what is your opinion about absent parent to pay the child support agency w ... ?

There is never any reason for a parent not to support their child. If there are issues of money, such as the custodial parent is not ensuring that the money is being used for the child's needs, then other arrangements can be made, and this can be done through legal means. If the custodial parent actively works at destroying a relationship between the other parent, then this to me is a form of child abuse, mental and emotional, and should also be addressed as such, and actions taken, legal actions against the parent who is using, and abusing their child in this manner. This abuse does not give the parent who is not the custodial parent the right to stop providing for his / her child. It is unfortunate that parents use their children as pawns, that they do nto love their children enough to care about what is best for them. I know of a man who sends the support, and has learned that the ex didn't always spend it on the children, in which case I think he should have taken actions, but it is hard to prove. I know of another parent who has not had the opportunity to see his son as often as he would like but has continued to support his ex, and child. He is going to let the courts deal with this lapse on the part of his ex, rather than take it out on his son, by denying him those things he may need to live. I know of other instances where this has happened, and the parent who is supposed to send support doesn't, this only adds fuel to the fire when going to court, for visitation, because the custodial parent will say if he/ she cared then why don't they provide for their child? Unfortunately to often this argument and debate gets back to the children, and they are the ones who suffer. People who choose to have children, need to take a look at themselves and face their responsiblities, this means the material, and emotional needs of the child. The parent who doesn't provide child support is showing neglect, the parent who actively promotes discord between their child and the other parent, is showing emotional neglect and abuse, both parents are at that time not fit and need couseling, and need to stop mistreating their child. One man said to me once, "well she won't let me see my kid" I argued, every get into a fight or disagreement with anyone? they said yes, so I asked, ok "how did you use your child as a weapon against that person" They were outraged by the suggestion of using their child as pawn or weapon in a fight against someone, I pointed out that they were doing that now, with the child's mother. Gave the man something to think about. Yet others disagreed with me. Ask the kids look at the emotional and mental state of kids going through that kind of thing, unfortunately I am right on this one.

I think it's a stupid ideea!

My parents divorced when I was 2. My biological father dissapeared when i was 3 and a half. I have never heard from him since. I have actually tried to track him down a couple times since becoming an adult. I am now 26. Every time i get close, i get scared and back off because i don't know if i want a low-life like that in my life. even if its only to get the 16 years of child support thats' owed. it's a double edged sword. I wish I had an answer. The money would be great, but do i really want to open myself up to being let down again. at least the first time, i was too young to really be hurt. it's only as i have gotten older that the hurt has really settled in. I truly believe that the absent parent is responsible for the money and should be required to pay it, but that's only in a perfect world.

i think its sad when a father doesnt want to take financial care of his kids or to see them. anything that has to with the government takes for anything better to happen and is a mess all the way around.

i think child support should be paid no matter what...i also believe the parents should not talk down the other parent to the children...they have enough to handle without being put in the middle of adult fights...my ex currenty owes me 29,000...dont think i'll ever see it

just sucks

i think the legislators have thought about the pros and cons of a certain laws to be approved or ammended...if its on the disadvantages of the children they will not approved it...but since they did..i think its for the best of both parents and the children..however i think still the parents have the right to visit or something..is it the financial issues that are being focus here??elaborate plss

The absent parent should always have to pay support. It's sad that some parents pollute the minds of their children about the absent parent but I don't really know what can be done about that. Absent parents should still pay regardless. My children's father is absent but I never bad mouth him. Of course he has no interest in seeing them and they don't even really know who he is. They're young... but someday I'll have to answer their questions about him but I won't do it in a mean way because my kids need to make up their own mind about their father.

some people that have to pay support really gets the shaft on it. My boyfriend has to pay support and his ex really runs him over the coal every chance she gets and he always pays on time. but for me my ex only pays when he want to and now my kids are all over 20 and now the state is takeing him to court to make him pay back support to me and he owes me now 10,000.00+ in back supprot and he has to pay me 200.00 a week til it is paid but he was in prison for three years and he thinks that while he was there he should not have to of paid and I told him that the kids still grew while he was locked up.

Never is there a reason for an absent parent to not at least financially support the child. How many absent parents blame their ex for the reason they don't see their child? Probably 99.9% of them and that's because they are too cowardly to admit that they just don't care. It doesn't matter what is going on with the parents....the absent one should pay the support. How could someone think that they should be able to get out of their financial, parental, and moral obligation of child support just because their ex is saying bad things or trying to disrupt things. "she's mean to me & talks about me to my kid" "So I don't see my kid because it bothers me" "So, I don't have to pay"? Both male and female absent parents need to grow up. And if you keep having babies that you can't or won't support - maybe you should get fixed! LOL ;-)