Boycotting All MyLoters Who Do Not Comment on Responses

Some times it can be hard to get through all the topics/posts/responses. I come one here nearly every day when i get a chance but I dont have a ll day to go through every topic listed. I try to get through and reply to topics I have started and ones that friends have started but it can be hard to keep up with so many. This may be the reason every one doesnt reply to your posts. my lot is not my life. I have a child to look after, a business to keep going and earn money to buy bills, food etc etc. I cant just through all them a side to make sure i reply to each and every ones post and make sure i reply to evry one that replies to mine. I'm sorry if it offends people if i cant/miss reply to them but I have got far more important things in life to worry about than making sure i reply to every topic/post/response. Just my opinion.

I try to comment on as many of the responses to my discussions that I can. The first thing I do is read all the responses on each page and before I go on to the next page I rate those responses. I pick out a few to leave comments to. I will then go on to the next page, and so on and so forth. When I leave a response to a discusssion I go back to check if there was a comment given to that response. I know that not every response I give to a discussion warrants a comment from the originator of the discussion, but I like to check to see if there is any and maybe add another line if it requires one. No need to worry about your intents my dear. I perfectly understand. Huggers to you!

I agree there are people who dont comment on responses received on their discussions as a whole. But also i want to say that there can be responses where no comment is needed. I personally dont post "thank you" comments on responses. No one so far sent me "thank you" comments either. I dont think its necessary (this is what I feel personally, and you can disagree of course). But when there is some thing to add to any response, i will sure do it. But i make it a point to rate all the answers I get from everybody either a + or a -. I must also add, if you start boycotting like this, i wonder whether you will have any friend at the end. So my request, I wish you dont think like this. Mylot is a nice and friendly site and we need you as our friend. Have a great day. (sorry if i mentioned something which hurt you)

Well... I dont think that would be right to do... ITs not mandatory to comment on the responses... I agree that we should actually comment on the responses if we wish to.... IT should not be mandatory I think and every user has the right to decide whether they would like to comment on it or not...

No offense. But I come on here for a few hours each day, and I DONT have enough time to do much more than do comments. I rarely even start discussions. I try to keep up with my own if they dont have too many I have been doing replies to comments. But usually I dont do much more than. Sorry. Its how I work!

I always try to comment when someone has taken the timeout to answer something I may have asked. (It does seem time consuming to answer on this website for some reason) Sometimes I find that I am at a total loss for words though. I started a couple of deliberations with reference to religion and I had nothing at all to say to the posts that answered me, I didn't really know what to say apart from just "listening" to their opinion! What you are doing, however, seems kind of unforgiving and vindictive (may be harsh words), in a strange way. I do not think there is any regulation about HAVING to comment on a response. I assume you must have a bunch of time on your hands to think this through and set up rules to be your friend. In my personal life, friendship is unconditional. Nevertheless, this is a public posting place and a bit remote; at that!

I feel that you need to sit back and get off your High Horse. You should feel priveleged that anyone responds to your discussions in the first place, not the other way around. Since when do you have to commit to respond to every friend's discussions, every day, every second? It is a privelege to have people take part in a discussion and its not a crime if they don't. How can someone be that kind of friend to you and do the same for every friend they have? Don't you think its a little demanding and your expectations are slightly unreasonable? Good luck to you.

I try as well to reply to comments on my posts but sometimes it takes a while because I am not on myLot that much each day due to working full time and other activities outside of work. It is especially hard when having a lot of responses on a particular post but I will get to the quality responses as soon as I can. Next week I am away on vacation so I probably will not able to respond or create topics at all. It is nice to get feedback when we reply because it makes you feel like your comment was read and was appreciated. I always do give best responses after about a week after creating the topic. I want to give people the opportunity to post before making a decision on the best one. Some people give best responses way too quickly out there.

I am glad that you have the time it takes to respond to every discussion. I've started quite a lot of them, and find it more important to try to answer other discussions than respond to everyone that answers mine. I've got limited time here and have to pick and choose. And I thought the point was to get everyone else debating...not just you and one other person going back and forth. I've read a few discussions like that...they are just arguments that no one can get in the middle of....that's no fun.

I cannot comment on every response to every discussion. I would probably become very repetitive. How many discussions have I seen where the discussion started commented on every single response with "thank you for posting". That's just ridiculous. I also don't respond to every discussion because a) the topic may not interest me and/or b) everything I might want to say has already been said. That is why we are supposed to read every response before responding ourselves, so that we are not repeating what has already been said. I really don't understand this questioning of friends. What does it matter if someone is on your list or not? What harm will it do if they are there but are inactive. Some people do go away for extended periods of time. Are they to be punished by you for that by removing them from your list? Wow! With friends like that, who needs enemies.

I try my best to go through all the responses I get in my discussions and comment on the ones that need it. Not all responses deserve comments. Some posts are redundant and some, even irrelevant to the topic. Although I don't give comments to each one of them, I rate them mostly positive. I think mylotters will be encouraged to post comments if they will also get some compensation for it. Some would rather spend their time responding to other discussions where they will earn. Just my 2 cents :)

I suppose I large understand and agree with your point of view, in the sense that myLot is about having DISCUSSIONS... and the very nature of discussions imply some sort of exchange or dialogue back and forth. Personally, I have always enjoyed reading and resonding to those "conversations" that start to involve several people debating back and forth. I will admit, at the same time, that I do NOT always "comment back" to everyone who responds to my discussions... when you end up with 50, 80, or even 100+ responses (many of which say the same thing with different words) it becomes a rather tedious pursuit to acknowledge every single one. I do mark "best responses," and I usually go back and thank those who give ME a "best response."

