Worry over mylot friends?

Yes I would, in fact I did with one user...I'm not sure if you remember Sunshinecup, she's been off mylot for a long time now. I know she used to respond to all my discussions without fail and I got many mail notifications of her new discussions. But of late she has been not active at all and one day I messaged her. She told me that mylot had deleted one of her discussions for no reason and that totally discouraged her. She also told me she would come back only if she felt like but would keep track of messages sent to her. I felt bad for losing such a friend here. I thought instead of asking others its better to send her a message directly.

I would worry about them it has happened to a few of mine and I have messaged them but not heard back. I keep them in my Friends list in the Hope that they might return There is one that I have not seen in months and I do hope she is ok as I have messaged her but she has not been on I don't want to delete her as I am still hoping she will come back.

I do find myself worrying sometimes if I haven't heard from a regular friend online. This being a global community I care a lot about my friends and hope that they are all ok, even though I do not always get the time to contact them all.

I will surely try to contact that friend through the available means. I will try every trick in my armour to contact him/her...I will leave no stone unturned to get in touch with him.....Hopefully, if such a situation arise....I will get success also.

I would message you since I don't have your email. He ( I am assuming from the post above mine) might have had something come up. Good morning/afternoon

I will drop a message yea. If I have his email, I guess I may drop an email too if time gets long. But chances are they just got tired or fed up of mylot and left. Unless you already know there are some issues in their life.

Sometimes people need 'space' not everyone can relay their feelings when they feel down and just want to be left alone. I would send them a message to make sure they are ok, and that you are thinking of them, then leave it at that, if they reply then good, if not, then they obviously need time alone. Everyone is different, you can only meet someone half way, if they don't want to meet you, then there must be a logical solution as to why. We all go through phases where we just haven't got the 'interest' It has been a difficult month for me so I have spent less time on Mylot and I am chuffed to mintballs that people like your good self send me messages, it's great to know that people care. I think you are very much like me in this respect and I have the feeling you are very sensitive like another mutual friend of ours, and we tend to take a lot of things to heart as well as personally, it can be good but it does have bad affects to! Hugs

I message them and also look to see if they have came on here in awhile I did message one never got a responce so guess they went somewheres else just dont know what to tell you but ask around

Yes there is onw person who has done just that and I have PM'd him with no response. Then I found out other friends had been worried about him too. I still miss him and hope he comes back soon.

Oh yes I would worry about them as they are my friend, yes I would message them and send out a discussion about them as maybe someone else knows what is going on, if I knew that they were constant friends and responding and all of a sudden just stopped I would certainly worry about them.

I would email/message them privately just to make sure all is ok. That's what friends are for :) If they don't want to speak to me, they'll either not reply or say so. I leave the ball in their court, but at least I'll have made the effort to let them know they are missed/cared about and gives them an option to talk if they want :D

it will be heart breaking for me to know this, though we have not seen each other neither met each other but bond we share in discussion & replys is naturally going to heart if that person goes off line for long time only hope that he /she could return back asap, like today I am searching Bombstick's new discussion but today he is nowhere to find nor he posted any new discussion. Bombstick come back asap love gkvetkar1

Last month one of my best online friends in the entire world went in for surgery. I waited about a week to email her to make sure she was alright. And, when I didn't hear back from her, I felt so bad, like maybe she didn't make it out of surgery. After another day or two I sent several frantic emails. Turns out she had emailed me three or four times at my old AOL email address. She was fine, but AOL got the blame for that one. I dumped them A.S.A.P.

Ah, I don't know,because I have no relationship between good friends, if our relations are very good, he also often online, suddenly not, I would be worried.

This is a difficult one, because there was a recent post about people who make a big thing about leaving (and usually don't) started by Angrykitty. The feeling there was that those who wanted to leave should just do so quietly. Friends can leave Mylot regularly for a large number of reasons, some personal reasons, other work commitments, computer or internet problems. They may not always be in a position to let you know if or why they have left. The only solution, I suppose, would be to send them a Private Message, and if they don't respond then just to leave it like that.

well if the friend didn't show up for a long time i guess i'd send a private message to make sure everything is ok. If that's all the means of contact you have with that person i guess there's nothing else i could do. But yeah, if i really got on well with that person i would worry a bit.

I would worry, mummymo. Especially if he is a close friend. I will try to message him and ask friends around. But I do hope that if a friend will leave mylot for good, the least that he can do is to tell me first. :0

Hello,mummymo,i have few friends which i used to send message with each other but recently i have not seen them posting or replying.I know one of them have left mylot for something else,but i am worried about another friend,i see her logon everyday but i have not seen her doing anything here,her post number does not change and she does not reply or comment to discussions,I have sent her message but there is no reply from her,i do not know what happen.

I tend to get close to the people that I feel a connection with....like you ,Mo and yes If I don't hear when I think I should I get nervous.I would message if alot of time goes by.I don't and won't ever appoligize for being concerned! Hugs R

I was wondering about that exact same thing, mummymo, because I have been missing a friend here on MyLot for a while now. Nobody's mentioned them, but I know that I am not alone because this person was very active in posting. I don't have a clue as to what to do in this situation. Is it against the guidelines to try and contact them? Maybe I should reread the guidelines.