why are older brothers so mean to their younger sis?

.. Being the elder brother i know what i used to be like and how mean i was to my younger sis .I did everything from tease her to putting bugs in her glass of milk , damn i think i even locked her up in the bathroom once and switched off the lights .. But as the years went by all that faded away.It became more about protecting her from harm than anything else for which she repects me .My sister and i are thicker than blood and i love her to bits. So its a huge possiblity that your brother is jst going through one of those phases where he has to appear all knowing to gain your respect.. all in all hope his bully side fades away

I think I am lucky enough because I have 4 sisters and they all love me so much,they always want to give me what I want,I thank them so much and I love them so much.

It's sad to know that you have a strained relationship with your brother. I think family should always be close and happy and should share good memories together. However, if your brother physically hurt you, then of course it's understandable for you to "loathe" him. It's not right to hurt anyone, especially if that person on the receiving end is a relative. I do hope that you find it in your heart to forgive him. You may not openly show it to him that you've forgiven him but at least for your own peace of mind, you can find that solemnity.

There is only 2 of us in our family, I have an older brother, we're 3 years apart. We aren't very very close, but we are in good terms. I don't know if I should consider it bullying, when we were younger we always fight, and yes we get physical, he punches me and I punch him back, he had asthma before, I remember one time he was teasing me and I was so furious that I hit him at the back, then he had a hard time breathing and I thought he was having asthma attack or something because of what I did. From then on, I stopped hitting him... Well he did not stop teasing me and stuff, but everything became verbal, not physical. Now we're older, we don't fight anymore. Maybe because we aren't super close but yet I can say I love my brother, he's the only one I got afterall.

i have only one sister and i am the eldest brother but ever since we were kids i haven't treated her that way. up to now that she is already to give birth to her fist baby i still think of her as my little sister. i even sometimes kiss her on the forehead even though she doesn't like that. maybe its just because of each individuals character and attitude with regards to their view on this matter . I myself will even argue with any brother that having treat their sisters like that. that's not how to treat especially family.

I m the oldest in my family and though i hav not been involved in doing all the mischief in the house it so happens that often i m blamed for anything that was done by my brothers,and then i kept wondering y always i was been pushed to the edge by my brothers. So i think that no matter in which order u r born in the family everything evolves and revolves around u.Every one has adifferent story to tell abt their childhood and their siblings and we also outgrow them eventually.But i dont think for any reasons i can ever loathe my brothers cause i love them very much.

i think they feel superior than their smaller sister or they just behave bad and never had a right guidance towards other siblings.

Sometimes cause of the problem is different. Parents loves their childern but there may be one child whom the love more than others and as they protect them more other child starts feeling insecure. so this is not actually a problem of havin bros/sis. older then you. I am facing same problem but I am feeling good with my friends. So build up your confidence.

We are just the same. My older brother is also mean. But we got older and we already have our own family he become good to me. Before i experienced spanking, received bruises from him and other bad thing he has done to me. But when something happen to me I always worry for him. MAybe blood is thicker than water as they say.

I'm the oldest in the family. No, it isn't right to be bullied by older or younger siblings. I have gotten to the point of loathing with my siblings. Sometimes, separation is a good thing-or at least the lesser of two evils.

This is a different twist on things! As an oldest sibling, I was extremely mean to my brother. I was very jealous of his status as "the baby". I was so mean to him,,that sometimes I can't believe how angry I was! I used to beat him up, scare him, and all kinds of stuff. I felt resentful because we were latchkey kids and I was responsible at a young age for him and that he was treated differently than I was. I am sure you love him but you have alot of resentment because of the treatment you received. Sometimes it becomes hard to distinguish. Please don't waste time on this grudge. If something were to happen to him and you never got the chance to say I love you or that you never got the chance to get to know him as an adult, you will have regrets. I have a wonderful relationship with my brother now. I talked to him about all of my feelings and my guilt for being so mean to him and he has forgiven me for those things. Maybe he feels the same way from an older sibling perspective. Give him a chance! Holding a grudge is a waste of energy better spent on good times!

