Do you think that extra-martial affairs are the biggest root cause of divorce

In my opinion, i think cheating is either a 'side-effect' of a marriage gone wrong...or it is simply the fact that the person who is/was cheating is 'A Cheater' and has been doing it all along. I think those who are perpetually infaithful have no conscious and/or disconnect love and 'the act' in their minds..People say 'once a cheater, always a cheater' or 'a leopard can't change it's spots'..I think it depends on the person individually. Sometimes people do make mistakes, and it CAN be an isolated incident. As for those who have a pattern, a history of cheating, they are more likely to be 'the leopard'..I'm not saying that the leopard cannot change it's spots, it is more of a matter of 'won't' -in most cases..

I see a lot of answers that say if it got to cheating, something is very wrong in the marriage to beging with. I don't think that is always the case. There are some people that cannot for the life of them, control themselves in that aspect of their life. They may love their spouse very much, but have urges to do things with others. I think the biggest root cause of divorce is the lack of desire to try and make the marriage work. People are getting divorced now like they are changing their underwear. Marriage is a commitment and takes work. I think divorce is fine if a spouse is being abused, a child is being abused, a spouse is continually unfaithful. But more and more I see people getting divorces because, they don't get along, because he doesn't help with chores, because she doesn't cook like mom. It is becoming an epidemic, and people need to think about what they are doing before commiting themselves to a marriage in the first place.

I think so. Because it causes too much pain for the party offended. You cant avoid feeling insecure and incapable of being a good wife to your husband. The hurt it created will bring much more pain if the affair continue and the marriage will eventually collapse.

I think selfishness (which also causes extra-marital affairs) is the primary and possibly sole cause of divorce.

Something happens far before the affair takes place. And that is what leads to the cheating. When it reaches the cheating stage, the marriage is pretty well doomed.

there are certaim factors why a marriage would end in divorce. and the number one cause is really money matters. extra-marital affairs for me is secondary. this just shows that each partner doesnt love each other or they just dont understand each other very well to try to compromise with each other and try to make each other happy while making yourself happy as well. when a person has an affair, its not that hes a bad person and that he doesnt love his partner, its just that something is not right in the relationship, the other half has done something that cause him to cheat. in a marriage or any relationship it takes two to tango, it require teamwork. the act of giving and taking should be there.

Divorce is so easy now that marriage has lost it's respect. When there is a problem in the relationship it is easier to run away rather than fight to save a marriage. No, I think the desire for eternal perfection in your partner is the root cause for divorce.

No, I think that money is the biggest cause of divorce. I find that people all have different views about money and its importance and that causes lots of problems in relationships.

I think if one of the partners is unfaithful that is a valid reason for divorce. I think lack of respect for one another is the number one reson for divorce. And I would say making love with somone else is a huge show of disrespect for your mate.

no i do not think so. i think that the problems that caused the couples to get a divorce are much deeper and existed much before this cheating act the cheating can be the last straw that breaks the camels back (a saying) all of the couples have problems and issues that they should solve because each person is different and in the minute they combine as a couple there is alote of different things that the other brings and exepts and they will have to solve now the rest is dependet on the people and their personalitty and chemistry some couples do not talk about it and try solving it they are acting like it dosn't exsist and the result is all of the anger and disappointment or the empty missing parts are fulfiled by one idiotic act that is usually the cheating act. and after that incident again it is up to the couple to open their eyes and try to see why that was done and what is wrong and try solving it or just keep silent and in the end get a divorce

Yes. But there are cases when its falling out of love that makes the divorce papers. There are couples who undergo extra marital affairs but because the husband still loves his wife, that he's just playing around, for manly-look sake, then they wouldn't be arranging for some divorce.

I think that is part of it because they lose the trust that they have but on the other hand some couple welcome it so it depends on the couple and also on beleifs it could also be because they have lost the feeling for one another or that they fight too much I mean it could be more then 1 thing so who really knows.