When you meet a new person
@sirensanssmile (3764)
Netherlands
March 21, 2007 5:41pm CST
In any sense, whether it is someone you may want to date or just a new friend.
What are the first things you would notice about the person?
What are some of the things they could do that would make you not want to continue with them?
What are some things that would guarantee you would continue speaking with them?
For me, I won't continue speaking to someone if they are ovrly critical of other people, are offended easily and are hypocritical. These would also be the first things I notice because they really bother me. If the person has a great sense of humour and don't get offended by things then I would certainly want to be around that person.
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@mayenskie (1307)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Perhaps, how the person carries himself wil make a good first impression. He should be neat. I certainly would love to see more of a person who has a good sense of humor, no dirty jokes at first. Too serious person is boring.
Its a turn off if a guy is critical and totally freaky if he would cry while telling me about his failed relationships on first meeting.
I would like the first meeting to be fun and just easy.
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@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
I tend to agree with you on that too. If a guy starts telling me about his failed relatinships, I get turned off pretty quickly. If they were to actually cry while telling me this story I would be really worried that he may be a little crazy and I would want to leave right away.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
22 Mar 07
If they have a sense of humor they are in with me.LOL I dont like people who think they know everything and come off argante. I also dont like people who are offended easily like you.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
Know it alls are annoying to have to listen to. I can't help it but I tend to tune them out when they go on and on about how they know something about everything.
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I tend to notice things like the face and hair and the way their dressed first. I hate hypocritical people, too. Not sure what would make me NOT want to be around them. If they're rude a lot, that would definitely put me off.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
Face, hair and apparel! heh Yeah that would be the very first thing one would see. I think that if a person has a unique sense of style then I would be more likely to want to speak to them then someone in plain jeans and a shirt. I tend towards people who don't really fit in or people with a bizarre sense of style myself.
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@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
I have to admit that I am guilty of this. I am quiet by nature and don't generally just talk or start conversations unless I was inspired by something the person says. I do tend to just answer direct questons without any detailed information. Unless I have known the person for awhile, then I can start conversations.
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@joby_09 (498)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
These are the things that can turn me OFF:
1. Not physically neat.
2. Has no sense of humor.
3. Too observant.
4. Talks to much even the things that he talk about are not that sensible.
5. Very sensitive and doesn't know how to adjust himself with the people he's with.
6. Overly confident and doesn't listen to other people's idea and opinion.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
Yeah I can undersand those things. I would also add those people that cut you off when you are speaking. There are people that tend to constantly do that. They never listen to anything people say they are only consentrating on what they are going to cut you off with, it would seem.
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@Robyn28 (384)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
hi Sirensanssmile
I look for common interests alot with friends as well as people I'm dating. When I'm with someone I notice things about someone I love people's eyes when I'm with someone I look at people eyes alot even just friends I notice their eyes and what the colour is and so forth. I notice someoe smile when I'm interested in them their sense of humour they have to be as smart as me in terms of wanting a long term I want to be able to talk about anything.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
I agree it is sense of humour that is very important in friendships as well as dates. Also common interests are a good thing because that opens up the ability to have good conversations and differences in opinions keep the conversation going.
@fellowlife (988)
• Nigeria
24 Apr 07
what i notice in a new person is the dress sense from afar, then i go on to know if he/she has a larger than life attitude, humorous and have a sense of resposibility.
I would generally not want to continue with someone who is boring and a bad conversation starter. I would also not want to be with someone that has an overbloated ego and full of false confidence
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
22 Mar 07
i guess i notice if they are reserved or not., and if they are not receptive to conversation,, i leave them to the talking,. i always try and smile and at least say hello to someone that is new to me and around me.. i don't go out searching for people to meet,, but when i meet them, i will always be nice. if they don't respond well to that,. then i guess it really doesn't matter.!
@max_well (10)
• China
22 Mar 07
I am a man of sensiblity, I take the first impression very important, and the first impression means: his or her dressing, his or her figure or shape, his or her manner
@PATTYCAKE1979 (227)
• United States
21 Mar 07
If their a liar. I don't like a sweet talker, that would discontinue any future dates. Genuine honesty, would definetly get them a another date. Overall honest, down to earth person who carries no ego, and not trying so hard.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 07
Sweet talkers are plain annoying because the seem to be dishonest. You can't help but wonder what they are after. Saying nice things is one thing, but people who make it a point to compliment everything just make me not want to talk to them.
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@andreaskye (390)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I so agree about the sense of humor. That is the very first thing that attracts me to anyone, friend or mate or whatever. Not easliy offended is good as well.
The very first thing that turns me off about a person is lack of eye contact. I know that is sometimes brought about by nervousness and if they get over it, that's fine. But if they do not get over it once they are more comfortable, i just connot connect. Weird maybe?
Lack of compassion irks me too.
Other than that I like most people and get along well with them.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
22 Mar 07
Yeah lack of eye contact can be an important issue. Though, when I meet a guy I would think about datng I have a pretty hard time with eye contact mysef but I always force myself out of my nervousness.
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@kampo90 (289)
• Antarctica
22 Mar 07
Yes i agre about the sense of humor but some people have to much and laugh even when its not proper.
Back on topic the first things i would check out are overall personality they need to be fun but they also need to now when to be serious another thing i dont now if its only me but some people just have an aura that when i look at them i now i am not going to like this person generally these people are arogant and selfcenterd, about the conversation part there are people whit who you can speek and people whit who you cant speak you just dont have chemistry.
@kampo90 (289)
• Antarctica
22 Mar 07
Yes i agre about the sense of humor but some people have to much and laugh even when its not proper.
Back on topic the first things i would check out are overall personality they need to be fun but they also need to now when to be serious another thing i dont now if its only me but some people just have an aura that when i look at them i now i am not going to like this person generally these people are arogant and selfcenterd, about the conversation part there are people whit who you can speek and people whit who you cant speak you just dont have chemistry.
