What was the Craziest Relationship You Ever Had?
By Writerbob
@Writerbob (572)
United States
March 29, 2007 10:33am CST
We all have skeletons in our closet that we would like to forget, especially when it comes to relationships. Mine was a two-month fling with a dancer that had commitment phobia, as in she couldn't commit to even show up for dates, and I wouldn't hear from her for days. It would be interesting to hear from other Mylotters about their crazy relationships, specifically through answering two questions:
1) Do you regret having this relationship?
2) Do you still think about them?
My answer is No for both. So c'mon and dust those skeletons out of your relationship closet!
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16 responses
@mypeace (393)
• Nigeria
29 Mar 07
Mine was having an intimate relationship with a playboy who never want anything good out the relationship. I met him through his big sister, she had wanted something serious between the two of us. Though I saw the handwriting clearly that the dude was for fun catching. But when I considered his age i.e about 38, l had taught he would like to settle,but I was wrong.
Yes, l regret ever meeting someone like him.
l think about him, in terms of regreting and cursing the day l set my eyes on him.
However, am alot better now, because l have a luvly dude around me now!
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@eden32 (3973)
• United States
29 Mar 07
When I first split up with my ex, I dated someone way way way too young for me. I was 27, with two children; he was 18 and just barely out of high school. I had been with my ex since I was 15 years old, and I think I just wanted someone to hang out with, without any BS hassles. He didn't have commitments (or a job for that matter!) or expectations. It was fun while it lasted, but I knew it wouldn't last long. I don't regret it. I run into him occasionally and we're friendly. I think of him in terms of I hope he's doing well but not in terms of I wish things had gone differently.
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@Writerbob (572)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I did the same thing after my first marriage, I was 34 and she was 18, there was definitely no future for that!
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@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I have a few of them, all of them lead me to find my soul mate. The one that is connected to always, would have to be my daughters deadbeat father.
He was gently and kind when we first met, but as soon as I got pregnant his true colors came shining through. I was 17 at the time, so maybe I didn't want to see it, and getting pregnant made me face up to how he truely was and is.
Do I regret the abusive relastionship, no because I have my daughter. Do I still think about him? At times, but not wishing I had him back. I think about how the goverment won't help me collect child support from him. I think about how he was 26 years old and got a 17 year old pregnant. I think about how wrong it is that I don't get any help financally from him. Though he works for himself and earns about $2,000 a week or more.
He is only ordered to pay $40.00 a week. Our daughter will be 11 in August and he has never paid any support. I think about how I have always taken care of my child, and have done it without any support, money wise or emotionally. I have done it myself, with out help from him or the government.
I wonder how cruel a man or woman must be, not to even send their child a birthday card that you can get for 50 cents at the dollar stores here in the US.
I think about how my daughter's father not being in her life might effect her in her life.
I also think about how lucky I am to have been able to be a strong enough person to be able to raise a child by myself, without the help of her father. Thankfully I no longer have to raise her by myself.
She has a wonderful step-father that is her daddy. My experiences lead me to him, without them, I may have never found him.
@Writerbob (572)
• United States
29 Mar 07
That was a heartfelt response, it is remarkable that we can open our hearts to love again after having that sort of treatment
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@perfectstranger (727)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 07
I have met this guy, I mean both of us have things that called "love in the first sight". But both of us have never met or know each other. But I don't know, this feelings grow really2 wild and I can't controlled it. I know he have same feelings and same situation like me, Somebody who close with him told me that, and I'm sure that's the truth...I know from the way he looks atme
But the craziest things is he never make a move until almost 2 years, ...that's crazy! I ever think that he lost that feelings, but he never going with someone else.
And the most craziest thing is ..I always wait him to make his move.
Until then he have enough brave to talk with me and not long, she told me his feelings and I told him my feelings too.
We both crazy!!
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Mine was having a really deceiving relationship with a guy who dumped me off for his ex-girlfriend right after our first monthsary.
