Why does every parent LOVE their child?
@lordwarwizard (35747)
Singapore
March 16, 2007 2:49pm CST
I was lying on my bed last night, depressed over being deleted from a friend's friend list. I won't go into that again since I have said my piece already. Anyway I was hugging my bolster and thinking, and ultimately, my thoughts went to my parents.
I know they love me very much, and I am guilty of not showing them that I love them as much. Maybe it's my ego or maybe it's a habit thingy. Somehow I just find that I can't be as expressive in real life as I am at e.g. myLot. Do you find your behavior when among friends different from when you are with your parents?
And it just set me thinking - what have I done to deserve this selfless love from them? What's so good about me? Why does every parent love their child?
Here, I want to relate a real incident involving my Mum. If myLot doesn't go glitchy again, you should be able to see the photo below. It was taken with my previous phone some time back. My Mum had just learned how to make this pizza-looking snack then. It was made from bread with the toppings you see in the picture - ham and crab meat. There was also another topping that is not shown - pineapple slices.
That day, I was busy with some typing at my PC when my Mum came into my room with this freshly made snack. She was smiling proudly and asking how many marks I would give for her first attempt. I remembered taking just one glance and commenting off-handedly that I simply hated pineapples. I then went back to my typing since I was too engrossed. Moments later, she reappeared with the snack - but with the pineapples removed. It was such a casual remark, and an outsider would feel that it was something trivial - yet I was so touched at that moment that I almost cried.
After she left my room, I snapped a picture of it and titled it "Mother's love". It is a tangible reminder of my Mum's love for me, and I still keep it in my new phone.
I am still single so even though I can guess, I just find it hard to understand. Why does every parent love their child - so selflessly and without asking anything in return? If you have any touching tales regarding your parents and you, please do share too. ;-)
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44 responses
@rainbow (6761)
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16 Mar 07
I think as parents we see the person we once were and how we wanted our parents to know everything without being told and to do everything for us without ever being given a hint of what was wanted or needed.
You mum simply took away the bit that you were not happy with, if only all childrens problems were so simple, I can imagine her standing outside your room eating your pineapple, bless her, or taking it to the kitchen and checking your sarnie for perfection.
My mum would have told me to take it out then or to be grateful I got a sandwich, lol.
All most of us parents ever want is for our kids to be happy, never expecting that our kids might ever think the same of us. Learn to give your mum a love for no reason, it will mean a lot to her, does she know about the photo - she should that was very sweet and touching of you, she'd like that a lot!
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@brckoba (795)
• United States
16 Mar 07
As a parent I can tell you that our children are the most precious gift in the entire universe and all we want from them is to be happy. I have a memory about my mom like yours. This was during the war in my country. At that time my whole family had to move to a city to live with some distant relatives. I didn't know anybody there and I was very sad because I didn't really have any friends. When i get sad I usually eat a piece of chocolate and that makes me feel a little better, but because of the war, candies were very scarce specially chocolates. I told my mom that I really wanted a chocolate, but my mom told me there were none. I went to bed everyday for an entire week extremely sad, until one morning my mom came to my bed and woke me up. She said she had a surprise for me and asked me to close my eyes and open my hand. I did. I felt that she put something on my palm. When I open my eyes, lo and behold there was a piece of chocolate. I felt like my world had stopped for one moment. I was so happy! It wasn't until later when I found out that my mom had to trade a pair of earing for that piece of chocolate. What she did for me helped me realize the love I have for my parents.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
I am imagine the scene.. very touching.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
16 Mar 07
For most animals, humans included with few exceptions, it is just an inate natural feeling to love the off spring that we created. To have a child growing inside your body for 9 months, puts a special bonding between child and mother. It is just the way nature is my dear.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
There is a Chinese saying that translates to "No matter how evil/vicious/fierce a tiger is, she still wouldn't eat her own cubs".
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Not every parent loves their children, there are some that should never have children within 10 feet of them. Anyway, those wired properly are grateful for the life that has been entrusted to them. They wanted to share their life with kids. Some children are very difficult to love. Others are quite easy.
I am the same no matter where I am. I know nothing of anything that is other than who or what I am.
I hope your parents are good ones and that when given the chance you can be as good or even better in the future. Good luck my friend.
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
i totally agree that not all parents love their children. some people even try, or actually kill, their children. some fathers even rape their daughters. some mothers sell their kids. some get their babies aborted.
i am grateful though that i had such wonderful parents. i admit i'm a total headache. but my mother never gave up. i'm not really a disrespectful child or a rebel, but simply because i am such a thinker, sometimes i tend to defy my mother, fighting for what i believe was right.
since i'm an only child, they tend to spoil me. and growing up, i didn't like the feeling of being spoiled. so i tend to get away at times, just not to be spoiled.
i love my parents so much, but never really showed them. i think they felt i hated them, but in fact, i loved them so much.
i wish i could turn back time to tell my mom and let her feel how much i love her.
i love you so much ma... see you in heaven... c",)
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
They are very good parents. But I do think all parents love their children - ultimately. If they don't, they are likely to be underaged or too self-centered. I guess it is quite reasonable to say that at least 99% of the parents fit the bill?
