What is the deal?
By stacyv81
@stacyv81 (5903)
United States
March 22, 2007 10:49am CST
Ok, me and my guy have 2 kids, a 6 month old and a 3 year old...we have these friends who have a 2 year old and a 1 year old. Our 3 yr old and their 2 yr old like each other...problem?..well, their kids are ALWAYS sick, and EVERYTIME my son gets around them, he gets sick, and I do mean EVERYTIME, well, the problem is I know have a little 6 month old baby, and they dont care, they'll bring over their kids, sick or not, not caring that I have a little baby at home. She got sick once, and It was HELL!!! She was sick, he was sick and I was sick. So, I had to take care of sick babies and stay up all night with them, and I was sick too. On top of that I am breastfeeding, and so there is little I can take to relieve my pain and sickness. What do you do in cases like this? If they called first, we could tell them we are busy, but they dont...they just come over. What would you do? I have even told them not to bring them over if they are sick, but I guess that doesnt work. What to do?
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4 responses
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Tell them when they come over without calling that you're sorry, but you can't visit with them today. No offense, but my baby got sick last time and you can't put the baby through that again. If they don't like you after that, oh well. Your children are more important than thier feelings.
If you want to be passive,then the nest time when they come to the door, tell them you have mono and they can't come in. (lol)
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
22 Mar 07
lol, thats funny. I understand what you are saying, and I get it. They just would rather have some social interaction than worry with it, but it irritates me because if you say you are our friend, why wouldn't you care if our kids got sick, you know? But then again, theirs are always sick, so it seems they dont take any precautions with them either.
@sjettmomof2 (213)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Have you tried not answering the door and acting like you aren't home?LOL I have done that before. Really though, you do need to sit your friend down and have a heart to heart. If it upsets her, then too bad. What is more important, your health and your childrens health or your friends feelings? I would think that having children of her own she would understand. If we go somewhere and there are sick children we will avoid them or leave. Afterward I wipe my kids hands down with sanitizer gel. You really have to put your foot down.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I cant not answer the door, as my son is three and yells someone is here answer the door! I have talked to them both and I said, Please dont bring your kids over if they are sick. But theyre like oh, they are not sick, and then they cough right in the face of my son. Then I have to go clean every single toy my son has which is about 4 hours of work, because he has so many toys, as well as the house, and Its crazy.
@dmrone (746)
• United States
16 Feb 09
You could meet them at the door and tell them that you are busy at the moment and set a date that is a better time for you, provided that the children are not sick. Explain to them that you have to try to keep your children from becoming sick, and you would appreciate some consideration from them since you have a small child at home.
