to further extend the problem would be cruel and dangerous. I would insist on having to adopt children or have none. I would have a pre-nup if they each have equal properties etc. Love is Love but an entire family line is different.
I would encourage them to get some couples counseling, and also to talk with their clergy.
It's a rough call! I hope they make good decisions.
@wildhorse (1293)
• Egypt
15 Mar 07
I think if he had insanity history in his family but he was never effected it doesn't mean that his children will have it, your friend should seek a doctor help to know how likley this may happen.