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
17 Mar 07
It's nice to think that all parents love and treasure their kids, but 99% is probably pretty close, with a lot left over anyway.. And It would be great if all people cared for children (unfortunately I watch way too much news). I was born way premature and I was in the hospital for six weeks after birth, and in those days they didn't understand the value of bonding and nursing, etc.. My mom and I never bonded, my brother has said later she hated me. We never did bond until I was grown, had been gone for the most part of 15 years, and then we bonded, but I think it was more me being the parental one.. and that's ok. Even though my folks were abusive, both in their own ways, and also in some similar ways,Ive been able to forgive them, and I love my (little) parents with a very tender love, and like my other response, it's because God is Love. He's also Life. And I guess he likes families.
:))
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@ukchriss (2097)
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17 Mar 07
I think all parents love their children in their own ways, but some just don't know how to show or even say that they do.
I cant remember the last time my mum said she loved me and I can Never remember my dad ever saying it.
Other parents - yes like me, love their children unconditionally but the children Just don't return that love and it just tears me up inside…
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
17 Mar 07
...are they teenagers? My daughters 24 and has only recently come out of the "I hate my mom (besides she's so dumb) phase".. and son is 26 and any criticism (or maybe even a questyion) still gets ya a tongue lashing, especially if you're his parent! AND he knows everything! We do everything the wrong, dumb and iefficient way -- ahhh, aren't kids grand? Somehow they still are..! Maybe we're just crazy!
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
16 Mar 07
To me, I believe the reason parents love their children so selflessly is because it is a life that they have created. No matter what that child does with his/her life, that love will always be there, for this same fact.
I come from a single parent home, that wasn't all that well off. It was a real struggle for my mom to make sure that my brother and I were taken care of, but no matter how tight money would become, my mother would always find a way to take us kids out and do something special with us. I would often wonder how my mother never came to in a sense scorn or hate my brother and I, cause to me it seemed like we were at times a burden. She never did anything to make me feel this way, it was just an observation I had come to make. Though she always showed unconditional love for us, it amazed me to say the least. My mother has always been an inspiration to me and I can only hope that I become as good a parent as she was.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
i think that's just how it supposed to be and it is just a natural feeling and reaction that every parents love their children unconditionally... my parents also love me very much and they sacrifice everything for me... i will do the same thing as well when i have children in the future... and one thing for sure, we can never repay our parents' love to us no matter what we do to them or even until we die... the only thing that we can do is to respect and cherish them...
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@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
16 Mar 07
I believe we're all know that children is a gift from God. God is simply wonderful. Every parents want to ensure that their children will carry parent's heritage, knowledge and hope that will be carried over when their children finally have children of their own. Parents love their children so much and their duty is to raise and feed the children until they are old enough to live on their own. Parents protect their children at all costs and wants to give the best to their children. That's the unconditional love and I'm sure that parents will also treasure their children. When I have children I will make sure that I will give them my best I could give and protect them at all costs.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Aww that is so sweet of your mom wiz, I know how you would have felt. Often we take our parents and their love for granted. They silently bear our thoughtlessness only because they know we are their own. I know I've hurt my parents too on many occasions and feel so miserable and hate myself for it. But when I realised it I made sure I apologized to them for being so selfish and inconsiderate. I'm unable to recall a specific incident as of now but I'm sure I've been there too. When I got married and came away to the US, every word my mom and dad told me increased in value all of a sudden. I ignored their advice when I was with them and now it was all clear. I wrote poems for both my mom and dad, letting them know how much they mean to me:)I've learnt to say "I love you" more often than before.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
16 Mar 07
wizard let me start this response with saying i was very touched by your story
i do not know why parents loves us selflessly and without asking anything in return but it is beautiful and i hope that some day i would be able to be in the place our parents are now and show this love to my kids
second of all your mother seems like a wonderful person
i guss only when we will be in the same place they are we really would know the answer:)
i think alote of times we take things for granted and only when we get old and start seeing things and other behaviors of human beings just then we really start understand how much our parents love us and we start appriciating them:)
you are lucky..not all parents have this tottal love for their kids..you belong to the lucky ones:)
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
She is!
You've seen what a wonderful lordwiz I am so I am sure you can guess how even more wonderful my parents are. LOL :PPP
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
17 Mar 07
I am not a parent, hence I am unable to share my personal story. I ever asked my mom this question. She said "Just because you are my child. Every parent will love their child, no matter what". It's as simple as that.
I have 2 nephews and 2 nieces. I feed them during meal times when they are young. I would do the same thing as what your mom did - remove what they don't like and give them what they like, to the extent, giving them what they wanted to eat in place of their proper meal - Today, when I saw my mom did such things to my nephews and nieces, I say she is pampering them, knowing very well, I too do such things.
