If you had an affair, would you tell your spouse?

I will not tell my spouse about it. It will just hurt my spouse. Better not to tell and live with it.

I think this is a difficult question. The first thing I think that should be asked is that why is this affair happening? It could be because you have found that something in the other person which your wife couldn't give you. I t also could be that it happened when you were at a low in your relationship and you suddenly found solace elsewhere. If your relationship with your spouse is strong enough then I think you should end the affair and not think of ending a relationship which you have worked hard to maintain. I think if I am the person being cheated and I am unable to provide what my spouse is looking for I'll end the relationship. But if its a momentary thing I think I'll try and get on with my life and my wife.

For starters I would not cheat on my husband just if I did , I must love him too much to do it !!

I dont think I will tell if there is an affair. It would be difficult to deal with any problems and unhappiness that comes along with the knowledge. If I am being cheated, I definitely feel hurt. As to whether I will forgive or not, depends on why it happen. I tend to believe if there is an affair, both parties are responsible for it and have to be accountable for the mistake made by one party.

i'm not yet married, but when i think about it.. if i would have an affair, no. knowing how my boy friend would react to this. i don't want to break his heart that many times and i still love him more.. if he cheated on me, which already happened, i'd let him choose. and i'd go from there.. but one time would be enough. i still love myself.

Yes, I would definitally tell me spouse. I have cheated on him before, and I felt very badly about it, and I feel if you dont care about their feelings, thats when you dont tell him, but if you do care its best to tell them, because the longer you wait, if they find out they will be crushed even more. I would forgive my spouse, depending on exactly what happened and how long/bad it was, and how he was treating me.

I would always rather hear an unpleasant truth than a carefully crafted lie. To me, even thogh I would be very hurt if my husband had an affair, if he tells me it shows that he is prepared to think about how I feel and how me might put things right. Different couples have different boundaries, for some the idea of extramarital relations isnt as devastating as it might be to another, the critical thing is honesty in any situation.

If my husband ever were to cheat on me I'd kick his everloving behind! HOWEVER that doesnt mean he couldnt be with someone else..I wouldnt be mad because he was with another woman, I'd be mad because he didnt have the b@lls to tell me he was interested in another woman...That being said, I wouldnt and have never cheated on my husband...I did however have another man in my life but my husband new about him..it was never a secret...and if I were sexually interested in someone new for a fling I'd just tell my husband and we'd go from there...Thats our agreement...