would you rather have many many friends or a very few close friends?
By happy2bmommy
@happy2bmommy (305)
United States
March 21, 2007 9:35am CST
this is something i remember being asked when i was younger. i always said that i would rather just have a couple of great friends. i think i would feel alone if i had a lot of friends but none of them knew me, really knew me. i can name my real friends on one hand, the rest are just acquaintences. the ones i consider my real friends are the ones that i know i can go to to spill my guts. i wouldnt be able to do that with just anyone. i have learned from my mistakes. i thought that i could just casually talk to someone about my problems, only to find out a few days later that so many more people knew what my little "dilemma" was. i am a very personal person, and i didnt appreciate that she went and ran her mouth to anyone who would listen. i knew right then and there that i could never tell her anything personal ever again. so what do you think, more friends, or few close friends make you happy?
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@cyclops_online2004 (779)
• India
21 Mar 07
I truly believe that having more friends that are of no use is worthless. So, i would always prefer to have few good and trustworthy friends than having just acquintances. In front of whom you cant even open up.
@koverman32 (154)
• United States
21 Mar 07
When I was younger, I thoguht that the more friends the better no matter what but now that i have gotten older i realized that it is way more important to just have a few close friends that you can trust. Even one close friend is better than 100 fake friends who wont be there for you when you need them
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@Lionkitty (130)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I watch who I call a friend. Take the R out of friends & you have fiends. I have 2 best friends. Yes Id rather have m,y 2 best friends than lots of friends. DEFINATELY
@motherof35108 (192)
• United States
21 Mar 07
i had a lot of friends at one point in my life and you know what i would not let that happen agian. yes it is nice to have a lot of friends but you know what thier is only one true best friend that i have and the rest of them are just friends
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@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 07
having friends is a great thing and if one has many than its really a luck. but there can't be many people who see the things the way you see it, so naturally one falls with a fewer number of friends in whom one trusts and shares his feelings. but its always healthy to have a friends who thinks different and can bring you to see other side of the picture.
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@jenseyedea (579)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I always said I would also rather have a few close friends. Friends that I can depend on and that can depend on me. Friends that I can confide in and vise versa. You know who these friends are as life begins to throw stuff at you, because through it all they are still there. My close friends I can count on one hand...and I couldn't ask for better friends.:) When I need someone to tell me to get my head out of my rear, they do. But they are also there when I need to be heard, or am hurting.
@Amberlilly55 (16)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I agree with you. I would much rather have a few close friends that I know will be there forme no matter what. Acquaintences are nice but a true friend is way better!
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@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think I would rather have a few very close friends..its less confusing that way..I learned that when you have all these different friends, they all pretty much want you around them and only them..so to avoid confusion or a misunderstanding, I would rather stick to a smaller circle of friends
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@VincentChow (29)
• Malaysia
22 Mar 07
I would rather have a few close friends instead of many friends that're not too close. If you have a few close friends, you can talk to them your problems or even secrets. But for friends that are not so close, you probably won't talk to them about your problems, and even you have lots of them, you still can talk.
Quality over quantity.
@myworld_and_you (1223)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I prefer to have a lot of friends because from there, I could be able to choose who among them are worth my trust and true friendship. You get the idea?
Let's take your case for instance. You only have few friends that you have shared your secrets with, but later discovered that one friend kinda betrayed you because she passed on to other people what you don't want others to know. So better have a lot of friends because in that way, you can discover a lot of different personalities.
Thus, it helps you choose who among them can you consider as a real friend who will never ever leave you til the end. :) Hope this helps :)
@10astron (53)
• India
21 Mar 07
hmmmmm i'd rather put it this way....i prefer having meaninful friends...numbers don't mean a thing to me...was always weak in maths..heheheee....and looking back....i guess i've been lucky to be surrounded by good friends.....my friends mean a lot to me.
cheers!
@SweetSaumya (19)
• India
21 Mar 07
well i believe in this:
if you have one friend...its great!
if you have two friends....its good.
if you have few friends, its fine..
but if you have many friends...
ooops! what a mess!
@rocklistener (32)
• United States
21 Mar 07
i would rather close friend because you can talk to your closer friends but the others you would be scared to discuss serious topics.
@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Lots of friends but only about a few very close ones to whom I would spill my guts out! There are many who know me very well, spend time with me etc, etc but being private is something I learned from experience a bad one at it. So I have just 4-5 very dear friends to whom I would say anything and take any sort of advice from.The only kind I don't have is convinience friends... there are many who want to take advantage of me just because I stay at home and I just keep them all at an arm's length. Any amount of friends would make me happy as long as we have a special bond that sometimes makes us hum the same song, makes us buy the CD that the friend likes or open the door in a bathrobe, cry my eyes out when I am distressed. Friends are God's way of telling us that come what may they are there for you the Good, the Bad and the Ugly.
Raise a toast to friends.... Cheers!
@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Also if you do not keep making new friends how will you meet those real close ones.... You have to meet a lot of frogs to meet Your Prince charming....
So keep making new friends and get know your own self better. Most of my closest friends are the ones I made after my 11th Grade, so if I did not keep making friends how could I have the current bounty of real close pals!
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
22 Mar 07
juat having one friend is not the way i like to have it. i find the more friends i have the better chance i have to do something with someone! not everyone has time, or the same interests all of the time., so its nice to have more than one friend in your life. i don't believe in the "best friend" thing,. how can you determine one person is better than the other? everyone has differen qualities, and each one is special in their own way!
@selvi4184 (101)
• India
22 Mar 07
Fine, for me only with few close friends i can be happy. If i have lot of friends mean i will be mingle with all of them, i can enjoy a lot, but i cant share my personal feelings to all of them. So if you have few friends you can share all your feelings and can be very happy...........
@gicarlo (131)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
For me, I'd rather have many many friends. I have diff kinds of friends. Closest friends, playmate friends, friends at school, etc. There is no problem having a lot of friends. The problem with what you did is you dont know the girl too much. Before you consider him or her as a friend, you should know if they can be trusted. Knowing them for a long time will help you determine if they are a friend. If you knew she is like that, why would you consider her as a friend. Also, the benifit of having many friends, this is automatic ok, is that you have a lot of someone with different skills, professionalities and talents who can & will help you with your problem. I have a lot of friends. And I also have a lot of very close friends. In short, Having many many friends(close friends included) is better than having a very few close friends
