should i blame my mom for all these things happening to me?

I don't think we can really blame anyone for the things we do, we all have choices, disappointment and/or anger is no excuse, this is your journey and it is up to you to control it, horrible things are going to happen to you as it does to everyone through their lives, it is up to each person to become stronger for it or buckle under and do things that is not in your best interest, stand up and take what has happened to you, take it with you so maybe one day you can help someone else in the future because you will learn from it and you can share it to support others that is what life is all about, grow from everything situation that is thrown at you and take it as a lesson in life....goodluck to you, I hope all works out for you, always remember how special you are....

Their are many people who in this world who do these thigs it didnt mean that they all are bad, If your conssious allows you to do so than it is ok but if you really feel so that its not a good thing than you must listen to yourself. And leaving those vices is not easy i know but not at all impossiable i left smoking for years even though i started at a very early age. And about your Mom she may have reasons for that and you also may have reason for the rebellious nature i cannot comment just by this much of post but still i feel you need to understand your mom and yourself better and you need to tell her what u felt after she left. All you have to do on ur own. Never Loose hope impossible is nothing

Your mom just like you observed is not to blame but you. Accepting blame for your state is a first step to getting out of this mess. Secondly, forget about the effect it will have on your mom, open up and let her know about your true state cos if she discovers herself it will be more painful and worrisome. Thirdly, you could confide in a counsellor so that you can be helped. i still believe you can get away from all those stuffs and live the life that you'll be happy about and your mom too.

No you should not blame your mother for all these if we have a control in our mind we can achieve anything.see don't be depressed that your mom left you try to rectify your mistakes and go on with your life....

What you did is just the return of the fact that the society has changed the minds of young ones. What u did it is your own act no body responsible. You have the sense what is wrong and what is right. So overcome your tendency towards evil and take ur mom in confidence and tell her all what u have done. May God bless you. Immediately leave the bad company.

hello girl! it not what you called rebellious. you just explore yourself sorrounding you. but just a advice dont go over the limit. enjoy life and don't blame your mommy of what you've done in your life. your mom loves you. you know what my mom and dad is too far away from since im a kid. but push my self to a better life without them. but to tell it is better to have your family with your side to guide you and feel their love. thats all girl. gud luck.

well, i believe that everybody is responsible for their own actions and they can't blame anybody for it... so, in your case, i don't think you can blame your rebellion action to your mum... it is you who decided to do it and not your mum forcing it to do it... we choose to do what we want to do and not because other people force us to do it... you can choose not to smoke and drink even though your mum left you... you can choose to do othermore constructive thing to ease your pain but you choose to do the destructive ones... so, you can't blame your mum for that...

NO, you shouldn't blame your mom of what was happening to you now coz you like the way you are doing. and you should consider and understand why your mon left you since u know the reason. it's for your family's sake and future. i suggest to be your friends who can help u avoid and not tolerate all those vices u are practicing now.

As others have mentioned, we cannot blame anyone for our downfalls. You are already feeling the guilt and regret, so it is up to you to make the change. I think it is okay to experience these things, i think it is part of life. But i don't think it should get to the point where it is on a daily basis. Now, you know your mother left, i imagine, to make a better life for herself and you. I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. It is always best to be honest. Good Luck. and God Bless.

Wat u did will defenitely be ur responsibility,u can never impose it on anybody else.And in the same way wat u will and can do will also be ur responsiblity,so if u think that wat u did was wrong only u can mend it by stop doing thing sthat u think is wrong.

Parents are the most responsible for us coz we are their siblings.. But on the other hand, we should not blame them for everything that happened in our life coz we also have the same mind, we are the most responsible for our selves than anyone else.. We are the one who's doing things that would turn to a bad or good results.. All our parents wants is a good life for us someday and that's what they are trying to provide for us, its really ironic you know? Like, what people says when their parents are with them then they are poor and have nothing to eat? "Oh dad / mom pls go abroad so we wont get hungry again!" Then what people says when their parents are far from them and they have everything that they could ask for? "Oh dad / mom, you're the one should be blame bcoz on what happened on me coz you left us." Oh my God, Those parents who's having the same thing with their families don't even know which way to go indeed. Come to think of it, Our parents will do everything just to provide everything for us, for our future, for a good life and we should thank them instead of judging them bad! We are the one who's responsible for ourselves and we shouldn't blame anyone except ourself too..

