my kids have a different last name
By dragonstar13
@dragonstar13 (1465)
United States
March 17, 2007 12:48am CST
its common enough in this day of divorce and unmarried couples having babies. after my divorce, i took back my maiden name so my kids grew up with their dad's last name, different than mine.
my daughter also took my maiden name when she divorced but her children kept their dads. dad has since remarried and he took his new wife's name. so my poor grandbabies have neither their mother or father's last name. have anyone encountered this before.
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Let me tell you this. My oldest is my only son. I never married his father but I gave my son his last name and I still had my maiden name. A few years later I had another child by another guy and he left me before I even gave birth so I gave her my maiden name as a last name. When I got married I took my husbands name. We have 2 kids together and they have my husbands name.
We do what we have to for our kids. Who cares that they have diffrent last names. As long as they are happy, that is all that matters.
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@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
My head is spinning from confusion *smile*. I have a cousin who have a daughter with her ex-husband, the daughter is carrying his father's name. Then their marriage got annulled (there's no divorce in our country) so my cousin got her maiden name back. After a few years she got pregnant through her current partner (he's still married) and the baby got her partner's last name. So now my counsin have a different last name from her kids and her two kids have different last names too.
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@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
18 Mar 07
Wow I have never heard of someone going through that much. What a pain eh??? I am separated and have been for almost 3 years but I kept my married name. I have had my married name for 21 years so I can't be bothered to change it and change all my identification. So me and my kids have kept our last
names.
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@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
17 Mar 07
When I married my husband, I took his last name. When we divorced, I kept his last name. I am never going to use my maiden name again, too many bad memories of my family. My daughter has the same last name that I and her father do. When she had children and the father couldn't be bothered to be a part of their lives, she gave them her last name [which is also mine too]. All five of us have the same last name, me, my daughter and her three boys. The boys have asked a lot of questions and I am glad to be able to tell them that my last name is the same as theirs and they seem glad too. My daughter feels more of a family connection by having the same last name that I do. This is just for me and my family but I am very glad that we all have the same last name and so are they. We actually need the same name because overall, the rest of the family are not close to the five of us so its like we are orphans except for each other. This is what works for us.
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@aaa0126 (205)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
yes but in my situation, tsk tsk, in my baptismal certificate(i raised as a catholic,until now)my surname is different from my birth certificate,, how can that possible, i asked my mom, she has'nt no guts to tell me the truth,, i asked her whose surname is that? but i can't forced her,some of us holds a secret and i know it's unfair for me,for not telling me the truth we had a big fight of course, coz up to now, i can't apply for a passport,,coz that's the problem, the DFA required me to submit old documents for processing!and how can i submit my baptismal certificate if it is not match to my real surname that indicate in my birth certificate!?
i know it's not similar from your case but i just want that to get out of my hair! thank you
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@dragonstar13 (1465)
• United States
3 Apr 07
No actually it wasn't. I suspect you read only the title of my post and not the whole post. I was commenting on how my grandchildren's last name is different than both their mother and their father. Their parents both chose to change their names after the divorce. I had nothing to do with that.