Everything seemed to be pretty perfect in our relationship, and I remained clueless until he talked to me and tell me straight in my face that he's calling our relationship quits because he's still into his ex after all those times. Can you imagine that? That made me hate myself for a while, really.. thinking how stupid I have gone and how could he have laughed at my back.. eeerrrr
But good enough, I went through that storm of life not before too long. And thanks to my mom and friends who lent me shoulders to cry on.
Regretting it? of course not! am glad that happened coz if not, I would have not had a chance to meet my present boyfriend and know what is it to be really in loved and being loved back. I do believe that every time you stumble in a relationship, that leads you closer to your soul mate.
and still thinking about him? well, can't help it...lol i felt sorry for him coz I know it wasn't my loss but his.. lol
@Writerbob (572)
• United States
29 Mar 07
That's true! People are just following their hearts, I know, but the words that they use make people think that they are more committed to a relationship than they really are. Good post.
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@runner0369 (641)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I dated a guy in high school who was a jerk but always bought me presents so i stayed with him which is really shallow. I don't have regrets, I believe each experience you have can teach you something about yourself or about life and I think all experiences are important. I don't still think about him.
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@not4me (1711)
• United States
30 Mar 07
First of all I have a tendency to attract stalkers - I can think of three off the top of my head. but anyway, one of these stalkers started out as a seemingly nice and mature guy but he was in the Gulf War and apparently he has a serious case of PTSD. This was years after - about 1997 and he thought the government was spying on him. He was still in the Marines and was living in the Staff barracks. He swore up and down that everything from his phones to his VCR was tapped. This guy was a nut and as soon as he started mentioning this I ran from that relationship as far and as fast as I could. Actually the last straw was that same evening when I went to put some of his underwear away and in his drawer I saw about 20 sets of teddies - low and behold one of mine that I had "misplaced" was in there as well. He said he always kept one when he met a great girl who helped him out emotionally during his trying times. So ya, after that was when I fled.
So years later we were both stationed in NC but about an hour away from each other. One morning I woke up and looked outside to check on the weather and there was his SUV about 2 houses up from mine. I totally spazzed out, shut the door and locked myself inside for most of the morning. I didn't call the police or anything. I was kind of waiting to see what would happen. A couple hours later I looked out and his car was gone. Apparently he went back home but every once in a while I'd be at the local mall and I would see him and he would pretend like he didn't see me. I know this sounds childish but he was always by himself and there was a mall right by his base.
More years pass and I got married and had my first kid. Somehow he found out about this and found my military E-mail address and sent me this long E-mail asking how I was and he wanted me to send him a picture of my baby girl. Ya, right. I was about to delete the message when I scrolled down and saw about 5 pages worth of love letters between him and one of my female acquaintances at my base. We weren't really tight friends but we got along quite well. He had copied and pasted racy banter and pasted it at the end of the E-mail he sent to me which was a "Sorry let's be friends again" sort of message.
It creeped me out. I forwarded the message to my hubby (worked on my base of course) and we were all like WOW! I printed it out and walked over to the ATC maintenance department and showed this girl the E-mail. Of course there were no hard feelings and I went on a smoke break with her and told her my saga and to be wary of this nutjob. She was recently divorced and I didn't want her to make this loser her rebound guy. She of course was very thankful and apologetic at the same time, mostly because she was embarrassed.
My husband and I were both air traffic controllers and he and that other girl were ATC comm techs so we were sort of an inbred group in a small community. I say that because years later while we were in Japan my husband had to go to Pensacola, FL for the annual ATC conference at the ATC schoolhouse and then an advanced school. Stalker boy, now two ranks older happened to be one of the Comm Tech instructors over there. My husband had never met this guy before but he brought his name up and my heart went into my stomach. I turned evil. I wanted them to meet because my hubby knew the whole story. I actually wanted them to build up a rapport so he could get a looksie into his crazy mind but as it turned out they just were in separate areas of the building most of the time.
