****** womens question!!! ******
By xXmeganxX
@xXmeganxX (4420)
March 17, 2007 6:10pm CST
hey ladys!!!! im just wondering if any of you have had children?? if YES then please do reply and let me know if you suffer from this problem!!
right i have just 1 child, before i had her i could drink a 2 litre of whatever drink and NOT pee for about 3 hours! Now if i have about 2 glasses of juice, water, milk whatever i have to run the toilet because it will just come out!!
does anyone else have a weak bladder from having children?? it's a horrible feeling too when im out and i have to wait in a queue to use the loo! ahh i nearly cry incase i wet myself, lol. luckily i haven't!!
please share also is this normal to happen!
thanks in advance! =)
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38 responses
@caramello (4377)
• Australia
18 Mar 07
Yes this is quite normal and exercises that can be done can prevent the problem from increasing as you get older or maybe have another child.
They are called pelvic exercises and should be done daily!
@xXmeganxX (4420)
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18 Mar 07
thanks for the information caramello, i should do some of them! =)
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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18 Mar 07
col, i hope i do get a little bit better and stay off the loo hehe! thanks for responding marlyse! =)
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@dreamingmyth (594)
• United States
18 Mar 07
yes after having my son i noticed that i had to pee more often then before, and i just cant hold it as long either..
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@princess1011 (340)
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18 Mar 07
This is just one of the things we have to put up with i'm affraid.
Coughing isnt such a problem for me - its sneezing!
There are the pelvic floor exercises you can try which are supposed to help. Also when you pee try to stop mid flow then start again. Only do it once though. Try to do this every other day. It is meant to give you more control but you shouldnt do it too often as it can confuse your bladder apparently - just something I read somewhere.
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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18 Mar 07
okay thanks for the tips princess i will try these out and see if this helps a little! =)
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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18 Mar 07
okay thanks for the tips princess i will try these out and see if this helps a little! =)
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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18 Mar 07
ahh i thought it would dissapear one day, obviously not haha! aww well! thanks alot for sharing with me! =)
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
awwww that sounds quite bad! thanks alot for your informative response, now i understand! =)
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
18 Mar 07
You don't get a weak bladder because your child lay on it. Your bladder becomes weak because during pregnancy and then birth the pelvic muscles all become stretched to their fullest degree. Think of it like a big piece of elastic. Stretch it tighter and tighter over a nine month period and bits of elastic will break. When you stop stretching, instead of returning to it's original form, it will have lots of weak sections where the fibres have let go.
The same thing happens to our pelvic muscles including those muscles that let us control our bladder.
I only have to think about peeing and I do. Sometimes I begin before I've sat down on the loo and that's yucky. Even if I go just before a shower, I always start to pee when I turn the shower on.
I wear a pad these days. All the time. How romantic is that?
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@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I also have a weak bladder and it started after giving birth to my youngest. Its annoying and I'm afraid there isn't much to do about the situation.
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
aww sharon, we will just have to star wearing adults nappies then, lol! thanks for your response
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 07
Yes Meg and it is quite normal to
I know it is not nice and it will get better but it will never stop all together as you know mine are 23 and 20 now and I still have that problem but not as bad. The worse time is when I cough and that I do hate.
@xXmeganxX (4420)
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18 Mar 07
aww gabs yes ive had the problem with the coughing too! i hope it clears a bit because i go to the loo like every 15 minutes and it's so annoying i have to run upstairs and then back down and then up and really i do it about 10 times a day i think im going to be needing a stair lift or even using my daughter's potty by the looks of it, lol! thanks for leting me know that it's normal tho! =)
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@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I did not suffer this for long. It was right after I had my son. I do not have a weak bladder now. I was just at the Dr. discussing this with her Friday. I made the comment that I do not expel as much as I take in. She said that was ok because a lot of people have a stronger bladder than others. The reason we even had this discussion was due to some swelling caused by water retention. She also said those with weak bladders will always have them most of the time. There really isn't much you can do except pick the times you drink and make a restroom is near by.
@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
ooh i see wmg ahh so it will never stop then, lol! =( thanks alot for sharing this with me
@CollectingMyThoughts (304)
• United States
18 Mar 07
from the baby sitting on your bladder and from all the straining during giving birth your poor bladder has taken a beating. Try doing Kiegle exercises.
Basically, it's tightening the muscles that you use to start and stop the flow of urine. They can be done anywhere at anytime and they do help. I had twins that totally murdered my bladder. After 2 months of doing them 5 times a day 30 times each time and my bladder is better. Try it
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
ive tried doing some of them last night, im going to do sme more later today and see how i get on after about a week, thanks for sharing with me
@indigorain666 (47)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Yes I too have this problem when I cough and sneez or even if water is runnings. Sad but trued my kids are 12 and 14 and it never goes away...
@mamaof4toddlers (123)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I do i hate it always going. I have 4 kids.
claire
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@funtimes (5)
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18 Mar 07
Yes I had this problem aswell my boys are now 9 and 7, I asked my doctor this after I had my first son and he told me to really concentrate on pelvic floor muscles, so next time you rush off for your wee try and stop it mid flow just try this a few times a day and you will probably start seeing a difference..good luck
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
ive started doing some yesterday anyways funtimes, hopefully i should see a difference a little soon. thanks for sharing with me
@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
18 Mar 07
megan you are not alone as you can see. If it is bother some see your doctor. I have 3 kids, and yes I can't hold it like I use to be able to before kids. But I haven't pee'd on myself, and that would concern me if I was you and would go to the doctor to make sure that something more serious wasn't wrong. Most likely it is normal. When I was pregnant, I couldn't cough or I'd pee on myself, but not after I gave birth, it was when I was very pregnant.
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@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
i see avonrep1, im going to see my doctor anyways just to see if i don't have any other problems! thanks for sharing with me
@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Hi! Don't feel bad, I have the same problem, if I plan on going out to shop or whatever I have to remember not to drink anything so I won't have to go to the bathroom a million times =) I use to joke that when my daughter was born part of my bladder came out with her, because I was like you, could drink alot and not have to go, but now it is different. It is normal I guess, but a pain!!
@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
yes it sure is a pain, lol! thanks for letting me know it's normal anyway michele21
@sangita999 (210)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Yes meghan.this is absolutely normal.do some pelvic excercise,my sister in law had also the same problem ,she got operated after her second baby,now she is perfectly normal, and control loo.
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@Nikki83 (164)
• United States
18 Mar 07
it's normal. I have a problem with my bladder when I have to go it's very painful like i had been holding my urine for a long time and when I do go to the restroom it's like a release like a hugh weight had been lifted off my bladder and I have 4 kids. i guess from so much presser being on my bladder without really no break from having my kids it makes it hurt so I have to go once i feel that i have to go cause i can't stand for the pain. if i would have spaced my kids out more then I probably wouldn't have this problem. all my kids are from 9 - 20 months apart. with just one year gap between my second child and my third child
@xXmeganxX (4420)
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19 Mar 07
awww nikki, sorry to hear you have this problem too! thanks alot for sharing with me
@renasance (14)
• Canada
18 Mar 07
I have one. She's 3 years old now. Love her to pieces.
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