Are mothers over focussed on their children, so much so that they bore people?

Me too - I love my child so much he is on my mind every second of the day and yes I probably bore people too - but then when I listen to the general load of garbage that they find important who cares if I bore them. Different people have different interests - if I see a discussion I don't find interesting on mylot then I just don't respond. Being a parent is just the best thing in the world - just enjoy!!

I'm the same way...everything is about my kids. And I'm sure that I do bore the heck out of people because that's ALL I have to talk about. I never get to leave the house...I don't have any friends here since I just moved here...I have a boring life, sorry everyone!!:-) Housework and kids is all I got....

Yes, and not only that but they seem to consider that motherhood confers a disproportionately special set of rights on them, freeing them of all normal responsibilities of human interaction and conferring upon them absolute freedom. Yes, I know there is only one beautiful, gifted child and that every mother has it but I don't need it's achievements itemised in the minutest detail. Learning not to regurgitate your food is not sufficient criteria to select future world leaders! It has become a social taboo to criticise anything to do with parenthood but freedom walks hand in hand with responsibility. Mothers driving their 4 by 4 beomouths that never venture off-road the 0.7 miles to the local school to collect their child and then, since most are lacking in skill, blocking the road with bad parking and 273 point turns, argue that their child cannot walk or cycle to school because of the pollution! And no, I don't want to hear any bogus claims that it is too dangerous for children to walk, since this certainly isn't the case around here (Though of course I accept it may be true is some places) In a small Island with 2.5 times the average population density of Europe and a concentration of population in the South East, time to stop paying people to have babies. Let alone rewarding teenage girls that get pregnant deliberately to acquire council housing, a frequent occurrence. All the best urban all the best urban

I find that the same thing happened to me when I had my daughter. A good friend of mine was always pretty bored with all my talk about kid stuff.....then she had a daughter andguess what??? Wel, I think you know what happened next?

Talking endlessly about your children does not bore me. Even when ,,..ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzz...or where was I? Oh yea,..Tell us about those diapers again.

I am so guilty of boring people, my life is my son :) But I don't have any regrets for bragging, I just can't help it - it's like falling in love that you cannot fall out of. It's healthy though because love is a positive feeling, and to put drama into it, it's the only thing that matters. When everything else is gone, when everything else fails, only love remains. Once you have your child, the circle of life makes sense to you - this is all there is. This is it, soon I will be gone but let me brag to everyone I loved this much. :)

yaa its ok to care for the kids but in the process see also that your kids not doing anything that annoys others.

I am just like you. My whole world seems to centre around my kids these days. I think it is boring for other people who don't have kids. However as a mother I am interested in hearing about other peoples children. It is reassuring to me that they go through the same things as I do with my kids.

I am already a mother, and i dont have husband yet..But i guess, mothers are really focused to their child, because we are mothers. We love our child, that we dont want bad will happen to them. If were already parents, we love go to kids store, to buy stuff for them, sometimes, we do love watching kids show than our favorite tv shows. It's not boring, because me, myself, i'm having fun with my child. To do things with her and planning for her future..

Friends without kids, may find it boring . . . But wait until they themselves have thier first child, they will be the same way. Kids are so amazing, and when they accomplish something new, it's so exciting to you and your baby, you can't help but want to share it with everyone!, I've been known to pick up the phone to grandparents to tell about my baby's first roll, step, ect. You're not boring, you just have a new interest that doesn't involve your friends.

I was the last of my friends to have babies and I remember getting so bored with their conversations. I'm very happy that I sucked it up and kept them as close friends....now I can turn to them for advice. I'm as guilty as every other parent. 99% of my conversations (not as much online) are about my children. The last time my husband took me out for a date all we talked about was the kids. I just think when you're that proud..you deserve to boast !

There comes a time in our lives when our main focus is on our children. Raising children is one of the most important, and at times the most difficult undertaking a person can have to deal with. It is only natural that this intense focus must have an outlet. It is so much on your mind, that talking about your child allows a sort of release and confirmation that you are doing all the right things and raising your child properly. That is why it is so great when you are around other new mothers and you get to talk about your kids with no feelings of regret that you are boring the other person. As the kids grow older and are more able to fend for themselves, the protective mother instinct will abate a little and you will once again allow yourself to dwell on other topics in your everyday discussions. Much like the Canada Geese who spit and hiss at me when their eggs are hatching and their babies are small. As soon as the babies get to a certain size, they stop hissing!

I tend to be like that most of the time. Good thing is that most of the people I deal with are parents as well so it becomes an exchange of stories and sharing of new ideas.

Hey I cant wait to be a parent and have bragging rights on my kids but for now I just get to bragg about my lil cuzins and my baby neice. Also my mom is the biggest bragger Im suprised every one in the world dont know every thing about me and my little brother or at least know of us. Yeah just remember that there shuld be some mistery between your children and people they meet expecially people they like!!!!!

Just as you said, a person with no children probably can't relate to how you feel. I have a son who is 12, however, I can say when he was younger, being my first, I would talk about him all day everyday. Now that he's older, it really depends on who I'm talking to and what we're talking about. I have a couple of friends who are parents and talk about their children all the time. Especially the first time parents. I believe it just shows the unconditional love that a parent have for their child and express it moreso than others do. My son is always on my mind and I'm constantly thinking about my lil man, but I guess with age and and overtime, I don't overdo my conversations with all about my child. To each his or her own, I say if your child is something you wish to speak on all the time, by all means just shows that unconditional love you have. It doesn't bother me one way or another, Actually I enjoy some of the stories my friends tell me about their children or vice versa

Friends without kids, may find it boring . . . But wait until they themselves have thier first child, they will be the same way. Kids are so amazing, and when they accomplish something new, it's so exciting to you and your baby, you can't help but want to share it with everyone!, I've been known to pick up the phone to grandparents to tell about my baby's first roll, step, ect. You're not boring, you just have a new interest that doesn't involve your friends.

Yes, I do believe we need to hear some new issues that would let both childless and parents to relate to. Well, in behalf of those parents I guess we are just being true to ourselves because of course what else we could talk about but our own source of happiness which are our children. In that case I would also say not only source of happiness but source of all emotions there are.

Of course we over-talk our children! Our lives revolve around them. If it came down to saving yourself or your child of course, we would each choose to save the child. A baby is a life changing event, we can never look at things the same again. That's how it should be. I don't feel bad if I talk about my son and what he does, says, eats, laughs about, learns at school etc... My friends either get used to this or we don't need to talk.

True enough when you become a mother thats the only thing that matters anymore, or at least thats what it feels like. I've tried my best to make life the best for my son since he was born, its just natural. I think that when a mother and child have seen each other for the first time, a mother has an somewhat of a revelation. I didn't sleep the first night after I had my son, I was just so amazed that I created that little perfect being. Creating another person is the most fulfilling thing i've ever felt in my entire life, its just like being on a cloud at the top of the sky. Children are our lives future, they will decide what happens to us when we get old. So yeah we're going to want to talk about them twenty-four seven, they are our pride and joy its that simple.

Of course mothers are boring to other people. They are supposed to be. Its a mother's job to be devoted.