So for a relationship that technically lasted a month, it wound up haunting me for years. Oh and I did approach him one day about hanging out by my house that one day and he admitted it was him and he said he just didn't have the nerve to come up to me and talk. The kicker was I still have no idea how he got my address. I was living in the boonies at the time.
So that's the story about stalker #1. It's not too interesting written down - you really had to be there. I usually have great first instincts about men but the stalker types can really pull the wool over my eyes for some reason. So yes, I totally regret that relationship and I only think about him when he pops back into my life in one way or another, or when someone mentions crazy relationships haha. Sorry this was so long. I could have gone on much more about his craziness but I think you get the idea haha.
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@not4me (1711)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Haha thanks for that! I'm tired and my thoughts were all over the place. Now that you mention it, if I twisted it just right it could make for a great horror story lol. This was the most paranoid freak I had ever met. I'm glad I married a decent fellow after all that drama!
Thanks again for the best response. :D
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@Writerbob (572)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I'm rather proud that my post generated a mini-series, or at least an episode of Dateline. What a story! If I didn't give you "Best in Show" it would be a travesty - thanx for sharing!
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I have had so many crazy relationships with men. I dated a guy once that had a fear of working, seriously, he was a great guy to go to bars and drink but never worked a day in his life. Life was a party to him. I dated another guy that was a huge player and had a huge commitment issue, everytime we would get serious he would cheat on me and tell me, and the cycle would begin, we would have a horrible fight, break up for a day or two and then get back together, this went on for 3 long years until I had enough and left and never looked back. Yes, I think of him often, I am too loving of misguided men, so it is my fault in this regard. But I am thankful that I am in a normal relationship now.
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@Writerbob (572)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Fear of working LOL. Adailygrindaphobia?
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Back in high school I was at home when the phone rang. It was a girl wanting to make friends. Her voice sounded nice so I agreed. Before long we started saying "I love you" to each other, though we never saw each other or went out on a date. Crazy! It was over by the time I graduated from high school.
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@jigars (20)
• India
30 Mar 07
Hi writerbob . I Know relationship plays very important role in Life.Without relationship we cant stay.I think that you are lucky that she promised and did not came for date,otherwise your relationship would be more crazy.You would started thinking about her.you may fall in love also.I am in love with my friend but afraid to proposed her,because i think about my friendship then love . I may lose my friend also in such case,that's why i prefer to be her best friend.It is world best relationship for me.I cant forget her.I think about relationship but not much because i know it is not possible.Buy take care.
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@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I can't really forget the craziest relationship I had. It only lasted for only one week. It was so funny. I courted her for only 3 hours. It was my first time to experience that. It's because in most of my relationships, I courted them for months or so. From then on, I already prepared myself for the possible future of our relationship. I think, she was just flirting around. I don't know. We were really crazy for each other for our first 3 days as lovers. But when we met after 6 days of being together, she was so irritated. She was shouting at me without any reason. I can't understand her. She was making stories. I don't know where she got those. It was very frustrating on my part. When she was already silent and calm, I gave her a gift. To be exact, I gave her flowers. Those were amazing roses and tulips that I bought. But, I was shocked because she threw the bunch of flowers away. And she was insisting to go home. I can't understand. She fought with me for no reasons. She just went out of my house and said she'll just call me. I didn't expect her to call me. But she called me 3 days after the incident. I dumped her. It was really crazy.
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@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I got married when I was 18 and stayed married till I was in my late 40's....so my relationships are all recent and all from people I met on the internet. I have been approached by many...but when you eliminate the married ones and the too young ones it is easier...:}...the weirdest one was a 47 year old man that had an apartment in his brothers house because his parents told him that he had to live there.....I don't think I need to say much more.
@ordelisa (2)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
it would be my relationship with my first boyfriend, im so obsessed of him, before i used to prapare a notebook so i could write all his messages for me and days wont past without having conversation with him on the phone.. but till now although i already have my new boyfriend, he still remains in my and mind.