He thought it was funny!
By soccermom
@soccermom (3198)
United States
March 29, 2007 12:55pm CST
I'm at the office alone today. Before my boss left he made some goofy remark about"not flirting too much" with the guy who has a business next door. Our building is like a little community, and the gentleman next door comes over with lunch sometimes, and the UPS guy leaves packages for him here when he is not in. I do innocently flirt with this man (who's 61 by the way), as we're both easy going people. He came into my office today and said "Alone again huh?" and we chit chatted. He told me that I look tired today, and stressed. I said 'yeah, long night with the kids, lots going on here" and he said he was going to give me a back rub. I told him that wasn't necessary, but he came behind me and started rubbing my back anyway. I don't know if this makes a difference but he is a photographer and I let him take Demi Moore style nude pictures of me when I was pregnant with my son (hubby was all for it and these pictures are beautiful). Anyway, he's talking to me and rubbing my back and the next thing I know he reached down and started feeling me up! I told him to stop, that I was happily married and uninterested, he told me I gave him a woody, and there it was bulging through his pants! I kicked him out of the office. He did come back and apologize, and I accepted his apology and made it clear that I wouldn't tolerate those kind of advances again. When my hubby called on his lunch break I told him what had happened. He started laughing and made some joke about bring ing joy into an old mans life! I can't believe he thought this was funny! i didn't expect him to go beat the guy up or anything, but am I wrong for expecting him to be a little upset?
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@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
29 Mar 07
It just shows that your husband is so secure of his place in you and he trusted you. A big PLUS is that this old man, he doesn't see it as a threat. If it was 30 years younger guy, definitely he will beat that guy into pulp. Probably that is why he was was joking about it. Also he knows the guy coz he took pics of you. But I know deep inside, the next time he saw this guy, he will give him a warning look because your husband knows that these days even if you know people, you don't know what they are up to. And probably this old guy will feel guilty that he will show his face less at your office.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
23 Apr 07
lady, I gave you best response because you hit the nail on the head! My hubby did see him, and gave him the "look". LOL Unfortunately, the guy isn't showing his face less at the office.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 07
Well Ihave to say that I do not understand your Husband there at all as yes I would have expected him to be a bit upset to
It was not a Laughing Matter and I know what my Guy would have done. He would not have beaten him up but he would have been upset and angry
I think I would talk to him for that one. This could have turned out nasty.
I am sorry you had to go through this and no support from your Husband either.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
You might take this as a very high complement from you husband, as he knows and accepts the flirting with others, he is so confident that you are only doing harmless flirting that he would never consider you breaking a trust. this my dear is most uncommon in a couple, generally this would cause a lot of fuss and bother, and again it was all done harmlessly. You see he has you and he knows that others may look but you will remain faithful only to him. Trust like that is to be treasured. not upset with.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I guess I never thoughtof it that way Robin. Thank you. I've always been somewhat of a flirt, and he's always found it to be amusing. After all he knows I'm only interested in him. You're right, trust like that is to be treasured.
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@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Is this the same guy who makes comments about "hearing" your boss's affair?? Man, soccermom, your workplace sounds like a soap opera, LOL. Somehow the iamge of a 61 year old dude saying you're giving him a woody is making my stomach turn, LOL. Please tell me this guy is not married too! He knows you are, so that was VERY uncool on his part. Your hubby sounds very understanding and obviously he knows this guy is not someone he should be worried about. I have to say, soccer, your life is never dull, that's for sure!
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Yep, it's the same guy! you'd think for a 3 person office, all of us not working over 30 hours a week and hardly seeing each other there wouldn't be so much drama! LOL This guy isn't married. He grew up in Holland, and he may be 61 but he has the attitude of a liberal 20 something. I wish my life was dull, just for a day. Maybe if I'd start keeping my mouth shut, stop volunteering for stuff, and stop being so darned friendly to people!!
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@jchampany (1130)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Aww, come on, then you would be on here complaining about how bored you are. You know you like the excitement in your life. Besides, what would we have to read about if your life were as dull as mine?! lol.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Yeah, ya know, If I started keeping to myself I'd probably go nuts! I had a friend once that said I should have my own reality show, even my mom says only this kinda stuff happens to me! The stories I could tell....LOL
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@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I would go hit him if you were my wife.
Thats the correct response.
He just tried to feel you up, didn't check first, and you are married.
Deserves one medium strength punch, not to remove teeth, just a black eye maybe. Make him have to explain how and why he got that.
