If you don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing at all...

Honestly, it's a good saying, but I personally can't keep my mouth shut lol. I always tell things how I see them, no matter how bad it may be. I do at least try and use a little bit if tact though, because I've said things in the past to my friends and not realized how badly I hurt them till they let me know. So yeah, it's gotten me into trouble a time or two. My friends do know that I don't mean to be hurtful though and they know to expect the unexpected with me lol.

yes i do believe in thsi saying to extent. and i do mean a big extent. if you think that it would hurt that person then do not tell them. if you think that it will help that person then tell them. it all depends on the person and what the thing is that you are going to say to them.

Well its probably smarter to keep your mouth shut in some situations but me personally I cant. I always speak my mind no matter how bad it is. Sometimes it gets me into trouble while other times it has gotten me into a fight. Im not one to sit back and listen to someone's sh*t without giving any back.

I usually go by the "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." But sometimes something will make me upset or mad enough that I have to let it out and say something. I figure holding something in that upsets you too much is just going to make your blood pressure go up.

i agree to that statement "if you dont have anything nice to say then say nothing at all" because you are rude the your fellow will hurt and its not good that you hurt other people because in the bible (said) if you hurt other people then you hurt God..

Oh yes, i do live by that saying. I wasn't born to "attack" people, i was born to Defend myself. I also live by the golden rule.."do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you". and since i want others to respect my feelings as a person, i give the same respect to their feelings. however, if anybody makes a first move to hurt me, i believe i have every right to defend myself. but, until that happens, i prefer to keep my mouth shut and life is peaceful for me. plus, i give my kids the example to think before they speak.

I try to live by that maxim but there are times when I do struggle to keep my mouth shut. Often it is wiser or just simply kinder to keep your opinion to yourself. I really have very little time for people that pride themselves on "speaking their mind" no matter what. It's usually just an excuse to be rude and unpleasant to others. It mainly depends on how important the issue is - if it's something that I feel very strongly about then I will speak up but if it's just something trivial like commenting on someone else's appearance then, if I can't think of anything positive to say, I won't say anything unless I really have to. For instance I used to work in an office with a woman who entirely lacked the sensitivity gene. If someone came in with a new hairstyle, new glasses, new anything .... she would tell them exactly what she thought and didn't pull her punches (I'm talking about unasked for opinions here as well) whereas in that situation if I didn't like it I would keep quiet. If I was asked for an opinion I would find something positive (or at least neutral) to say. I do love a good gossip but not malicious gossip. I think there is a huge difference between tittle-tattle (which is really for the amusement of the people gossiping) and real, full-blown, malicious gossip which is intended to damage the person being gossiped about. I used to be a real gossip but like to think I've learned the error of my ways as I've got older.

I was brought up on that philosophy. And I always do my best to follow it still. I also do not gossip....most of the things I say about people are true as I don't believe that I could have spread lies about anyone on purpose...which is the main reason I don't talk about anything I heard unless I can bear out that it is true and no one will be hurt.

I dont believe in this in any way. I dont think that keeping your mouth shut wil make the situation less complicated. Im not a frank person but I dont hide anything that i want to say cause if I dont say it loud it will just hunt me.

yes, this is a classic saying and I've said it to my kids while growing up several times. It seems that compassion is something not learned in all homes these days.

No, sufficient for evil to triumph that good men do naught. We should not be affraid to confront things all the best urban

In my life I have learned that it is better to be quiet than to voice out my opinions if it is going to hurt someone else. This is because my in laws live with me and although I don't agree with them always I try my best to be silent. There are times I do get angry and want to say something but I control myself so that there will be peace in the family. I just can't live in the same house and look at their sour faces everyday. Although I am in control and can do anything I want to because it is my house I am willing to be silent if it can keep my family together. When the situation involves other individuals and where it is neccessary that I make a comment I try to be as kind as I can.

Oh live by this rule. I'm really the quiet type and I tend to think about what I would say before I say it. I'm not impulsive or tactless, I just really think about the consequences of what I say. But it's hard though specially when my emotions are overwhelming me. Sometimes I spit out things that I never mean in the midst of anger.

Yes I believe this is better to do to have some peace. I try to live this way but sometimes some people are so bad that you can't avoid saying bad things back to them. I don't know who is Olympia Dukakis but no I don't believe when she says if you don't have anything nice to say come sit by me. My God I would get a depression if I had to sit by people who badmouth and say bad things all the time.

I do try to follow this rule in my life. I try to always be honest but to also uplift everyone that I talk to. I hate to hear gossip and I try to stay away from those people who do gossip

I basically live by that rule but I do have a little clause in mine. I will not intentionally say something mean to someone for the heck of it. I will by all means respond to someone's unkindness with something mean. I am constantly reminding my husband "Mr. Negativity" to hush. He is constantly dishing out unpleasant comments everywhere. LOL He has definitely learn to refrain from barking up my tree. I am very nice but when I need to be nasty it's very UGLY.

I believe that some things just HAVE to be said. They don't necessarily have to be said in a rude or unkind way; but sometimes the greatest unkindness is in not saying what needs to be said.

yes i believe in this to some extent. if you have nothing nice to say then sometimes it is necessary to keep your's mouth shut.sometimes what you feel the right to say, but may be the same doesn't right statements or judgement for others,by saying this you may be confused or upset others.

I have always been very forward with my opinions and my thoughts however, I am not out to hurt people or offend them. I don't think it is constructive to society or friendship to go out of my way to tear people down. Having said that, if I feel strongly about something I will voice my opinion in a soft way.

depends on the situation. i keep my mouth shut if i know that whatever i have to say wouldnt help the situation. but if i thought that it would help, then i say what's on my mind even if it hurt some people.