Children, how many is too many?

I think you can say that you have too many children when you just can't handle them anymore and give them what they need. It doesn't matter if you have just one, or two, or twelve. I think it depends upon your capability of having and raising a child. One is if you can finance their needs and give them a bright future. Another thing to consider is your patience and passion to help them grow up to be nice and respectable person. It's not about numbers, it's about one's capability.

Scientists say, that the best age to plan baby is till 30-35. Later in organizm of woman become changes of her hormon system and there that there is more risk to deliver a sick baby. But in reality, woman deliver her first baby at 40 and later. ... I become a mother at 32.It was my first baby and only. She was born after Cesarius incision operation, and i think I don't need more kids. Even i would be able to grow up more. How much is enough? Usually "standard" number is 2 kids in family. But my friend, she have 5 now, but she say, that she isn't sure that will stop think about 6'th:) Not every woman have such instinct to be mother of pentand childs and more. I saw family with 16 childs and all were in good care of their parents. Anyway it deppends from much of reasons .Somebody dream just about only , for others not enough of 10...

Hi Lyn. The number of children a married couple decides to have will depend on how much they are willing to work. My husband and I are planning for only 2 children, we already have 1 and we still don't have plans of having another soon because a toddler indeed is exhausting. One of the factors that we consider is our financial stability, it's very expensive to raise a child nowadays and we wouldn't want to deprive our child/ren the privelege of studying in a good private school, something we wouldn't be able to do if we have 5 children. The other factor is that I have scoliosis and my husband is afraid that my spine may not be able to handle the pressure of pregnancy and taking care of many children. I have 4 other siblings, yes there are times when we have lots of fun but more often than not you can find us fighting over something stupid. As for the age it will be best if the woman is over 20 years old, because a teenager is still immature and not ready for the responsibilities that a small baby brings. I had my son when I was 20 and I was overwhelmed by all the things that I need to do just to satisfy his needs. He's 2 now and I can tell that he appreciates all my hard work because whenever I look tired or pretend to look tired he would hug and kiss me.

My parents have 10 children together, the youngest is now 4, the eldest 22, and I think they did rather well up till now with raising them. I don't believe there's an ideal number of children in general, my parents can cope perfectly well with 10, for some only 1 is already too much. It completely depends on the parents,and on the children too of course, because some will always be needing more attention and energy from their parents than others. I personally, don't think I'll ever want more than 2, but seeing as I was planning on having absolutely none a few years ago, I think you can't really plan that kind of thing. Your thoughts on that kind of matter will always change over time.

I dont think there is an easy answer for your question. How many children is too many depends on too many different situations. Every household is different. Some families are so bonded and so well structured out that there is no problem for them having 4 or more kids. For other families being a family at itself with only 1 child is heavy enough. I count myself to the last group. We have 1 child. I have had severe medical conditions when I was pregnant. And so we decided to let the wish to have more kids go. Simply because we dont want me to get in severe medical conditions again. We are always saying to each other: we are so blessed having our son. We have enough. We are so happy having him. Its not a big problem getting ourselves transported toward anywhere. We can easily manage the finances because there is only 1 child.

The age for a woman to have kids would be less than 30 yrs. The number of kids to have in a family would be ideally 2-3. Afterall, kids are God's gifts and if we receive more they are what we deserve. Though families plan, there are many families where in they do not have the oppurtunity to have babies. When we are fortunate enough, accept everything with a smile from Him.

One can be too many if you're unable to take care of the child. Some people have 9 children and are raising fine responsible young boys and girls. Other people may only have one, but if the parents are unable to teach and rear the child to become a responsible individual, then one is too many. I have two children and I think two is enough for my situation. A friend of mine has 6 and they are all wonderful children, but when I watch her I get exhausted.

For me, to have many kids is fun and great, but at the same time very exhausting. But in our trend today that salary is low, dirty politics, not so safe environment to live and a lot more, i think the ideal kids to have is 3. If both parents is working, then it will suffice the familys needs. To have more kids means more income in the family so as not to suffer or sacrifice the familys basic needs and the wants. I say wants but with limits.

nope i dont plan of how many children should i have..i just have them when they come..at present ive got 4 children but have no regrets however for having them ..they are all grown up...

