Am I being DECEIVED?
By minty3
@minty3 (592)
Nigeria
March 27, 2007 5:01am CST
I have been dating my guy for about two months plus and since he had most qualities i would desire in a future mate so i looked forward to his proposal but he never did.Several times i asked him to define our relationship but he seemed not to understand. Since we met, he always declined talking about his past relationships and promised to when the time comes. Two things made me scared and since he would not open up i started making up my mind to break the intimacy and let it be just friends.
Then he suddenly woke up and opened up to me - he's asthmatic and has a six-year-old son.
My problem now is that, he has finally proposed and wants me to say yes. The mother of his child though they never married is still in his life yets he wants to marry me. IS THIS NOT A BIG DECEPTION?
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6 responses
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Relax.. Breathe...
You're only dating this guy for only two months and you're thinking that he's deceiving you by not talking about his past? That's quite unfair, you should understand that men are not talkers, meaning they do not talk too much about the past or whatever's going on in their lives. He already told you about his health problem and his son so I don;t see any reason why you should think he's deceiving you.
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@AngelaChenShui (8)
• Jamaica
1 Apr 07
Great to know she's made a decision... and she's lucky to have you as a friend! ;-)
Blessings,
Angela.
@joluha (342)
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27 Mar 07
If you have only been seeing this guy for two months what on earth are you panicking about? I would be more worried if you said you were going to marry him after two months - you cannot possibly know him after such short time.
Take the time to get to know him a lot better before marrying him! Get to know his son and find out what his ex is like before even considering it!
@czaroma (136)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
I think this is not about deception. This is a matter of making a decision. Two months is not long enough and there shouldn't be a rush to get married. He might also be waiting for the perfect time to talk to you about his past life. It is actually much better to get to know him better. It takes a great deal to accept that he has a child from another woman. They are not married, so I don't think there would be a problem.
You also have to think a thousand times before getting married to anyone. Do not think of being 30's as a need to get married. Marry someone whom you believe is worth having for the rest of your life.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
If I were in your shoes, I will forget all about him. Go, find someone more suitable. He is trying to have 2 women for a wife at the same time. That's too bad. Actually, there is no need for you to weigh things out. It is definite that he is out, what qualities can ever cover up for those oddities? None at all that I can think of.
@honeyangel (1991)
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27 Mar 07
i dont think this is deception as youve only been together for 2 months and you two still have a lot to learn about each other.just because the mother of his child is still in his live doesnt mean anything they have a child together.so what if he is a asthmatic as long he takes his inhalers he will be ok.i dont see a problem if you want to get married then go a head and do it
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@Buminathan (159)
• India
1 Apr 07
If u decide with him ur life, without wounding to his wife and son go ahead. Otherwise when u arises this question ur inner mind says this is not lead to good one. Ask anytime in anyproblem from ur inner mind will guide u absolutely go through that way is ever safe to u.
