I need advice!! Any happily welcomed
@elizabethbrook (1)
March 15, 2007 12:25am CST
ok so im 17 and have been through alot in my life i have a 4 yr old whom is my heart and soul. I swear iv loved her since before i knew her. Unlike most teenage mothers i didnt birth livia. I dated her father since she was 2 weeks old and he ran leaving her in my custody. Then i began dating this guy who stole my heart and we dated for 4 yrs we truely loved each other in all the right ways and he loved my daughter she called him daddy. J died in a car crash in 2005 i was devastated and lost a year of being happy to grief. I finally found someone who made me happy I fell in love with Matt and we were together a pretty good while and i trusted him he was my heart and i would have given anything for him. I opened up to him about things not many people knew. Being stupid teenagers we got pregnant. He is in the army and didnt know. I couldnt talk to him to tell him so i was waiting till i could to tell him instead of doing it through a letter.. But he cheated and it hurt me alot i was 2 months along and ended up miscarring. Matt now knows that. Well iv now been talkin to this guy for a month, we have both just come out of bad relationships so we're taking it slow. We're happy and he's the first guy that makes me forget about Matt.. Only thing is he called me tonight and his ex is pregnant and he doesnt know if its his or not.. Im willing to stay wit him.. I mean there is something between us.. But he doesnt know wat to do.. He wants to be wit me and hates the idea of getting back into that bad relationship.. But if its his he doesnt want to put his baby through not being in every part and day of its life.. Please give me some advice as on what to say and do?!?! I want things to go right. He makes me happy for the first time in a while
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@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
You have been through a lot of problems. I salute you because you remain strong even at your young age to continue with your life. My advice is give time for yourself to grow up. You handle everything in a hurry. You are very young and there are still many good things that awaits you. Then if one day you are old enough then that is the time for you to settle down and choose the right guy.
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
16 Mar 07
hey, well im only 18, i thought i have been through heaps but by looks of it no where as much as you. i think give yourself some space and let him decide what he is going to do. dont give yourself to anyone til you know that he giving yourself to you. im not the best person to be giving advice, but i know some guys just dont care and they all say they do.
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@classy56 (2880)
• United States
15 Mar 07
you are so young.an you are also a mother.if you were my daughter.i would tell her to quit worrying about boys or men.an think about going to school an getting a degree.to get a good job.you have plenty of time to find the right man for you.an you need to get on the pill for birth control.an if you boy friends now already has his ex pregant.just get out of that mess.things will never go right with this guy.take my advise an start thinking of your education an keep your mind on your child.years down the road you will be glad you did.
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@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
16 Mar 07
How can a 17 year old get custody of a child? If he just left her with you and ran and you didn't report that, can't you get in trouble down the line. It all has to be legal. And I don't think any state will give a 17 year old custody.
And about the other stuff. Just be honest, go with your heart. You know deep down what is right. Just go with your heart. I wish you luck.
@bluekisses06 (140)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
it's really a tough one..I think you're hurrying your life...You better to enjoy first, your still young..Try to give some space and time to your self..You need time to think and analyze your past experiences...Im sure from that you learned a lot of things and you should applied that in your life..There's a lot of guys out there and you deserve someone that will treat you special...About that guy..hmm...its better if you be friends for now and know each other very well..
@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
16 Mar 07
You have had a very hectic and difficult few years. That being said, your post says it all. As you changed relationships, you stopped mentioning how the guys felt about your child. The focus might have changed without you realizing it. I think you need a little time to refocus and get yourself straight before making any major decisons about this guy. Hey, if he is the one, he will understand and it will give him some time too. Whatever you decide, I wish you and your child the best !
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
No matter which path you chooese i will wish you happiness ok , just be happy and try not to mess with thoese people with a evil heart yea .... of course try not to hear what they say but see what they had done yea
@mizrak07 (557)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
My advice is for you to give yourself time. You're young and you should not rush into things that you'll regret later on. You should focus on your child, and whatever decisions you make in your life always consider if it is also the best for your daughter.
Love makes a person blind, what if he is another one of those "wrong" men again? Let him fix his life first, if he is for you God will bring him back to you.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
Honestly my advice would be to do a little priority check. I'm not trying to be mean or rude, but the child should be your main concern right now. Do what is best for you. Go through your schooling, get a great job that you love and gives you and the child stability. Then worry about guys. They are the last thing you should be worried about because as you have said you have had a lot on your plate. Just give yourself time to be you, get to know you, get the child to get to know you and you her, and grow together. a child should always come first. Those are my thoughts anyhow.
