Does Marriages Really Last or Is It Just In Fairy Tales

Marriage  - a man and a woman getting married
@sidoney (1033)
Jamaica
March 17, 2007 4:25pm CST
Do most people honestly think that there marriage will really last (till death do us part)when they get married or is it that they just do what they feel at a specific moment and ignore the signs that say this will not last they follow the feeling of infatuation instead of waiting for true love
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7 responses
• United States
17 Mar 07
marriages can last forever. they take a lot of hard work and rarely are like they appear in the fairytales. children raised to expect fairytale marriages can expect to end up in divorce court.
• Australia
17 Mar 07
Now that is a great answer. I agree with you totally. Marriages are a lot of hard work it is give and take from both sides. You married that person warts and all so don't expect them to miraculatiously change to who you want them to be. You have to accept their faults and be joyful in their good parts.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
18 Mar 07
i guess your willingness to work hard at it is hat diferciate love from infatuation
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Some marriages can last.My grandmother been married over 40 years so its possible that can last forever.When i get married i hope mine last forever.
@Sicantik (706)
18 Mar 07
I have only been married for almost 6 years so I can't really tell. Although at this moment it seems like possible for my husband and I to stay together. We've been together for 11years, love each other very much and have kids to keep us together. But I guess time will tell. All the best...xx
• Singapore
18 Mar 07
i dunno if any marriages now last even 10 years...
• Australia
18 Mar 07
Yes i do agree with you on the part that marriages are not a fairy tale and a lot of hard work. But i would say this is one hard work which you will enjoy to begin with and in a few days it will be smooth sailing for you and ur partner...more like a Fairy tale. You are the Captain of this ship called marriage steer it with hardwork,Love,committment and you will sail thru all the storms to reach a fairy Land.
• United States
17 Mar 07
i sure do hope its true! actually, i think that they can as long as both partners are willing to put effort into the relationship. if one just figures "this isnt going the way i wanted" and throws their arms up in the air, then its not going to work. i dont think too many people take vows as seriously anymore. before my husband and i got married, i made sure to make it VERY clear to him that i truely beleived in the vows of marriage. that once i was married, i was not going to accept the idea of divorce easily....unless it was called for (abuse of any kind, cheating, or worse) i was so happy when i saw that he felt the same way about marriage. we try so hard to talk things thru and resolve our issues. we know that by arguing and making up BUT not talking about the actual argument is a big mistake. we try to clear it up as much as possible.
@shoelover (896)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
I overheard somebody when I first got married that my marriage would only last for 5 years. I was so angry that they would give me a time limit. I have now been married for 24 years and love seeing the peoples faces who said that. They themselves have been married and divorced a few times now. I never let an argument get to the point of yelling and screaming. We wait till we have both calmed down if something makes us angry then talk about what happened as to why that person got upset. We make shared decisions and keep the spontenaety in our marriage.