living on your own as a family
By ivhygeine
@ivhygeine (21)
Philippines
March 23, 2007 3:30am CST
I married at a young age and as a result, my husband and I lived with my parents, we now have 2 kids and my parents, specially my mom convince me to move and live on our own so we'll know how to be independent..I'm very open to that idea but whenever I think of moving out I feel afraid that I may not be able to do my responsibilities as a mom, and a wife since I'm also working..I only have two weeks before we move out and I don't know what to do..please share me some of your ideas and experiences...
3 responses
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
23 Mar 07
staying in a joint family would always be good as it gives a lot of moral strength. but i think your mom's idea of asking you to move and live separately is not bad either as its only when we are alone in family we tend to gain independence and know our responsibilities. being in joint family we only become carefree and do our jobs neglecting the responsiblities a little. anyway now since you are to move and live i suggest you better move to a nearby place to your mom's house since you have kids and you are working too. in case of need you can seek your parents help.
@ivhygeine (21)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
thank you totalearnings for your advice..I'll consider your suggestion because I believe I still need my parent's help especially now that it's going to be my first time..
@lucy67 (819)
• China
23 Mar 07
it's lucky for you to have parents helping you for such a long time. anyhow it's also necessary for you to be independent. needless to say you will meet a lot of difficulties especially when you are doing a full time job. if you don't have someone help you, you can do a part- time job.
@omerta (90)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
it looks like you're not ready yet to be independent:)
starting a new family rather standing on your own,providing your family their essential needs is kinda tough for a mom who is very young,... there's this saying that "you have to sacrifice in order to met your goal"..
as for you, i think you have to hire a nanny to take care of your kids, well if you cant afford it/you dont trust a nanny to take care of your kids you might as well resign so that you can do your role as a mother and as a wife:)