@soccermom (3198)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Paulnet, it's a real story, I don't make stuff up here just to get responses. My hubby is pretty great, I am lucky lady!
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I'm sorry but I found it funny as well. What can you expect he knows your hidden charms and made his day.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
30 Mar 07
My hubby has been picking on me (in a fun way) about this all night! He seems to be very curious about old men and "wood". LOL And I have to admit it was kinda funny when he told me I was giving him a woody, especially since I was telling him off! No harm done anyway, and I'm sure it'll be worth laughs for years to come.
@jchampany (1130)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Well, you can take it two ways really. One you could say he doesn't care and that's why he wasn't upset. Which I don't think is the case here. Or you can say that he loves you and trusts you so much that it was funny to him. He could see how you gave the guy a woody because he probably gets a woody when he looks at you too. lol. The fact that you told him and seemed upset about it to your hubby is another reason why he probably found it funny. I don't think that he is wrong for laughing. Just thought of it different than you would.
@denden (802)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I think guy view that incident as funny because they also did it for fun.And to us woman it is unusual incident and can make us angry when some guys do that to us. i think the guy is just thinking that you like him and you will also like what he did.
@ginagee (843)
•
30 Mar 07
It sounds like you have a good husband at least he didn't start accusing you of having starting something with this guy!! He obviously is secure with you and that's really good plus very rare to hear of these days but I do understand what you're saying, you would have liked him to show more support for you by being angry. Well I guess you can't have it all!! Maybe you should've been more assertive in saying no to this guy rubbing your back and then the problem wouldn't have happened, too late now obviously but if it happens again, don't let anyone touch you who shouldn't touch you, however friendly they appear. Anyway I'm sure that if your husband thought you needed defending he would be straight round there and do something about it, he obviously has a lot of faith in you.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I wouldn't take too much stock in it. Your husband is probably not a jealous man and trusts you in situations like that. Not that those situations come along every day! But, I think that reaction is much better than the one where he comes stomping down to your place of work and beating the old guy up! He probably takes it as a compliment that his wife is attractive to other men, and you probably did bring a little joy into the older mans life. Although, the kind of joy he was having was totally inappropriate! I would be more concerned about the mans behavior than anything. I can't believe he did that! If that were my fiance, he would have done the same thing. In his younger year though, I had a similiar experience and he came down like a tornado and went looking for this guy at my place of work. It was not a pretty sight and was very embarrassing. So, thank your lucky stars that he has a sense of humor. LOL
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@smyers52000 (37)
• United States
30 Mar 07
You have every right to be upset. From the female point of view that is an awful thing and violating. I think from the male point of view nothing really happened because of the age of the man. I think my husband would of done the same thing. Your husband is probably secure in your relationship and he knows nothing is going to happen with the 60 year old man. Now if it was a 25 year old attractive man the whole situation would be different and your husband probably would of beat him up.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
29 Mar 07
One good thing is that your husband really trusts you, and trust is always good in any relation.
However i would also want my bf to get alittle upset - but like u said - not go and beat him up, bu tstill be alittle disturbed by it.
I do not think that it is something you need to worry about though!
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
29 Mar 07
You know what that says about your husband? That he TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY trusts you!!! That's fabulous!! My husband would of went to beat him up (how childish)...I commend your husband. I wish mine were like that!
I can understand you wanting him to be a little upset. But, hey he's a guy with something (you) that another man wants, that's a great thing to them even if it's an older man! He's probably on cloud 9, lol
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
That's awful. You do have all reasons to be upset with your husband. But you did kind of flirted with the photographer before, maybe he just got the wrong message, at least he apologized and I hope nothing like this happens to you again.
Maybe since this is the case, that you sort of flirted with this guy your husband thought that the photographer was just kidding since it seemed that you were both comfortable with each other, so your husband took no malice in it. However, even if that's the case- If i was in your position, I would sure be upset that my husband will find an incident as that funny.
@Niro314 (18)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I can't say i would expect him to be upset. I would think he would be a littlem desturbed, but that's it. It's rather obvious that HE thought you where interested at first. He realised he was wrong, and felt bad.
I wouldn't laugh at the sittuation, as it woukld make me to uncomfortable, but your laughing husband may have a differing sence of humor then mine.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
My husband is a wonderful man and very secure in our marriage, but he would have been pissed. Of course because I am his wife, but also because he has a strong issue with men feeling like they can do what they want when it comes to women. I don't know a man in my life that would feel an advance like that was even possible. He would have thought that was just about the most disrespectful thing that could have been done.