i am not the youngest in fact i am the oldest but i dont treat them(younger siblings) that way.. i just give them the proper doing when they disrespect me cause in my country which is Philippines, parents here give the power to the eldest child... it's like mom and dad are the PRESIDENT nd you are the vice president... but if the VICE president is doing bad things instead of helping younger sibling realize what is wrong from right then they stop the VICE president. your brother has a problem. actually you're like my bestfriend but she's not the youngest, she's the second to his oldest brother. she's always been bullied. but i told her just tell your parents and evrything would be alright instead of fighting back and she did. her younger sister was sent to their province.. and she stayed here. and she went to your point FYI. she even said much harshed words than what you are telling here and you dont want to here it.. yi sugget you try doing the peaceful way. talk him out or parents'll talk him out.

i'm the youngest and i have 1 older sister.

i am the yougest in the house too but i have 2 older brothers and 1 older sister. my sister and i get along sometimes but she always bosses me around. im 10, one of my older brothers is about to be 11, my sister is 17, and the meanest of them all is 12. one day im am going to be famouse and they will be asking me for money and i will do the samething they do to me, say"NO". i cant wait for that day. you guys dont even know what ive been through for the past 10 years. one of my brothers imbareses me in front of my friends and i am sick of it . he even puts his foot in my mouth. he allso farts in my face. it so rong. i know i get on his nerves but i dont be agresive with him. ITS NOT FAIR. this is the edvise i have for the people whith older brothers, you will get through it and some whn you are a big shot, things will turn around. i promise you that.

As both the oldest and middle child in my family, I have been both the teased and the teaser. More as the oldest than the middle, though, I tease more than I am teased. And I pick hard. But there's a reason why I do it: I know that if I pick on my little brother and sister enough, they won't be able to be hurt by someone else. They both know that I love them more than words can say, and that I would never do anything short of protecting them both, with my life if necessary. I was teased mercilessly by my father, aunt, uncle, and grandfather so much growing up, that now I just brush anything off; it doesn't even faze me anymore, because I've already experienced it so much. I don't know the nature of your brother's treatment of you. I don't know how he did it, but, from the viewpoint of a big sister, I think he did it with the idea of making you stronger (even if it was unintentional). I have never "loathed" anyone, really, much less my older or younger siblings. It's what I grew up with, so I accept it as it is, and even did it to my little brother and sister. And don't worry about his "know-it-all" attitude; it happens to the very best of us, and people who THINK they know it all are very annoying to those of us who do. :)

You said you got bruises from your bro? Oh that's bad.. Sorry to hear that. Well i am the 2nd to the eldest and i would say that im doing the bully things also to my younger siblings. But its not that bad like causes them bruises or even knock their teeth off. lol Its just like, were showing some love. hehe We're not actually doing same things like you girls do with your younger siblings though, we're not like hugging and kissing our younger siblings coz we dont like to. hehe I dunno, we felt it like "why should i do that?" And besides, there's a lot of ways to show that we care not only by hugging, kissing or any sweety twitams things.. hehe

i think sometimes it's because they're bigger,and they can. my brother and i fought like cats and dogs til we were teenagers.he finally stopped fighting me when i grew my fingernails.he didn't like being scratched. a bit extreme,i know..but it worked.

I am one of nine children . Being that I am the youngest I can relate to what your saying except I found that my sisters were just as bad as my brothers. It seems to be an older sibling thing because the older kids would do it to the younger ones passing it all the way down.It never got so bad that I loathed any one of them . As an adult my one brother still likes to tease everyone even his own kids , we have learned how to ignore it. Thats the best thing to do when someone is teasing you is to ignore it. Giving them no response gives them satisfaction.

u are lucky because u have siblings. i'm the only child. i used to be home alone all the time. my dad & mom busy working even they are more than 60 now.