Well in my family i have 5 sisters and 3 brothers, and its not really that much trouble The older ones help look after the younger ones, and i look after everybody (im the oldest, but only 19, so not too old) But i have to say that there is no perfect amount of children, but big families are cool ;)

The ideal number of kids will very from person to person. I however, think that you should only have as many children as you can care for and support. I guess I sound harsh but if you are on welfare and the government (taxes) are paying for your kids you should not be having more kids. Women in this position should be trying to get work to support their kids not making more. There are others that have so many kids that one parent is working two or three jobs and not around just to put food on the table. This is leaving one parent to raise the kids and the other parent is too tired to have anything to do with the kids at all. The other thing is if you have so many kids that you can't get the grocery shopping done without having your kids running all over the store pulling things off the shelves and just generaly being unruley you should not have any more kids. My mom had me when she was 18 and I had my daughter when I was 25. There is no perfect number for having kids. The only thing is make sure you can afford them and that the man you pick is going to be around to help you raise the kids. There are so many mom's raising children alone and I can tell you that is not fun.

My sister has 4 children: a boy aged 10, a boy aged 6, a girl aged 4 and a baby girl aged 8 months. I think her life can be quite exhausting but she makes a wonderful mum. Her children mean the world to her. I have a boy aged 11 and am currently pregnant. I would like to have a girl after this, to complete my family. The best age to have a first baby is from the woman's early to late twenties. I think the early thirties is also quite a good time. After age 35 some women find it challenging to get pregnant. Some teenagers make good parents but many are just not ready at this age.

I think the Number of children depend on the family. My Cousin as an example has 5 kids, all within a year and half of each other. So she is quite busy!! I think I want only 2 kids when that time comes.

First, congratulate your SIL:p I want to have two babies, a son and a daught,and I hope I can give birth a baby boy first. I think one child or two or three children may be the ideal number of a family. Well that depends on the ability of the family. If you have a lot of time and a great deal of money, you can have more children than other families. And I think the best age of a woman to have a baby is around 25 to 30.

there should be atmax 2 kids i think that is enough or u may say more than enough u r goin to start a family not an army, i guess. there should be a gap of more than 2 years btween the two kids........

I posted this one a couple of months ago...after friends of ours had their 9th (yes i said 9th) child - personally i think its crazy to have this many kids but eh, i dont have to pay the bills. Hubby and i have 2 girls as we didnt want to be out numbered by kids :-). I am an only child and found that to be rather lonely. My sister in law has 6 (4 biological ones that are older 17-24) and 2 adopted girls from china (1 & 4) and i wouldnt wanna do that either..... so i spose it is up to the individual...

There are so many factors to consider when planning your family. My hasband and I had decided how many kids to have before I got pregnant with my first. Age was our biggest deciding factor. I was 27 when we married and he was 28 In my opinion having children after 30 is not only risky but I like to consider what my age will be when when I have teenagers. The other factor for us was finances. I stand behind the theory that if you wait until you can afford children you never will but with that said a person has to consider things like dentists, and universtiy tuition. I have always thought 4 children was the perfect family (2 girls, 2 boys) but all the above reasons we chose to have 2. I have enough love in my heart for 100 kids but I also knew I wanted to be a stay home mom. 2 kikds is more offordable for my family and I'm able to follow my dream and stay home. I never have regreted that decision...God blessed me with a boy then a girl. I see large families and i wonder how much stress and ciaos must there be?

Doctors said to me once that the best age for women to conceive is between 24 to 30... sometimes 30 up takes a longer time to get pregnant. Ideal number of kids, i dont know if there is such. Personally, it will first depend on the two of you, how many can you raise in terms of providing their needs and most especially their education. If my husband can provide for all their needs and ours i would like to have 4 kids (2 girls and 2 boys). However if we are not sure if we can raise them having all their needs in life, then we will plan for 2 kids. For me having kids is GREAT and I LOVE KIDS, because I love kids i want them to have a GREAT future too. If you think you can raise 2 then thats ok, because you also need to be EMOTIONALLY agreeing to the number of kids you want. I hope you would have HEALTHY and BEAUTIFUL children in the "near future"? :P

I think it's a personal decision for each family. I stopped at three, but I had a lot of problems when I gave birth to my last one and the doctor told me that having anymore could endanger my life. I think too, it depends on finances. I find it sad when couples have a lot of children and the children go without the basic necessities. I understand that some couples have religious beliefs that they follow when it comes to having children, but when someone can't take care of them, then they should use common sense.

well children can be annoying but wat times you realize that you could never have enough of them. So basically i think that at time any is to many and other times there is never to many it all depends on the mood. But yes i would say i want about 3 because thats what i grew up with and it wasnt too bad.