Do you mind if your husband keep in touch with his ex-girlfriend?

My significant other and his ex girlfriend stayed in contact. She would phone him at Christmas and his birthday. She sent him a Birthday card for his 50th birthday. He never made the contact it was always her. I was jealous, of course, but there was a reason she was an ex. He knew it upset me but she was his friend so he wouldn't tell me when she phoned and it never went further than a phone call. They were friends and I knew it. She passed away last summer from cancer and he felt he couldn't come to me and lean on me in his grief because I was jealous. I felt so small and petty, I wanted to be there for him but after acting like such a child I could only tell him I was sorry. She was an avid gardener and his memories of her were in the garden, I plant seeds of her favorite flowers and let him have his silent memories of her. I would never again stand in the way of a friendship between him and an ex. He loves me and I trust him. Life is too short to be jealous and maybe I should have made an effort to be her friend not stop my man from being that friend to her when she needed friends the most.

If I had a husband, I honestly wouldn't mind.. unless he spent a lot of time with her. I don't care if he talks to her occassionally and sends her cards for her birthday or something. His ex-girlfriend was once a very important person in his life and they probably shared a lot of things so I don't think it would be reasonable to tell him to avoid all contact with her. I would want to meet her, though, but I wouldn't care if they still talked.

the wife's feeling foe her husband's behavior is the most important.if she cann't abide those things what her husband has done,she must tell her husband what you mind!

its all in my wifes hand..if she accecpt my frenship continous

i will surely tell my wife.......and wud say dont mind ab that..im always true to u....

It depends if the friendship is healthy or not. My boyfriend.has a few exes he still talks to but its friendship nothing.more, tjere is 1 or 2 that I talk to because they.are nice women. There was 1 I was happy he talkwd to because she tried splitting us up, even went as far as to call his.mom while we were together. He did block her on everything and ended the friendship.

If he were still in touch with his ex wife we'd have a serious problem but other than her i wouldnt care at all...so long as he wasnt trying to hide their communication from me I'd be fine with it...hell I'd probably invite her over for drinks LOL

I guess it will depend on how you really feel and can tolerate such acts. Although there's nothing wrong seeing them together for now. But since they do have a past those feelings might come develop back again sooner or later depending on how the are close to each other again. So I would say be cautious and watchful if these kind of relationship will continue on. I guess you have to air your concern over this matter so that your husband will be aware how you feel about it and maybe a compromise between you and your husband could be made so to minimize or diminish your anxiety over this matter.

There is no way that I would ever put up with my husband contacting and keeping in touch with his ex-girlfriend. There is no reason for it, especially if we are together now. I have been used by way to many men and cheated on by all of them who say that they are just friends with other girls. I think when a man and woman become married, then all attention should be paid pretty much towards each other. There is really no time or space left in between to go play around with buddies and friends all of the time. times have changed and if a couple does not stick together headstrong, than they will not make it very long, in my opinion.

Of course i mind. I don't know if i am confident enough. But i want my husband to consentrate on me and my daugthers only. Is that selfishness?

I would not accept this type of relationship keep ongoing between my husband and his ex-girlfriend unless they had a child together. This won't be a healthy relationship as it would give 'me' lots of suspicious why they need to be so closed.

i dont like it...

At very 1st instance it looks odd but if he and she are sharing a pure bond and the girl is friendly with me too and meets my husband in my presence too then i think i'll never have any problem.

no way!!!!

I wouldnt care for that at all. And you should put a stop to it. Its not fair to you. I would suggest you talk to your husband and tell him you dont agree with this.

It depends on actually. if they both have a stabil life and I know that there is nothing but friendship going on I wouldn´t mind as long as it doesn´t become toooo much. I am all for staying friends with your exes - but that doesn´t mean tat i want the 2 of them hanging out together, but a friendly chatt or something wouldn´t hurt me!