Choosing a wife / husband, Is it important to that both your parents agree?

It's really important that not only husband and wife love each other but also their parents have good relationship between them and with their son in law or daughter in law. true happiness comes when everyone who is reltaed to you is in harmony with other relatives.

of course i agre with u.....the simple concept wat u had to think that...hope u r of age somewere betwee 20 - 25.........all these 25 yrs ur mom and dad had done every thing wch is best suited for u and they have done every thing wch satisfies u ...so obviously ur marriage wch is a great part of urlife...wud they make a mistake in it...no never............so if u think u need a best partner to share ur remaining life with thn the best way is to let ur mom and dad to choose ur partner its because they care abt u more than u do

I like my mother's opinions with problems I have and things in my life, but as a definitive judge of who I should be with? No. She's not me, she's not the one living with him, it's just not up to her. Thankfully my fiance doesn't listen to a single word his dumb@ss parents have to say at all. Having a child doesn't make you infallible, so running your life based on what your parents say simply because they're your parents seems pointless to me. They've already lead their lives, why do they need to live yours, too? I can understand the "don't make the same mistakes I did" mentality, but a mistake to one person may not be for another. All people are different. Parents and children are no exception.

I would like to hear the opinions of my parents.But after all i have to make decision about my life, because if in future something goes wrong than i am the only one who is responsible for that.I cannot blame my parents for that.

Hello dear, well definately marriage is a special occassion as well as marriage only decides that how good life are you going to have ! Well obviously this decision can not be made alone completely, you atleast need to have someone along with you as well. And who can be better than our parents, well at times even their decisions are wrong but they will be more reliable, careful and open when they choose our life-partner, who can do their job after them.

No parents would want their children to be miserable especially when they get married. Parents mean well for their children, BUT, it is what you feel towards your man (or girl) and how your relationship with each other goes which has a big impact when you decide to get married. Though I'm still single and have never been married, I don't think approval of parents from both sides would stop somebody from getting married. You can go ahead as long as you think you already emotionally, physically, psychologically, socially and spiritually mature. After all, in the end it's gonna be the two of you who will make a family. The parents' role would only be to guide their children but they don't make decisions for you. Above all, I think it's the approval from the Guy Up There which matters most.

It really doesn't matter if your family is going to like the person you love. Besides they are not the one who is going to have a relationship with your partner. If your parents really love you then they will totally accept and understand your choice. Although it's not quite a good way to say that you need to be like by the parents of your partner, but I think it's still better if they really do like you.

I wouldn't care less what my family thinks and they don't impose their opinions on me. My parents learned with my older siblings to let the situation run it's coarse rather then have us resent them for the 'I told you so's' later on down the raod. We all have to learn fr ourselves!

Coming from an Asian background, my parents can be considered more liberal than the average Asian parents out there. Despite this my parents' opinion of my then-girlfriend now my wife was still very important to me. After painstakingly bringing me up for so many years, of course getting their approval mean a lot. Generally most of us, whether we admit it or not, are concerned with our parents' opinion of our significant other. In fact, many of my friends (myself included) have always tried to speak about our significant other in a better light whenever we talk to our parents. That said, it is not end of the world if our parents disapprove of our significant other. And it is always important to find out why they have their reservations about them. Many times it may just be a misunderstanding our they love us too much and just want the perfect spouse for their kids. Once we know what their reservations are we can try to change their opinion gently if we really have made our minds up about who we want. End of the day, despite the cliched talk about parental approval on our spouses, getting married is mainly about us. And if the person our parents really like or approve of is someone we known we cannot live with, then it still won't work out no matter what. :)

wat do in feel is that ur parents will think only of your benefit. but still there are a no. of instances when parents become wrong & much more emotional than desired leading to improper decisions. in that case you might be right & prove the same to your parents or her/his parents

I value the opinion of my parents, but I guess it depends on the situation... I'm not married yet, but I plan too. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now, and I love him very much. Fortunately, both my parents like him. I don't really know what I would do if they didn't. Their opinion is important to me, but still, it is my future that would be at stake, and I don't know if I would rely on their decision a hundred percent. If the guy makes me reall happy (and he does ^^), and if he is a good guy, then I think I would have no reason not to get married with him, even if my parents woouldn't totaly agree.

I wonder if I am a little too young to disscuss on this topic. I am 23 years old and a student still, but I have had my girl already. I believe she is the one I want. I plan to marry her once I got a job and earn my own life. We come from China. You know, in china you just can't get around of her parents. You are marrying her, but in fact you are "marrying" a whole family. The opinion of her parents sometimes is more important than hers. Can you believe this? It is true. We easters are way less independent than you westers.

OH man. My mom was NOT happy when I told her that I was getting married. She didn't like my husband for the year and a half that I have been married to him so far. My dad absolutely adores my husband. The minute that they met, my dad hugged my husband and said "welcome to the family."

Yes, I also like taking my parents opnion in my life. Marriage is a big commitment in life. It is very neccessary to get comfortable with both the families. Otherwise it could create turbulances in our married life too. I totally agree with the author in this matter. In my case me and my husband we both give equal respect to each other's parents.

No because if we let them decide between my father not wanting me to marry my husband and his mother not wanting him to marry me, we wouldn't be married now. My dad straightened up when I put my foot down and said I was marring my husband and now they get along great however my mother-in-law will as I see it never treat me like his wife. In her mind I do not exist.

I think it depends on who you are, and who your parents are etc. Personally if my husband had listened to his mom we probably wouldn't be married. She hates me because I didn't want to stay living in her house or in that town. She loved me until we moved though. I do air on the side of its my life my choice, but their are some parents that really are right when they disapprove so I think it depends on the relationship you have with your parents.

I thank it would be wonderful for both parents to love there childs spouse. But sometimes it doesnt happen. What really matters is that you love this person. The parents will learn to love this person too. Besides who would you be sleeping with ?

my parents opinion is very important for me...i know them well, they will support me in everything i do and i want so if they didn't agree on something, i listened to them...and i believe that parent's blessings is important to marriage...

I made to love a man before that my mom dont really like for me but i insist what i want.We continue are relationship as a girlfriend/boyfriend.Something happen to us and i got pregnant.He became scare for an obligation to became a father and i let to grown my baby until i borned him.But im happy coz having him to part of my life complete my life.Now im praying to find the man that will complete the family im hoping for.I learned with the mistake i made this time i will respect and listen to my parent opinion and wants regarding for choosing my boyfriend that will lead into marriage.

hi Abbyey For a while I didn't care what my mother thought she didn't like any guy I was dating now it's different I gave up years ago she didn't like some of my friends ,but there's few she does like she thinks their good for me ,but she doesn't see how curupted we are oh well. She likes my boyfriend he's a great guy and we live close I think we had alot of the same up bringing were also only 2 years apart I'd also marry him he feels the same his family likes me and that meant everything to me I care if his friends like me. i'd have to say I do care this is someone I'm serious with we see eachother all the time to the point we call eachothers hoses home.