How do you argue?

I hate confrontations of any sort. I was abused when I was younger and in my first marriage, so I tend to shy away from arguements. I am very fortunate that my hubby encourages me to speak my mind and tell him how I feel. We have very few fights. When we do though, I tend to get very quiet and let him have his "moment". When it is all over, and he calms down, then we come back together and talk about the issue. It works very well for us.

I'll leave an arguement first and let the situation cool down...don't want anything to be said that shouldn't be.

I am a confronter and a debater, who sometimes says the wrong things in the heat of the moment. My husband would rather give me the silent treatment when he's mad-- which I ABSOLUTELY HATE!! Nothing is worse-- I'd rather talk it (or yell it) out and get everything out on the table.

You know I've always been a quiet person and couldn't argue even if I wanted to. But with some of my boyfriends I argued and told them things I regretted of later. With my husband, it's something else. Even if I don't agree with him, I don't confront him, I try to speak thoughtfully and quietly. In fact, he does the same, so we don't quarrel. If we do, it's not seriously, just as a joke.

Me and my husband have never had arguments except some minor ones because he is a very cool headed guy who just does not say anything when I am angry.But I am not an extrovert either.I tend to bottle up my feelings and when I can't take it anymore,write it down on a piece of paper and tear it to shreds.That way,no bad words are said and I feel light headed too.If the issue is too serious,I like to have a discussion with whomever I have the issue with.