What do you think? Older and more experienced or younger and trainable?
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
United States
March 23, 2007 11:10am CST
I tend to go for younger men, not for their trainability but more so for their personality and zest for life. Men my age are generally (not all I'm sure) very down on life and looking for a maid and housekeeper with a part time nanny attached. Many have no clue why they've divorced and most are divorced because they're morons! LOL So I tend to end up with much younger men.
Many ask me if I chose them because they're "trainable". I laugh, but it does ring some truth. BUT I will admit there's something to be said in having someone who just knows what to do also.
Do you have a preference? Do you think older and experienced wins over younger and tranable?
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think it depends on the man..how much younger are you talking...let's be specific here?
Are you talking 20s? 30s? 40? Give us the real scoop!
I'll be back after work to get the inside info.
BTW I like your new pic!
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
23 Mar 07
LOL.. well I've come a long ways since my divorce. When I first divorced I dated men 20 years younger (I was 37 and dated 18 yr olds) Ok, yes... it was extreme but I swear I never pursued them. To this day the oldest man I've dated is about 10-12 years younger. It's not really that I find these younger men on purpose, just that they tend to be less strapped down with life I guess and I'm not ready for being strapped with a man, his kids, his ex, his past financial disasters, etc. that I've always seem to have found with dating men my own age or slightly older.
I will say though that all of the younger men I've dated have pursued me, so it's not like I really "go" for those younger guys I just seem to connect with them. The guy I'm currently sort of seeing (like that wishy washy way? LOL) is 10 years younger.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Well Mrs Robinson, you better be careful...we don't need to be reading about you in the paper.
Well, the man in my life is younger then me but only by about 5 years. His kids are actually older then mine, so I guess he maybe physically younger but logically older ...how is that for bassackwards logic.
I did look at your avatar..but I can only get it so big, the picture actually looks cold, it is pretty cool.
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@nowment (1757)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I actually preferred older men for years would not date men who were to young which meant that if they were not more than 5 years older than I they were to young.
There is something to be said for experience, trust me some of those men were wonderful, but the man I am involved with now is a few years younger than I and he is great, he has the maturity and dependability of a younger man, but with more stamina in life,
Some young men are immature, some older men are immature, I have come to realize that to be honest age is irrelavant, it is about who they are not how old they are.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I have to agree... it really does depend doesn't it?
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@clover (104)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 07
I'm still young so I'm not someone who is really familiar with the real world.
I prefer older and matured guy over younger one because I'm the type of domestic girl who would do houseworks etc.. so I tend to go for someone who can lead the family and I don't really believe a yonger guy than me can lead me well... but I know it's just a matter of assumption and preference.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
23 Mar 07
LOL.... I'm kind of frightened with the name mylot "BOY"!!!!! I am not going to be on Dateline Predator!!!! hahaha!
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
24 Mar 07
This depends on the individual. For me, I find the older men generally are more mature; experience and patience and so on.
Obviously I don't mean young men are not good enough, there are also young men are mature and experience out there. But another thing I will like to say is living with a man who is older than me also make me feel more secure for life and long last...
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@moreinfo (3865)
• China
24 Mar 07
Experiences are always not easy to learn or to accumulate.
Even it depends, but experiences are always more critical.
@sweetaspie52 (2359)
• United States
24 Mar 07
older and more experienced because they are more settled down and know what they want out of life had a goal and met it
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@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I like older guys, for they are actually men not boys.. hehe..
It's because I would want someone responsible and decisive.
Someone who's got plans, and knows how to go through life, someone who is a leader and of course can take care of me too. The thing is that I find guys my age to be kinda immature for me, I would probably go for older guys, I kinda feel that I will end up with a guy really older than I am.
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@carlaurens (188)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
It depends. Those who have more experienced and old enough, maybe they should pass or transfer what they knew to those young people because as old as they are them have gain enough knowledge and understanding to somethings the younger doesn't pass through.. Those who were younger and trainable should seek their knowledge but being with those more experienced because from them they can get new discoveries, as i have observe young people today were ambitious and undergo evry trend of the society, they can handle and have some unique idea but it should also be consulted.
@jean_rose (415)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I am the exact opposite. I find myself attracted to much older men. My husband, is in fact, 8 years my senior. It's just that I find emotional stability in older men. I couldn't also say that they are much better than the "trainable" young ones because I haven't experienced being in a relationship with one of them.
But it's really how both persons deal with the relationship that matters...
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@dymediva21 (13)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I don't really have a preference, but I do notice, and I will never admit this to my friends, but I do tend to go for the younger men. I'm 21 y/o and my son's dad is 19...he just turned it last month(GASP!!) i know, shocking right? But I like younger guys b/c older men are trying to find a wife now, and I just don't get how you can want to marry somebody and you've only known them for like 2 months(this happens alot in my town) so i tend to steer towards the younger version of fellas, b/c right now im trying to have fun in my life, not be somebody's maid or pushover.
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@seemababli (1)
• India
24 Mar 07
I think youngers are more preferrable than older because they have the zest to struggle, to learn new things, to discover something new and make life more comforatable. Older people get stressed of their life and lack all this. This results in low growth and development rate.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I dont think I consiously look for a partner in a certain age group but it seems when I was young I wanted a sophisticated older man. Then when I was older I seemed to trade them in for newer models.
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@KetanGulati (579)
• India
24 Mar 07
I guess I would defintiely go for younger who are more trainalble, flexible, and enthusiastic --they are more determied amd actually bear the craze to do anything--to reach milestones--to go places!!! The older might have more of practicaly knowledge by experience , but definitely they wopuld not be able to perform eith that level of zest in them--- as the youngsters--coz they have already attained their staibility--that reduces their reactivity--unloike our youngsters!!!
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Well, for me it has to younger. Not so much because they are, "trainable" (though I admit that is nice ;)), but because it has always felt like the natural order of things to me. I'm not saying that it MUST be this way but for me it just doens't feel right if he's older. And I know this is going to make me sound shallow - and maybe I am - but I just can't get interested in a man older than myself. When I find out his age, if he is my age or less than 5 years younger than me, I just lose all interest. I can't seem to help it.
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@bronzdragon (64)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I've always prefered older women. During college I found girls my age to be immature.
I don't know about the training part, but I picked my wife (10 years my senior) on a lot of factors but most of all, we got along well.
I think two people in a relationship have to be mentally on the same level. Just because you are a certain age, doesn't mean you are mature. For instance, I've met 50 year old immature people (male and female) and I've met 20 year olds who are very mature.
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