I enjoyed reading this account of the adventure

I have blamed my own mother for a lot of things in my life, that well I feel that she is to blame for in the end. There is nothing wrong to blame your mother for things in life, it doesn't make you a bad person if you do always remember that.

you shouldnt blame your mom for what is happening to you because your the one whose doing those things, she's still your mother what ever happens

If you're in a bad situation, don't blame anybody for it. Like for you, you can already make choices and I guess you've made a lot of bad choices in life. It's never too late to change for the better. Forget about your past and the mistakes you've done. Who, in this world hasn't committed any mistake? To err is human. You just have to learn how to rise above your mistakes. Whenever you fall don't stay there.Learn how to stand up and face the consequences of that fall. And, learn to forgive your mom because by that you can make a brand new start. Stop blaming her for all that has become of you. She herself is facing consequences of the choices she made. Remember, You are what you make of yourself. Be brave to start a new life. Good luck and may God be your guide.

i'll be KJ if i say your wrong,but still you are.maybe you were just looking for everybody's attention aoutside your house.maybe the people around your house is not that close to you and you absolutely finds happiness outside.remember your mom left you not to have fun there,but to give you a good future which every parents dreams of.you will then realize this when you become parents.another fact here is that maybe your friends really love going out and try so many things around.i have known so many people who's mother are not living with them but they are okay,they seem to carry themselves well.it's just a matter of choices maybe.

it is some thing happen to all of us in our adulthood . we try to build our character by doing these

you shouldn't be rebellious.. there are a lot of people who have bigger family problems than yours.. me, i was left by my parents since i was born.. i saw them for the first time when i was 4 years old and eversince, i just saw them 45 days in a year for 22 years! beat that?! i have never knew what their favorite foods were, they don't know what food causes me allergies, they don't know my shoe size, etc.. it's hard, i know.. but i just think of it as a challenge.. this is my life and i should take care of it.. now, i'm here in the US alone.. without my parents, without my brothers.. i'm studying my brains out for MY OWN future.. yes, MY OWN.. it's not for them.. but they still have my respect because they are my parents.. but eventhough i study hard, i don't forget to have fun.. i smoke, yes, i admit.. i drink, yes.. every weekend.. sometimes, twice a week.. but i don't forget about my priorities.. we should all know that we can't have it all at once.. understand your mom's situation too.. maybe she left you for a good reason.. because she wants a good future for you and your brothers/sisters.. just understand your mom for now.. and as for your vices, you can still smoke.. you can still drink if you can't help it.. but you should know your priorities.. you should know what are the things that you should do for YOUR OWN good.. it's not everyday that your parents can guide you.. there will come a time that you will be the only one left and no one to support you at all.. you should also be ready for those things.. my advice to you is pray and internalize.. it is never too late.. good luck to you and i hope you find yourself and your happiness.. GOD bless..

sometimes, we took revenge by letting ourselves to become rebellious. if we come to think of it deeply, we're the one who is suffering, yet don't we ever suffer enough with what they've done. people tend to loose interest in life that's why they put themselves to merry making and didn't care at all about the life we have. we can do something about it by not letting ourselves destroy what's left in us. that's normal that we react in a way that we would be rebellious. sometimes, we make that excuse in order to do or try something we are curious about. then we feel free. we seek freedom in ourselves because we didn't care. all we care about is do something that will keep our problems bothering us. now we fall into a deep hole and we can't get out of it easily. it's because you don't want to. you still have that feeling that you are still enjoying and you're still in that rebellious state. end your rebellion and that time will come you would quit everything you're doing wrong. things have gotten wrong. you just give a solution which doesn't solve it.

i think you shouldnt blame your mom about your rebellion.. truly, leaving you may have affected your life but you have all the choices, whether to turn to good or bad. i believe that you should be responsible with all your actions.. you've got your life of your own and you must live it the way you want it. i know some friends who got the same case as yours, and i admire them that despite what happened, they strive harder in life. a semenarian once shared this quote to us during our recollection: DONT BE A BLAME THROWER, BE A PROBLEM SOLVER!ü