Is it better for your child to be outgoing, or shy?

This is a tough one- I know alot of kids that are shy and alot that are outgoing- My daughter is a little of both- She gets shy around people she doesn't know and then there are times when she can be borderline obnoxious! Her voice carries and sometimes she gets loud-- I am always saying -- Lower your voice.. So I think in the case of kidnappings-- this is great! She'd yell her head off-- and hopefully someone would help her. But on the same note to some of the kids that don't really know her well-- They think she is bossy at times.. So being shy is also good!

My question to you would be, can you actually control how your child is? I think being either outgoing or shy is something we are born with. I dont know how to NOT be shy yet. I got this book from the library out and I am gonna look through it about how to not be shy. I have been shy my WHOLE life. I agree I outgrew it sorta after high school. But heck its still there. At new jobs, around guys, etc. I am still shy. When I was little my mom's point of view here, she said she used to notice kids look at me like I was a snob when I wouldnt reply to them cause I was shy. I would go in my turtle shell and not come out without making sure I was okay. On the other hand there is my sister, 3 yrs younger. She is outgoing. She is NOT shy. She in this area most of all is a total opposite of me. I am shy, she is outgoing. When we get together we can be nutty cause she brings out that best in me. I know very few who can do it. Around her I am usually not as shy as I normally am. So truly I wish I wasnt shy as a child. I think it would have been great to not be. I dont think its something you can change. I know you can work on it, but something truly you are born with. Some kids are naturally shy. Hopefully your daughter will outgrow this. Or learn to live with it. its not fun being shy. Especially now as a grown up. :((

This is a very hard question. You don't want your child to be shy and hide from things. Then, they will sort of "protected" from the outside world because they are shy. Some people don't take risks in there life that can help them because they are shy. There are other issues that can occur if one is too shy. They can keep things inside and that will make life and other things sad and depressing. I use to be very shy...and I cried in school. I keep quiet, but that shyness built up inside and made things frustrating and hard for me. But, as I got older, I opened myself up more and become a very outgoing, friendly person....but I am also cautious. However, at the same time would you really want your child to be very outgoing and talk to everyone? I know I wouldn't want my child to be too outgoing. But, how can you really teach a child to be cautious, but not make them scared and shy? Maybe you can teach a child some how about the dangers and the things that can happen. I think that it is great if a child is outgoing, then you can really see how they are without trying to find out who they are, what they like, and who they may become. I would much rather have an outgoing child that can express themselves, but know what can happen out in the world and to be cautious. With that said, I would rather have an outgoing child than a shy one!! :D

I am not shy, but I am cautious. Once I have established a relationship with a person, I'm completely outgoing with them. I love the people who are familliar to me, but tend to guard myself against those I don't know. If I see a quality in a person that I like, I will start to let them in, but if they turn out to betray me or not be who they appear, I move on. I don't let them in completely until I really know them well.

I think your daughter needs to know that she shouldn't talk to adults she doesn't know and definitely shouldn't go anywhere with them. If she is lost, it is best to approach a police officer or a security person (like at a mall or something; she could also go to someone who works there). I think she can learn to be cautious around strangers without being overly fearful. At the same time, you want her to be able to develop good social skills and make friends. The great thing about classes like Gymboree is that they not only help develop motor skills, but it gives kids a chance to be around other kids and make some friends. If she is having a hard time talking to the other kids there, maybe you can arrange a playdate for her. I am figuring that there are other moms there watching their kids, and you could arrange a playdate with one of their kids and invite them over. It's a good chance for the moms to bond, too. It might be easier for your daughter to be friendly with the other kids in her own house in a one-on-one setting.

I think in a perfect world kids could have a happy medium between the two. Like I think it's kind of good for kids to be shy and cautious around strangers. But then you have to worry about those strangers that are very charming to kids that could easily get their attention. And with a very outgoing child I think it would be even easier for a stranger to get their attention. I think as parents it's our job to teach our kids never ever to trust strangers unless we say it's ok.

I think if ur child is Outgoing then he only he/she can win the race of life!!!! or if child is shy.... he cant even propose his/her partner. Got it!!!!

I really dont the answer, but I have a 6 year old girl and she is very shy. A lot of what is embedded in her mind is from me because i'm so paranoid. She wont go outside by herself in case someone steals her etc.... I think that you have to teach them about different situations that they are going to be ok.

now a days it is necessary to make your child smart enough so that they can take care of themselves,i think smart children know about the basic precautions like "don't talk to strangers?","don't take things from strangers?" etc.

I was a very shy child and it was very difficult for me growing up like this. It has taken me many years to build my confidence and even now I don't feel that comfortable in some situations. My eldest daughter is really confident and I am pleased that she will be able to embrace all aspects of life without worrying and being afraid. My younger daughter isn't as confident but I'm working on helping her with it as she needs to be able to enjoy life as well.

i thnk the child shud be outgoing in todays world coz...becoming shyu is no option in the world today...its jus next to living bad nd making life miserable

I want my future kids to be outgoing, of course ;) I want them to grow with self-confidence, humility, courage and are not afraid to take risks. Although I will not let them do their own decisions yet until I know they're prepared and ready. I don't want to be so strict to them but I will discipline them the way God disciplines us. I will teach them proper manners and behavior, and courteousness so as not to let them be too much of an "outgoing".

My first daughter was extreamly shy and I thought It was a good thing as far as stranger danger goes but it hurt her a little when it came to family that didn't visit very often or new friends to the family. My youngest son on the other hand is compeltly different and I worry about him for it. he's only 2 I took him to the park recently and he sat down beside 6 different people. He just strolled up said hi and sat down next to them. I was very scary I mean my child wouldn't have to be kidnapped he would just follow someone away. I am still trying to teach him about strangers but at the same time I hate to make him afrid of people. I think that children are going to be children and we have to try our best to teach them the differencein friendly and vulnerability. we have to try to teach them the basic of stranger danger and hope and pray that they remember and take it to heart.

I feel that they should be more outgoing because it is a good idea to meet other people and learn to develop a social life early on. However, they must learn to be careful not to talk to strangers because you may never know what will happen with them. They should join sports or any afterschool activities

Outgoing. But I would not force the issue.

Well your right with things the way they are nowa days I dont think I want my children to be out going and trusting. Theres just to many people out there that are looking to take advantage of people like this. If it was years ago then I say yes it would be fine to teach your children to be out going but now I teach mine not to trust anyone and never talk or get within arm's reach of a stranger.

i was very shy and missed out on alot of things. i hope that mine are outgoing but to the point where its safe. i teach them saflty all the time and its great.

I think in the long run, it would be good to develop their communication skills. It always helps to start from young. Parents and schools should provide the adequate knowledge in terms of protection.

hello I have lived in 11 countries and all I know is if I was shy I would not have been able to buy the first ticket to get on that plane. you are right, there are alot of crazy people out walking the earth. If your believe in destiny than you would know that when its your turn to go nothing can stop that out come and that the oppest is also true. Thus expose your child to as many different people as possible. ps. watch live and sell your stuff for free on www.globaleflyer.com thank you

i think its better outgoing so the child can socialize among friends just don't forget to give her tips on somethings that might harm! better that you should know their friends..