Help! What would you do?

No, the taking her to the mall is definitely not a good idea. If you have any reason to think she'll steal more stuff. Yes, it could potentially get you into trouble just for you being there with her when it happened, even if you didn't have a clue. I'd suggest if you even let her come down you lock away everything that's of great value to you and your husband then let she stay with you guys. Make sure the valuables are very secure. If you are still worried then I wouldn't even let her come down at all. I hope this was helpful.

This is a dangerous but common problem with many. Surprisingly the studies say that, most of these people do that not because they can not afford but its a bad habit built in their blood. You need to take her to a counselor. It might take a couple of visits but most of the time yields +ve results.

If she really is your friend,i dont think she's gonna steal when she's with you at the mall nor will she steal your valuable stuffs when she's at your home. i would take her to the mall or my own house. Before taking her to the mall ,tell her not to let you down at the mall.Make sure she's not going to steal in the mall while being with you. She's your friend,she should understand. If she does steal,maybe you can get in trouble,they may think your her accomplice.

I would take her to the mall. Maybe you can change her. Ha Ha. When shopping keep track of her, when she does her magic hand trick, take note of it. When its time to leave the shop, ask her "Can I buy whatever you are keeping in your bag, as a present for you." It might be money will spent, if she starts appreciating and learning that people around her care for her and are willing to give her a chance.

Oh boy! I have been through a similar situation, I have had a friend like yours. If you guys happen to go the mall, and she steals something even though you have no idea, if you are with her when she gets caught, you will gt in trouble as well. My advice s to go to a park, or take her to your house. Lock all valuables away. Sad that you can not trust your friend, but it's safer for you.

Tell her frankly what you think about her. You're not being honest to her, too, if you think bad about her and not telling it to her. If she's a true friend, she will listen to you. She won't do anything bad if you're with her since she' denying about her stealing.

I think this is one thing that she does not do with any intention.It is just something that crops up in her mind and she just does that without knowing the consequences.At times,That might lead you to be in trouble also as you are with her. So i think it is not a good idea to take her to the mall rather make her to stay at home and get all the valuables locked inside.I think you should take her to the doctor as soon as possible so that she does not do such offence again and again.This might ruin her.Well i would have taken her to the doctor straight away when i would have known her problem.psychologist may have great improvement in her habits.

If you think about it can really watch over her at home compared to going to the mall.

If you think she might even steal form your home, well I would let her in there, but for a short time, and paying attention to what she does. About going out, I would directly talk to her and say that if she has to steal something, please, not to do it with you beside her. Since you are friend, and it is a fact that she steals...well, she should take the thing easily and understand your request. Anyway, as far as I know, if you are catch with a person stealing in some shop, but you are not, nothing should happen to you, they might just ask you to show your pokets and nothing else.

I fyou go with her in the mall, you risk to get into trouble too. Better tak her to her house, but yes do be sure you have hidden everything precious, so that you don't worry about them. And don't mension anything about them, otherwise she'll try to search for them and you don't want that.

I hate to ask this question, but why are you still friends with her? If she doesn't have the respect for you or your husband to steal things from your home, this is not a true friend. Problems or not. Since you are in this situation, I would say that taking her to any shopping center is a bad bad bad idea. Legally, I am sure that you wouldn't be able to be prosecuted unless she put something in your bag or she said you were in on it. Just being present doesn't make you an accessory unless you participated. But proving this is difficult. So, avoid the situation at all costs. If you want my advice, get rid of her. I have had life long friendships that I have had to cut off because they stole from my house. If they can't respect my family they don't need to be in my life. Something to think about.

well if i were you i'd rather have him in my house and just secure your valuables at least you know that there some place in the house that he cannot enter unlike in the mall, your friend could easily shoplift anytime and when he gets caught it'll also be too embarassing on your part. Just watch out for stuff and goodluck.

I think u should talk to her about this problem, and if she is your real friend, then she will accept your advice. Also, she won't steal from your house, if u are her friend. Don't lock up your valuables, as it will create a negative impression and enrage her all the more.

i think you friend suffering from a dangerous sickness, a mental sickness. It's in psychology, and it is called as kleptomaniac. It is state when a person has an urge to steal in absence of an economic motive. More over it is a dangerous sickness, you must counsult your friend to a nearest or to any psychiatrist. Don't bring her to a mall, she may tries to steal in your absence. I think the best way is to let her come in your house and also keep on eye on her, she may try to steal some valuable things on your house, even she is your friend.

I believe if you take her to the mall and she shoplifts they'll think you're both doing it and they might say you're her lookout. If you bring her to your house just make sure that all your valuables are locked in a safe place..but best bet is bring her to your house instead and make sure you got your eyes on her.

this is some what a big problem

No, I don't think it would be you who got into trouble if she shoplifted at the mall. So, maybe that's not a good place to go. As far as taking her to your home I definately wouldn't do that. Could you take her and go out to eat or go to the movies or something like that? It's a tough spot to be in for you. A lot of times people who do this tend to have an addiction to it and that's a problem they need to deal with by seeking some sort of professional help. Do you think you could talk to her about it? If you can and you're close enough to feel comfortable with this, sit her down and tell her your concerns. Tell her that you care about her and would like to go shopping or have her stay by you but you're afraid her shoplifting would affect you if you were with her. Let her know that you don't want o seeher get into any kind of trouble and that you'd support her if she chose to get help. It's not the most fun thing in the world to talk to a friend about obviously, but maybe she'll listen to what you have to say. Maybe then she'll realize how this affects certain parts of your friendship and how much better your friendship would and could be if she would get help and get this problem under control. Good luck.

it is a addictive action that some people like the steel maybe. some rich people also like steel.i think need to get the sick by psychology

I have dealt with this personally and I lock everything valuable away just to protect myself. Sometimes they only steal from people they dont know, but I am not willing to take that chance at all.

If you think about it you can really watch over her at home compared to going to the mall.