Do You Have Friends You Like But Cant Tolerate Their Kids

Fortunately my friends all seem to have children that behave quite well. Then again I am not that strict with my children. I do let them be children and sometimes their behaviour is a bit wild. However they do know how to behave in shops and if they are naughty will do as they are told if I ask them. I think you are doing the right thing by avoiding the situation and just seeing your friend at home or other places other than shopping.

I used to hang around with someone like this and it bothered me just because I love all children and no matter what I just couldn't make myself like her daughter . It is not that the daughter was bad she was just always around and would ask a billion questions and if you wouldn't answer her she would start saying your name repeatedly until you told her to stop and then she would start all over again with something else . I no longer hang out with the friend as she proved to be a not very good friend , she proved herself to be very untrustworthy when she ran off with over three hundred dollars I had length her and some of my stuff not to mention she was stealing from one of my children , which was even worse . Now I know why the daughter could be annoying with a mother such as her .

i have a friend exactly the same, but worse she laughs when her daughter is naughty, and then gets mad when someone says stuff to her. im still friends with her, but i just organise to see her when the kid at school.

When my kids were younger I used to be friends with a lady who's son was a terror. He was part of the group of neighborhood kids that my kids would play with and he would hit my kids (and other kids) at times, break some of their toys and act out in all sorts of ways. I felt bad for my friend because she was a single mom and trying her best to keep things together for her and her son. I also felt kind of bad for her son because he was obviously troubled, but she would never hear a word against him. The couple of times I mentioned his hitting, she would act very offended and hurt so I just stopped bringing it up anymore and eventually had to lay down some ground rule,one of them being that he wasn't allowed to play in our house anymore. When the kids started going to school, her son would walk to the bus with my oldest son and eventually my son told me that her son was kicking him and cursing at him at times on their walks to the bus. When I told her,in as kind a way as possible, that my son didn't want to walk with her son to the bus anymore and explained why she again got upset and after that her attitude toward me cooled quite a bit. Eventually she moved to another state but I feel bad that our friendship was effected by this. But most of all I hoped that her son would get some help because he had some serious problems.

Yes, I do. There is this couple that me and my guy like to hang around sometimes, but they have these two kids, that are always screaming, and hitting and just have no idea about how to act at someone else's house. My son will start to act up with them, too, and It is harder for me because I have to correct them all. and the parents dont even pay attention to them, like as long as their playing its ok, like using my son as a babysitter, my son is 3, theres are 2 and 1, and I have a 6 month old daughter. They are constantly sick, and everytime they are around my kids, my son gets sick...They always show up unannounced sometimes at 9:00 at night, right when I put my son down to sleep and then these two kids come trampling in and there is no way I can keep him going to sleep with all of that,...well, I guess you started a rant in me...=) sorry about that. Guess I needed to vent on that subject! Thanks for that discussion !

Yes she is one of my best friends and her son is so unbearable it isnt even funny. He doesnt mind for anything and he doesnt wanna listen because he doesnt have to because she doesnt enforce anything. I refuse to go out with her anymore because ic ant stand the looks that we get when he doesnt act right.

Isn't that the worse thing in the world to have?!! I had a situation like there too, where I loved the time me and my friend spent together but her daughter was so strange and annoying. My kids couldn't stand the girl either and basically if they visited, since she was the same age they obviously had to play with her. In the end she was such a freak she drowned our turtle in ice cold water and that was the last straw for me. I told her she was no longer allowed in my house and obviously her mother heard from her. It's sad because the friendship ended because of the kid but the mother was always making excuses for her actions, as if it was ok then. Just as hard, when you love your friend.. hate their spouse or "significant other". LOL Just about as hard!

I can´t say that i do and i would hate the situation if it was like that. i mean - you should be able to go shopping with a friend witout having to worry about her kids. U say that she doesn´t take critisism very well and that probably means that she is aware of the fact but don´t know how to handle it.

luckily i dont have friends children that are so unruly when out in groceries...and if ever i have maybe i will not accompany her if her children goes with here too...like you i dont want to hurt her ..or maybe if she really thinks that im her bestfriend she could accept any constructive criticism i may give to here...its what friends are for..what do you think

i dont have friends who have kids that are misbehaving badly in public..and i think kids are always like that when still young trying to get others attention when outside their home...since were much older and matured we must understand them..

I actually have a neighbor who I can't tolerate her child and the way she treats him. He has no respect for her and there was alway a problem with anytime my kids played with her one. I finely had enough and I don't evan associate myself with her any more. Our kids sometimes play together outside,but that's it!

yes! oh my goodness yes! i thought i was the only one. i have a friend who has 2 kids and they are so wild and loud. it drives me crazy becuase they are big kids already. they should know better! whenever we go to their house to visit, those two kids are practically jumping off of the walls and screaming their heads off. they are constantly physically fighting and swearing at eachother. the mom just sits there with a smile and thinks it cute. i sit there gritting my teeth thinking "no way! i am NOT going to let that kind of behavior go on in my house". it drives me even more crazy when we invite them over to our house. we have a 17 month old son. he is still very small in size and yet these two kids run and push him without even thinking that they could knock him over. they grab all of his toys and push the buttons and bang them around like wild children. once again, the mom just smiles. they will find a ball and start to throw it in our house! i am the one who has to make the stop to it. i take the ball and sit on it or keep it next to me. they sit there whining that they are bored without the ball. i am convinced that they wont be satisfied until they break something. yes, they sure do drive me crazy.

yes i have a friend like that...i no longer go places with her or invite her to my house(something always ends up broken)...i only see her on lunches or if the kids are with their father...

well i have many good friends but i am annoyed with there kids

No none of my friends has kids, but I do have cousins whose kids make their visits intolerant. I'm naturally a person who doesn't like to mix up with people so quickly, and then these kids come up and try to act all frank and friendly, spitting here and there on the carpet and messing up with things that aren't their business. I just hate them!

sometimes, children behave badly just to take others' attention and care. actually, you should ask your friend to go to the psycologist. Good luck and be more patient. GBU

yes, we are one of you also, we can only to avoid with them shopping or to tolerate that situation. If u critised in right manner or to correct them u should lose them.

Yes this happens in this world.Somebody loves his friend but hates his children. I felt that situation too but we should bear that situation and should love all the children like our children.We can solve the problem to try to discussing with the friends but we can.

You know what??? I DON'T LIKE KIDS ... PARTICULARLY OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS .... AND THAT'S WHY. I could barely tolerate my own. But unlike many others, I have the guts to say so. I've been saying it for 30 years now. Sorry, but there's no excuse other than L-A-Z-I-N-E-S-S on the PARENTS' part for children to be rude and uncivilized.