For me, i really give comments on everybody who will reply on my discussions..it is really an honor and a priviledeg for me, when someone reply to my discussions so in return i will give comments and rated their replies.

You sure do expect a lot don't you. I don't post unless the topic interests me. Why should I post on my friends discussions if the subject doesn't interest me. Just cuz they are on my friends list, doesn't mean I must comment on each of their discussions. I've had a look at your recent discussions and I must say, nothing grabbed me. Clinton and Lewinsky, that is so bygones, why drag it up, why not talk about the errors or the current administration instead of one that's been out of office for 2 terms. the original Mission Impossible, never saw it, couldn't care less. Operas and composers, yawn... eating rattle snakes, nope, I'm vegan. Lance Armstrong, yeah just don't care. If you start discussions on something interesting, I'm sure people will post, if not, well start a different one. As far as earning the privilege of being on your friends list, well I just add people who seem like they are smart and have intellegent posts and think for themselves instead of what the world tells them to think. I have no expectations whatsoever for them. Even if at times they post something I disagree with, that's fine too. I am not their keeper. So I think your boycott will continue as a one-woman boycott, because this woman doesn't think people should have to comment if they don't feel like it.

When I start a thread, I take my responsibility seriously. I not only comment on most responses, rate them and in general attempt to moderate the debate if one ensues. Having said that - I must critique myself: 1. Sometimes I react to people who attack me personally in debate. I tend to go after them with all the stops off! 2. When a discussion takes off and the respones get overwhelming, it takes me a while to sift through and award "best response". I procrastinate. I still have not resolved my "friends" policy on the basis that it is good to be open to new people, but to have the Friends List cluttered up is a bit of a technology challenge to find the people you want to interact more often with. When I respond to others posts, I often go back to see if the thread originator has a comment for me or not. Believe me, this is a challenge, because there is no direct link to your own response on Mylot. If you do not remember which page of the thread your response is on - it is a huge search to try and find your response to see if a debate has sprung up around it. I do not expect others to be as diligent as I am, but I do recognize the diligent ones when I see them! Cheers - to diligence.

I only alloted a few hours of my time each day here at mylot. In as much as I try to comment on every one's response, it seems impossible for me to do so. There will be some who responded with the same ideas or thoughts, so I left it blank. But I make sure to rate everyone. In fact, I'm giving more + rating and - rating goes to those with one line, or response that have no sense at all. If I didn't comment back, it doesn't mean that I didn't read the responses. Maybe, there will be some mylotters who really didn't bother to read through all the responses. Happy posting, gifana.

I think it is a good idea.. but is it practical? I take my hat off you if you feel that it is possible to comment on EVERY SINGLE response made to your discussions. Don't get me wrong - I do read EVERY response but I simply cannot comment on every one of them. Personally, I try to post about 1-3 discussions a day. Combined, they generate 100-200 responses on average. This means 100-200 comments from me required - as per your logic. I have 500+ friends on my friend list. Not all post discussions everyday, granted, but some post more than 1. Give and take, I need to make 500 responses here. And I might want to reply to those discussions without responses, or those from my interests. Never mind, we leave these aside for calculation purpose. Just take 100 + 500 -- that gives 600. For me to generate 600 replies in a day, I can honestly tell you that I am just not able. If I can post around 100-200, it is already AWESOME. So I can only selectively reply. I try to make everyone happy from time to time, but I just don't have the resources to make ALL of them happy ALL the time. I know I will get a response from you so I will be checking back on this thread (or you need to take back what you posted :P) - oh yea, not to mention, I have to check back on those 200 posts I made too... So do you see the impossibility of it all now? *roll eyes* PS.: If you are satisfied with just each response receiving a meaningless acknowledgment, then what is the point of that? Just to let you know that your response has been read? Well, I do impress upon my friends that I read all their responses. They all know they are not talking to the air though I may not comment on all their responses. :P PPS.: I do mark ALL responses to my discussions - as I promised on my profile page. PPPS.: Phew! This is one long post. I could have made 20 acknowledgments during this time. :PP

I think some people have more to say then others and different reasons for adding comments beyond just commenting. Do you want people to respond to every single reply you make, or just to stay active within their own discussions.

Even though I am a "newbie" here I can say that I agree with what you are saying. I only have one friend in my list, and I only added him, because I felt privelidged that he had stopped by my very first discussion and posted a response! lol I know how these communities work and if there are no responses and ratings and comments it will not run and people will get frustrated. People need to know that they are appreciated once in a while especially when they are doing more than their fair share of adding to the content of a site. (As I can tell from your rating that you are) I just wanted to comment and say congrats on the good work that you do on here, and keep it up. Somone is listening, and responding. JennyB

Hi, I have requested to be on your friends list. I respond to each & every response that I receive. It frustrates me when I look through my responses to discussions from other people and there isn't any reply from the person who started the discussion. It wastes my time. I could be replying to more of their discussions. They must think a discussion is like fishing. You just cast it out and wait to see if you make money. A discussion takes 2.