I love my nephews and nieces too. I do not know why too. Perhaps it is because I helped to babysit them, be there for them when they cry, play with them and see them grow up? Perhaps I have subconsciously created a bond with them?
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
17 Mar 07
Oh maybe there is a caring virus spreading around the world.
@Gabrielle1609 (278)
• Singapore
17 Mar 07
you won't know until you got your own kids... every parent can tell you how it feels... but you will still never understand... cuz parents' love can never be understood until you are a parent yourself... it's just like a virgin asking you what does making out feel like... can you explain to her how it feels? will she understand the feeling?
i used to hate naughty kids especially when their parents don't even try to discipline them outside... but when my baby came, i know why they don't do that... i now understand kids are curious naturally... and it's not good to suppress their curiosity...
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
17 Mar 07
Everyone loves his own creations as parents brought us in this world so they have a special bond with this. Our existense is because of them. They have brought us up and consider us their images.We share lots and lots with them. So every parent love their children.
@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
That is a beautiful story of love between mother and son. I love my kids dearly but I wonder if they feel they same way about me. They have live with my bipolar for a good part of there lives. Alot of rocky roads we traveled. I have only be offically diagnosed 5 years but I have had it longer than that. So they dealt with it as young children and I was unmedicated. But I love them so much but they think I am incompement and stupid.(because of the side effects of the meds and the illness). Love your Mom. It will always make her happy. Leave no doubt because it tears us apart inside.
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@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
17 Mar 07
Yes sometimes I also wonder why our parents just love us so selflessly and sometimes it makes me think again on whatever I am doing. They can and they do always forgive us for all our mistakes not matter how big they are.
They love us justs so much.
I do have one such tale to relate.
It was about 2 weeks back when I came back home after celebrating my college fest. I had nice pain in my neck and back, and I was just sharing my pain with family and suddenly my dad told me to just lay down on the bed and then he gave me a good oil massage and that was at this age when I am supposed to give him massages and press his legs. It just made my eyes wet and heart weak.
No matter what I have done in my life but they still love me, even if they sometimes fall short of understanding me but they still love me a lot.
I love my parents
Take Care
May GOD Bless YOU
@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
17 Mar 07
You know...I am not sure, but that total and selfless love is there. I have two kids and from the MOMENT I found out I was pregnant, I was in love. When I felt them move inside me the first time, I was deeper in love and when I saw them, I was totally and completely lost. No matter what happens in my life--or theirs--I am always going to love them with my entire heart. Nothing else matters. Maybe it's because they are a creation of ourselves. Maybe it's because they are part of us. But, then why is there the same deep love with adopted parents and their adopted children? You bring up a great question and I don't think there are any easy answers. But, know...that when you do have children, you will have this same love for your kids whether biological or adopted..you would die for your kids.
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
I am the mom of two incredible wonderful amazing children. A daughter who will be 16 in a couple of weeks and a 13 year old son that gives me more joy by just existing.
I remember the day the both of them were born...its like before that moment I could not picture my life with them, and then seconds after they were born I could not imagine my life without them...
Having children mean more to some than others, but most parents love their children unconditionally, its just natural, or it was for me. From the moment they opened their eyes for the first time, to their first cry into this crazy uncertain world i loved them with my whole being and would lay down my life instantly for either of them in a heartbeat...
It brings tears to my eyes just even thinking for a second what my life would be like if they were not in it. They make life for me worth living and inspire things in me I probably would never even consider or achieve...
Parents love their children the way your mom loves you because you are worth loving and because there is a purpose to your life and existence, even during times when you cannot see it yourself. You ask your mom and she will agree with me whole heartily.
We try to influence the best from our children at all times and hope and pray that we have raised them properly to face this world on their own as strong adults.
Something as simple as making you a sandwich is her way of telling and showing you that you are loved. Its nice that you can appreciate it, never forget to tell her also that she is loved in return...
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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17 Mar 07
That is a lovely story. I bet your mum is one in a million. I have kids and I don't understand the chemistry but the minute they were born they were my little babies I would have done anything for them. It is very hard to explain and I hope one day you will experience it. But your mother sounds like she has the gift of patience as well as love. I'm not sure I would have been as nice as your mum .... I might have removed the pineapple but nnot sure were I would have dumped it! LOL.
My eldest son was misbehaving and I had really had enough so I just walked away from him and refused to talk to him. His response was "Please start shouting at me mum!" When I asked him why he said that he replied "Because that's your thing. You shout and rant but then it's all forgiven and forgotton." I was actually quite confused by this so he went on and said "When you shout I know it's because you care and are paying attention to us. If you ignore us I know I've really upset you!". I could've cried.
Every parent responds differently with their children. Some would say it is cruel that a mum could shout at her kids and they see it as a good thing. But that is better than beating them and not caring at all.
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